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Why are We not Friends on Facebook?

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So finally he deleted me from Facebook (FB). After 2 years long relationship and many fights over whether we should be FB friends or not; last year I had added him and today, he deleted me. Let me take you to the flashback of the whole story. The first time we argued was when, over a cup of coffee, I mentioned how people liked my profile picture and complimented me. With a hard grumpy face he asked me why I never added him on FB? Is there anything that he shouldn’t know about me? My funda is very simple. I meet you almost every day, I talk to you everyday over phone, skype, yahoo. I text you every single hour and you are the first person to know if anything happens in my life so now tell me why do we need to be on facebook?And this argument continued until I finally added him on my FB. Now the real game started from that moment. For once I thought the entire argument will be over once we are so called “FB Friends” but to my dejection it was just the tip of an iceberg. The very next early morning I get a call from him. Looking at his name blinking on my phone, I felt so good. “OMG! He wants to wake me up and kiss me good morning” was the thought that flashed through my mind. In a very pretentious lazy, sultry voice when I said Hello!... trust me, I felt I just landed at Pearl Harbor when it was attacked and bombarded. The story behind his anger was why some guy was flirting with me on one of my picture and I was replying back. And more over why he is NOT friends on his FB. So here I was in my bed, explaining to him that its just FB and people are like that there. Now the argument went worse, “you are never like that with me”. And I think I lost it then and there…..my patience. SO the squabble continued for a year, over my profile picture, my friends on facebook, my comments, my status and of course my liking of someone else’s picture. I never understood why was it so important for him when in real life he was my world. I asked couple of my friends and they had similar issues but not so chronic. Today, out of nowhere he deleted me from his FB with a message:- This is affecting our relationship. Argument over FB is very trivial, I have understood. I know we don’t need to be on FB to flaunt that we love each other. We don’t need to tag ourselves in pictures to show that we stick together no matter what and I hate guys flirting with you on FB. So till I can handle it, I decided we will stay real and off virtual. I love you. I really don’t know if I should be Happy? Scared? Or Worried with this decision but one thing is for sure…. Fromtomorrow I will not get morning calls with an annoyed voice about a profile picture comment.

Ambrosia
Mar 19, 2014 10:31 AM · 61,742 views
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Ambrosia Mar 23, 2014 6:41 PM
Poeer ranger...enjoy my 500 words right now....and when u have tolerance i ll write a book for u....: p
Ambrosia Mar 23, 2014 6:42 PM
Timi_mero_sathi tell them you have interacted with them always even when this thing was not there....:)
Ambrosia Mar 24, 2014 12:54 AM
bittertruth, That was a pretty long and detailed reply to my thread. Thank you so much for that. I wont defend any one character in this story. Both of them did what they think was right, might not be correct from the other person's perspective. Even I dont blame facebook. Facebook is very practical, if used with the right intention. There is always good and bad side of things. Maybe when is comes to this relationship, FB was taken to much into consideration. Like you said, life is more than FB and arguments over such petty things. ( Did u like the writing??)
beautifool Mar 26, 2014 1:09 AM
FB is a bitch. I disconnected my cell phone (can use gmail to call for free and I can only call and that frees me up from picking up phones when I'm not willing to talk or skype for free video calls with the closed ones) but can't disconnect from the FB bullshit. There are people that I don't care or don't want to know about but they are there like a disease I want to get rid of. I don't care whether they live or die. But there are there. From 200 to now 20 friends and still unsatisfied.
Ambrosia Mar 26, 2014 1:35 AM
You don't sound like an unsocial person to me :s
beautifool Mar 26, 2014 1:45 AM
I'm only social to fine people. since most of the people I know from past, are lazy people, I can't connect with lazy people who know nothing but they think they do. But my virtual friends are growing and I like that. Anonymity is beautiful. Hope that makes sense. No hatred though. I liked it better when there was no internet..and life was just fine..but there are benefits of internet ..as you can go explore but the bad thing about internet is also the same. You are forced to know/deal with people you normally would seldom care about.
Ambrosia Mar 26, 2014 1:52 AM
I am comfortable with both anonymity as well as the real me... You do make sense here.. That is why I say there is always two sides of the story :) I think... NOW we cannot live without Internet coz one or the other way we are connected to that :)
beautifool Mar 26, 2014 1:54 AM
true..I must learn to adjust. my fault.
Ambrosia Mar 26, 2014 2:12 AM
Sorry if i sounded rude....that was not the intention:)
beautifool Mar 26, 2014 2:17 AM
You added the sentence/s I wasn't able to add. :)
Ambrosia Mar 26, 2014 2:29 AM
I read ur stock article......mmmmm i knw rupees but cents are difficult to understand:)
Haina ho Serey Apr 2, 2014 12:13 AM
If this were a true story, that guy needs to grow up and chill the [Disallowed String for - banned word] out instead of being a pussy.
silentblogger Apr 2, 2014 8:19 AM
Came back to this post again. Great reply all. Found too many should have/need to .... to incline morally to a situation but it doesnt happen in reality. Life is what you can make out of it, its ok to be stupid once in a while, we all know what's right or wrong and it doesnt hurt to be wrong intentinally at times. Give people their comfort zone and see how they act, no hatred, no jealousy and see how it uplifts every relationships. Just my two cents but I loved reading through everyone's post. Ambrosia. how about a new story? I cant wait to read it. Keep sharing on Sajha not FB....JK
Ambrosia Apr 2, 2014 8:25 AM
Haha silent blogger.....yea yea off course not on FB....Will you give me a dollar next time rather than your two cents :P.....
silentblogger Apr 2, 2014 8:45 AM
Good one. Sure buddy. This post has made my bad day at work really good. You should keep writing. I will try to come up with something too.
Ambrosia Apr 2, 2014 8:57 AM
Awwww that is soo sweet of you to say....just wait for 10 minutes and something new is coming up for you...:D and thanks for the motivation!!!
neurologist Nov 10, 2015 11:31 AM
Interesting read. Keep it coming.
microbiology Nov 10, 2015 10:15 PM
What are you doing .. Making - a2 years old post alive again lol
Ambrosia Nov 11, 2015 7:05 PM
Lol
bairaghi Nov 11, 2015 7:29 PM
@microbiology bro, hamro @neurologist bro timrai twin brother from different father paryo ki kya ho. Timi bhanda pani noka niklyo ta . :)
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