Facebook Demeanour

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Today, I stopped scrolling my Facebook homepage as I stumbled across my younger sister’s friend’s status. It read “I still love my ex ”. And for a while I was dumbstruck at what my eyes were sighting and meanwhile I couldn’t help but let out a cackle. I, however, lowered my intensity of volume when my roommate gazed at me with a “Are you insane?” look. I re-entered the Facebook world and pictured in my mind, my little sister, who is just in the verge of stepping in the teen years. Though thankfully, she hasn’t Facebook-ed about her speedy transformation into an adolescent yet it made me wonder if these girls are growing up too fast or are they socialising too much? Well when I was thirteen, I used to sack my bag to the corner as soon as I returned home from school and glue my eyes to the television screen until dinner. Cartoon network and the most awaited Mumin, every Wednesday evening. “You’ll diminish your eyesight this way”, my mother used to advise me for the umpteenth time and my result of turning deaf ears towards her burdened me with short-sighted glasses for life. Now returning back to the Facebook freaks...we all have these annoying people in our friend lists, don’t we? Someone who changes profile picture every 8 hourly as if it were some medication to be taken three times a day. Someone who even posts the picture of food they’re about to have…or the so called “King/Queen of selfies” without concerning how bad the picture turns out. Or this other one, who posts about every activity he/she does throughout the day…as if we’re waiting for their mundane details. Then this friend who checks in at every expensive restaurants and shopping malls while only God knows if they really made it up to there. Oh and this one who likes every update about everyone…even our Candy Crush activity. Lol. Yesterday, I saw someone like the page “I Hate The Sun” and I was like “Really, you hate something that provides us brightness? You must be pretty sick then”. Those love-blinded couples who scribble each other’s wall with “I love you, baby” or “Can’t wait for our date tonight” notes. Seriously?  If you love each other so much, why should the world know about it? Go get some life. Then this bewildered, despondent old friend who never has a sunshine update…and thinks the Facebook wall is his tissue paper. Also this desperate womanizer whose existence gives you goose bumps…or this misogynist whom you no wonder loathe like hell but still manage to tolerate his jiggery-pokery rambling your homepage. Do you have your teachers on your friend list too? Then you know how carefully you’ve got to interpret your every move before pressing that enter button. Basically my teacher has once caught me lying about an undone assignment. He was like “You’ve got plenty of time to cross these many levels in Farm Heroes but none for the study” and I was like LOL. He made me write an apology letter. So if you ask me, NEVER-EVER accept your teacher’s friend request. And half of the friends on your list are those whom you see every day but have never talked to each other outside the virtual world that Mark Zuckerberg created for us…and is earning a lot of money, of course. Seeing these desperate updates minimizes my oomph to create an update which ultimately ends up my friends scribbling my wall with “K ho? Kata harayis aajkal?” and it makes me laugh.  I’m not pontificating but it’s more fun laughing at others. So if you are among those who hasn’t changed your profile picture for 7 months now and haven’t written a single status update for 2 years in a row but still log into your Facebook account every day to get updated about the updates then give me a shout out!

Sambidha · May 5, 2014 8:32 AM · 22,561 views

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Facebook bhaypani nahune nabhayepani nahune. I have a love hate relationship with lot of people in my facebook too.

funtush · May 5, 2014 1:23 PM

timile baccha huda mumin herthyou bhanechi, you're a post 90's generation. Timi pani afno age bhanda dherai nai mature bhai sake bhanne agema nai chau. So, baini le fb ma keke nana thari gareko dekhda tesko lagnu swabhabihk ho. When you are are truly matured you will not even care about it unlike writing a whole page about it. Also, fb dekhi wakka lagyo bhane phase ma chau timi, don't get carried away. Last edited: 05-May-14 02:36 PM

CYKA · May 5, 2014 2:33 PM

Well I was thinking about creating my Facebook and then I read this......said to myself "let it go, Let it go".

jungle book · May 5, 2014 4:32 PM

So if you are among those who hasn’t changed your profile picture for 7 months now and haven’t written a single status update for 2 years in a row but still log into your Facebook account every day to get updated about the updates then give me a shout out! ..you got 1..as I like to talk about topics rather than shelfies..shelfies are for the masses and that's not bad either. it's perspective. This study finds that the most active fb users have low self esteem..and i have no time to hang around with such people http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/te... Last edited: 05-May-14 04:55 PM

beautifool · May 5, 2014 4:51 PM

@sojoketo- lol firstly I wouldn't tag myself as 'boring' because I don't spend hours updating my profile and I've have got no effing problem with Mark earning money...he's got mind and he deserves it ani regarding my sista...the last thing I'd do to her would get jealous and irritated...she's such a darling...but I'd prefer her meeting the love of her life in the real world first rather than behind the computer screen...and even if she claims that she met 'the one' in the virtual world, I don't think the beginning of the teen years is when she can rationally distinguish between infatuation or what you called 'romance' or true feelings...my sister's friend already has an ex at this age and had she had proper counselling maybe she'd still be with him or maybe focusing on her studies rather than creating an update...it isn't jealousy, it's a genuine concern BTW Ellen's selfie is great and so are many of my friends' but in my view all those who always share selfies and love/hate bound posts are not very cool...coolness is clicking pictures for memories and not for "ali ramro photo khich hai...malai belka pp change garnu cha" and joining the marathon of getting highest likes...lol to check out the other profile and afai manmani murmurinalai re...lol...there's no reason muttering to myself for these petty reasons...what I do is see, smile and forget...and if there's something that intrigues my mind then I write a whole page about it seems like you don't have a younger sibling to get concerned about like I said I'm not pontificating and this is not a global view and I don't intend to suggest anyone to quit using facebook...yeti pani nabujhe pachi nepali ma euta उखान छ...k bhancha re...बुझ्नेलाई श्रीखण्ड नबुझ्नेलाई खुर्पाको बिंड...unless they're not much pre-occupied and of course smart as you... :)

sambidha · May 6, 2014 7:04 AM

well you've already taken the privilege of answering my part of the question...so can't help with the attitude of the one who takes selfies for cover photo :) well you call me boring http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sci... ani i never said celebrities and mine friends are the only ones who are good at selfies...timro friends and like you said "aam manche" ko selfie ko bare ma maile kei comment gareko chaina...it's all about the ones in my list...and I'm not even implying to one particular person यही सन्दर्भमा 'बुझ्नेलाई श्रीखण्ड नबुझ्नेलाई खुर्पाको बिंड' then I'm like make harmless fun of others as soon as you notice it... :)

Sambidha · May 8, 2014 6:37 AM

whoa! I've never said I never like and comment on anyone's status updates and photos...you're making up ur own things AGAIN...and seems like you didn't read the article well because there's a list of reasons why people lose friends on Facebook...but it's a research anyway... of course how nice the world turn to if every one had sojoketo's altruistic eyes...lol well I may not be a hopeless romantic...nor that I long to be...but I sure ain't a boredom queen...which reminds me when at first you put on a 'judgemental' tag on me but now I see you're judging someone as boring just based on an evidence that they're an inactive users of a social networking site despite of the fact...we all can be judgemental at times, can't we? And I'm sure staying for hours engrossed in the computer screen is not the only way to eliminate the boredom in our lives...:) ani I'm nowhere around the thoughts of uploading status or changing picture any time soon...the ones who care already know what I'm up to and how I look like and for those whom my existence doesn't matter, I don't intend to publicize my every move and my every wrinkle with days... :)

Sambidha · May 9, 2014 3:48 AM

sambidha, you should rewatch mumin or atleast try ( its in youtube) if you havent done it already ! i cringed so hard recalling i once skipped an exam to watch mumin !

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