By now you all must have been fully aware of the intimate video of Namrata Shrestha and DJ Tantrik that leaked out on Sept 20, 2009.
When a news like this breaks out, curiousity grips every mind. One wonders if it is really true, and what is really in it, or how bad was it. One gets the urge to see it to believe it. No wonder then that the name is googled over and over again, the video itself did spread like a wildfire.
Needless to say, the video was pretty shocking. The act itself was not that shocking, but the context - an aspiring Nepali actress who had just made a big name and received recognitions for her role in movie "Sano Sansar" was videotaped with a married man. How stupid was that? How wrong was that? Why did they do it, and then film it? How must DJ Tantik's wife have felt? All these questions and many more probably jumped to everyone's minds and I guess we all have to come to our own conclusions.
But one question that really stuck with me for a long time is - Is she going to be ok during and after all this?
Having spent to teenage years in Nepal before heading to the US, I have a pretty good understanding of what dignity means in a Nepali society, and how it is so vastly different from that in western countries. Yes Nepali models have been pretty bold lately in photographing to sexual poses, and yes Nepali movies have been creating suggestive scenes for actresses in them for a long time but our society has not come to a point where a person's character and social standing is not severely shattered due to even slight negative sexual innuendoes. Shame is a word that has gone out of dictionary in the west, but it still holds a special meaning in our society. And my god, this is as bad as it could get for Namrata.
But she did it to herself, you might say. She is no angel but a vain home wrecker and she should take full responsibility for her actions, you might add. And I agree with you, this is bad. But, having her dignity sprawled over the world is not a punishment she deserved. There are many people who make poor decisions, wrong decisions, senseless decisions, but do they really deserve to be utterly humiliated like this? And even if you think this was a right response, think about it in the context of Nepali society. What if it was someone you knew or was someone you cared about? After all, she is also someone's daughter and someone's sister. How would they be feeling right now?
With that in mind, my dear fellow countrymen, I have a humble request. In the name of the nepali pan that binds us, and for the respect we have for our values and culture, lets stop spreading this mud any more. Lets stop shaming a Nepali sister in front of the entire world. She made a mistake and has learnt a really hard lesson. Lets do the right thing on our part. Lets stop posting this video on the internet and take down the ones out there already. Its probably a lost battle by now but at least lets walk on the right path. Lets spare her of any more misery.
After all, as 1974 AD pointed out: "Yo man ta mero, Nepali ho!"
Looks like the guy, DJ whatever, did betray her trust. that OR someone got access to his cell phone vids and posted them.
whatever the case, private matters such as these shouldn't be leaked, but tell that to the person who holds the information (or video). There are plenty of people who watch porn, and a handful of them even venture as far as recording them in the act, but not for everyone's eyes.
As for the morality of the subject, who are we to judge?
I hope she doesnt do anything destructive to herself after this event.
"Someone got hold of his cellphone and posted the video" this is the funniest shit ever...you really think that a married man keeps a video of having sex with another woman in his phone??????
Who are we sympathizing here? Namrata or the dude??? do we know which one of them released the video??? I am not sympathetic to either the dude or the girl. Everyone gotta live with the consequences of their actions
"you really think a married man keeps a video of having sex with another woman in his phone".............. SO THAT HE CAN POST IT ON THE FRIGGING INTERNET AND LET EVERYONE INCLUDING HIS WIFE KNOW THAT HE JUST BANGED AN ACTRESS?
pretty funny stuff, i agree with you there buddy. go wash your hands..
Guys let me say one thing NON OF US ASK NAMRATA TO HAVE SEX WITH A MARRIED MAN AND TAKE THE VIDEO AND LET IT KEEP ON HIS OR HER CELL PHONE.
And cardinal brother why you are trying to make us emotional taking our sisters name? we didn't capture that video , go and tell namrata and that guy that WE ARE NEPALI , Our culture our society doesn't let us to do such activity, having sex with other's husband and specially recording it on video. Brother, there are some moments in our life which must be done private. but she was exposing herself as like normal movie so its her fault.
You don't have to right to blame us, nepali people . if that was happened in any other country its would be the same .
And someone in upper thread says why we are blamming Namrata! haha , thats funny dude. She shud not forget that she is nepali girl. I even don't know the real name of the guy in video , all i know is her so we are taking his name , and if she was normal girl than this would not be such big issue , go and watch some indian porn sites there are hundreds of porn video of nepali but nobody talk about that becoz simply we don't know them .
Do you guys ever visit Cybersansar.com ? Did you notice the NICE photos of nepali models? Whom will you blame visitors or the company like cybersansar who like to selll naked photos or the girl who will be naked in front of camera for modeling?
So before blamming someone like us you better told models like Namrata to be in boundry of nepali culture and society.
Nepali ma yeuta ukhan yad ayo AAFNAI CHORI NAKHARMAULI TANNERI LAI DOS!!!
u are absolutely right. thats her personal life and we shouldn't be bothering her. but she is also a public figure and i suppose she is a ideal person for the whole nation and that bothers me. sex is a natural thing and it is good to do it but why the hell they have to capture it. NAMRATA,"i understand its yr life and u had sex but WHY THE HELL U CAPTURED THE VIDEO". i am not saying u are wrong(without regarding mr. asshole's(DJ) wife) but u act stupidly..... ohhhhh god......
If you are bold enough to video record screwing a married man with children you should be bold enough to face the consequences as well.
Take it from Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian, they both seem to prosper a lot through their sex video. It was just one more man's dick and not the end of the world.
And for all the others who try to hide the crap in the name of Nepal and Nepali, quit being so emotional. Have you noticed how many porn sites has that video already. I wonder if it was done in purpose. There could have been a huge price tag on the video and it could have been made with or without Namrata's knowledge to sell it for the big bucks.
साँच्चै, नम्रता के नेपालमै हुर्केकी हो? कस्तो मन परेको केटासँग यौन संबन्ध राख्दा पनि अँग्रेजी मा बोल्न परेको? बोल्दा अँग्रेजी, हान्दा अँग्रेजी पाराले , विडियो खिच्दा अँग्रेजी सब अँग्रेजी पारा छ । ह्याँ कार्डिनल चाँही 'नेपाली चेली , दिदी बहिनी लाई जे पायो तेसो नगरौँ' भन्छ ,के हो के हो। हिजो सम्म आफुलाई गरीब गुरुवा नेपाली नठान्ने हरु ले आज अचानक नेपाली कल्चर को दुहाइ दिएको जस्तो भएन र? बरु, कुन यौटा मोडेलले जस्तो एक दुई महिना भिक्षुणी भएर बिताए गुह्य तत्व संसारको बुझ्थिन कि?
It's then clear that she considered herself very modern.. speaking in English while conducting romantic talk and acts in Nepal is truly reflective of her attitude. To her, this probably means modernization..
I m offered a Job in Bank in Nepal, should i go back ?
यसरी मेरो कुमारत्व गुमेको थियो
Can my company file for EB3 as a skilled worker if I have 2-3 years experience?
Is it possible to file Green Card without H1b if the company is willing to do that?
Will MCC be a defining moment in Nepal’s existence?
नेपाल को केटी कि अमेरिका को केटी बिहेको लागि
Dr. Fauci न टोक्नु न बोक्नु भएको छ ट्रुम्पलाई
दीपाश्री निरौला चरम depression मा।
अन्डरवेयर को मृत्यु भएको दिन
I think Parash Shah did durbar hatyakanda.
Hpw to bring huge sum of money from Nepal to US
KP Oli's rebellion against Delhi
साम्राज्ञीले दुर्ब्यबहार भयो, भन्दा भुवन केसिलाइ किन रिस उठ्यो ??
TPS to green card
loose हुन्छ रे हो ?
A scientific reason for Nepal's failures
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