Frieds, well, I don't know whether my problem is strange or not, but whatever it is, it's a big problem for me. I have sought help from everyone! EVERYONE! But no one could help me. I hope at least you Sajha guys will help me. I live in the US, I got married one and a half year ago. My wedding took place in my country, I was there for three months. I am still a virgin. I am just too scared of having sex for the first time, I just cannot tolerate the pain. I am like dying on that time when my husband tries to enter his thing. So, I wasn't able to have sex, than i came back to US, my husband was still there, I didn't go there because of the fear of having sex. He got his visa 5 months ago, now he's here. But I am still unable to have sex with him. The some old story, scared of having sex, hurts a lot, not even trying. We tried one time when I was in my country, and it hurt like hell, so I pushed him back, and after that I am even scared of trying. I went to gynecologist, she told me there's no problem inside, you just have fear of having sex. But she still wanted to make sure, so she wanted to exam me, she wanted to enter tampons but I was just too scared! I told her if I can let you enter tampons than why wouldn't I let my husband enter his finger or his thing. It's not that I am only scared of his thing, I am scared or ANYTHING! So gynecologist doesn't helped me that much. I asked my friends, my sister, my cousins, my mom, I used Lubricant ( K-Y jelly), I did everything but nothing helps me forget that it hurts. I just can't relax my muscles tighten down there. I can't really describe what it's like' but its just like uncomfortable feeling. My husband loves me a lot, that's why he waited so long, but now I really wanna give him this, it can destroy our marriage life, I am scared one day he will leave me. And he's not that type of person who will have sex with some other girl, he's still a virgin. Please Friends, help me! I went everywhere, I tried everything, I talked about it with everyone, I used anything, but I stupid just cannot relax my self or feel horny on that time. Everyone told me to relax you're self, that's what I can't do, and that's why I am here asking you. Please don't disappoint me. P.S. Does being drunk help you feel relax? I never drink as I am a Nepali girl, hate drinking, but if drinking helps, I will drink. Sorry if the question is too long. Thanks! Last edited: 04-Mar-09 03:58 PM Last edited: 04-Mar-09 03:59 PM Last edited: 04-Mar-09 03:59 PM Last edited: 04-Mar-09 04:01 PM
jhilkeJetho · Mar 4, 2009 3:55 PM · 40,540 views
Its funny the way you tried to defend yourself saying you were Sad girl. Sad girl in santa banta.com on june 2008 said " I live in the US, I got married one and a half year ago." " He got his visa 5 month ago" You on march 2009 say " I live in the US, I got married one and a half year ago." " He got his visa 5 month ago" Seems like time has not changed.
no_quiero · Mar 5, 2009 9:22 AM
Dear Jikle i m sorry for your husnband. My Suggestion: Try to love eachother- by heart (if not divorce) Figure out wheather u r lesbian or not(if yes let your husband free to do sex with other) Try too love and respect yr and husbands body, enjoy playing body of eachother, forget about penetration , enjoy by kissing, hugging, sucking/licking-oral sex, did u try oral, may be licking clit. will work little to u. if u do not have sex desire at all- try to sex therapist, consult w/ Sexologist/psychologist if u have desire in other time. try to control penetration activities on you so that there will be no fear of forceful penetration by your husband, try little n little , make sure u r in top, rub penis to yr clitoris, let him lick , use lubricants, spit, let him suck yr nipple/ear/etc, try to penetrate upto yr interest and increase it every day, If penis of your husband is too large n yr vagina is too small, try for other partner? last option, get drunked/ let yr husband rape u., mentally prepare for little pain. c'mon girl think pain is associated with pleasure?
dbst · Mar 5, 2009 10:22 AM
thanks no_quiero . this jhilkeJetho is a gay.
target2green · Mar 5, 2009 10:32 AM
Thank you guys for your answers.
jhilkeJetho · Mar 5, 2009 11:39 AM
@Mr.Hyde: Thats one of my favorite clips! lol.. @dbst: Right on! thats what he/she needs. In the end one can always turn celibate in the name of religion. I mean if we can bar ourselves from eating meat (which is killing other animals) in the name of religion, we can surely bar ourselves from killing billions of our future selves!
dekchidriver · Mar 5, 2009 12:33 PM
i do not know what to suggest you, but i am quite surprised that your husband is still with you? There's something fishy! com'on spill the beans, what's going on there? Being a man, i can guarentee that if ther's no man who can wait that long without having sex with his wife has to be a " roughside putter" or he is sleeping with someone else or possibly your own sister, Period. The whole story sounds bogus anyway!!! why the BigFish we 'r wasting time.
HomeBoi · Mar 5, 2009 12:54 PM
I think this is a scam. all the person wants is fool everyone in sajha, increase number of hits both for the thread and his personal profile.
notavailable · Mar 5, 2009 1:30 PM
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