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 Suggestion from Love Gurus please
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Posted on 04-18-11 5:51 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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 Here's my story, 

I fell in love with this girl from Nepal a year ago through a social networking site. Even though we've never seen eachother but we almost decided to get married too. Like it says love is blind and the same thing happens to me and her as well. We told eachother everything about our life including our past relationship too before even we started out relationship. She had one past relationship which lasted for almost 2 year and i had almost 7 relationships which didn't even lasted for 6 months but now i am committed to this girl and i really do love her a lot.

Here comes twist on the story. Her ex-boyfriend again came into her life again and started giving her hard time by following her into her office and house. She said that she hate her a lot and don't want to be with him anymore. Somehow  that guy found out my fb name and keeps me sending msg by asking to leave her and beg me to give back his love. For first few days i told him nicely and told him to go away because she don't want to be with her so there's no point of begging but now he is going beyond the limit. Honestly speaking, sometimes i feel like telling my girlfriend to go back to him because the way he write me a message is very heart wrenching and sympathetic. I feel like this guy really loves her a lot and can do anything for her but at the same time i love her too. But honestly speaking since i haven't even seen her yet but if i had to leave her, i think i will be fine. But the problem is i know for sure even though i left her, she's not going to go back to this guys life again. I am in a great dilemma guys and girl. Please suggest me something if you can come up with some better solution. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Only serious comments please.. 
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Posted on 04-18-11 5:56 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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 One sided love doesn't work. It's not your decision anyways, let the girl do what she gotta do!
 
Posted on 04-18-11 6:03 PM     [Snapshot: 9]     Reply [Subscribe]
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 Thanks commando, honestly i wanted do that too because i feel very bad for that guy and his feelings. At least i can control mine because i haven't even seen her in this one year but that guy is soo into her. But one thing for sure is that even though i let her go i know that she won't go back to her, so it's not worth it. Don't know wtf i need to do...
 
Posted on 04-18-11 6:07 PM     [Snapshot: 23]     Reply [Subscribe]
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 Talk to her of what troubles you. If this thing could have an impact in your future relation, it's not worth it perhaps. And, don't trust guys who send emails like that to you. He should be talking to the girl and not to you. 
 
Posted on 04-18-11 6:11 PM     [Snapshot: 35]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Jus chill dude...do ur work...talk to the gal.....testo email semail lai ka reply garne ho ta....if u love her....then be wid her....if u dnt love then dnt be....doesnt matters kt le kaslai man parauche....let her be on her own...if she needs any help ...go for it....otherwise u need nt worry...
 
Posted on 04-18-11 6:11 PM     [Snapshot: 40]     Reply [Subscribe]
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By the way m nt any love experts hai
 
Posted on 04-18-11 6:18 PM     [Snapshot: 41]     Reply [Subscribe]
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 You're right commando, this thing might as well have an impact in my life which might be a destrution on our relationship even we ended up together. yeah i tend not to trust that guy the way he send msg is soo heart wrenching that it forced me to believe that he loves her a lot. 

Dukhe: Please read the story before you comment. I have stated above that we are not together, it's a long distance relationship. but thanks for you effort to write though. 

 
Posted on 04-18-11 6:29 PM     [Snapshot: 56]     Reply [Subscribe]
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 tyo facebook ma "block this person" bhanera rakheko button kahile use garchhau? 
ahile yo ketilai mann paraune keto aayo, say timi aafu side lageu re. bholiparsi arki gf holi timro, tyaslai ni mann paraune ketaharu holan, tyaslai ni chhodchhau? timiharu duijanako mann milchha bhane kurai sakiyo ni. faltu aruko tenson k liyiraa. 
distance bhanya tyastai ho, mann milepachhi distance le ni farak pardaina. khai, mero hune wala budhi ra ma 2.5 yrs dekhi chhuttai chhau (ma yeta, budhi Nepal) ramrai chaliraa chha ta. dekheko chhaina, arule mann paraudo raichha bhanera chhodne hoina, ulto nafutkine gari samatera rakha 

 
Posted on 04-18-11 6:32 PM     [Snapshot: 74]     Reply [Subscribe]
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 Thanks Drkancho, liked your comments full of humor but bro i am not trying to be a saint here. The way how i think is, malai tyo keta lai block garera reply nai nagarnu bhanda baru sakesamma saam, daam, dandam bhed bhaye ni use garera samjaera bujaera usko life bata jau bhanne lageko cha so that he will not give trouble to her because you know very well that keta haru je pani garna sakcha esp at current situation when there's no security in Nepal at all. 
 
Posted on 04-18-11 6:37 PM     [Snapshot: 77]     Reply [Subscribe]
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 i know bro, timro situationma ma pahilai parisakeko manchhe ho, tyo pani 3-3 patak! aajkalko ketaharu k bhaa ho,,,arkako budhi dekhnai nahune bhanya, samjhayera mandainan! pachkaidim jasto! 
but tenson naliu, bhukne kukurle tokdaina. she'll be fine - i've been living keeping same thougnt in my mind for long. 
sakesamma fatafat Nepal jaane, jhyaai parne, lyaihalne ni yeta!
 
Posted on 04-18-11 6:41 PM     [Snapshot: 96]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Jhyaiparera lyaihalne chai kasari i Drkancho?
Upaya cha bhane bhana na.......ma ni bichar garam....
 
Posted on 04-18-11 6:53 PM     [Snapshot: 107]     Reply [Subscribe]
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pilane ma chadhayera lyaaune ni...haha.
lyauna ta lyaune, lyaepachhi kasari palne tyo chahi sochera matra lyaunuparchha ni natra budha-budhi dubaiko haribijog hola. 
hariyo patta hune laai ta ali sajilai hola, ma jasto undergrad lai ta muskilai parchha ni! tenson chha ni....kahile bihe garne, kahile budha-budhi sangai basne....sochda sochdai kapal fulla bhanne darr! 
 
Posted on 04-18-11 11:31 PM     [Snapshot: 251]     Reply [Subscribe]
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 Let her go. you don't love her enough. You will find someone at some point. Ask yourself dude, I am 100% sure she is just your option. 


 
Posted on 04-18-11 11:55 PM     [Snapshot: 270]     Reply [Subscribe]
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pretty messed up situation u are in there my friend.
this is what girls bring, problem.
i like ur idea of talking to this guy, her ex, in facebook; respectable decision!
since she shared her past with u, u probably know why/how they broke up.
So, her ex is in Nepal and u are in States, how do u think she is evaluating her future?  One thing for sure, no matter how much she says she hates her ex, first love is first love.  I am pretty sure she has some feelings.
Sh!t happens in young age, if u try to help them patch up, that will be one of the best/memorable thing u will have done in life.
Now, what about u, that will be a big sacrifice.  Its a long distance relation, u are not settled yet, who knows what future has stored for u.  It might not be a bad idea in ur part to let her go and focus on school, internship etc.
good luck my friend!

 
Posted on 04-19-11 1:01 AM     [Snapshot: 308]     Reply [Subscribe]
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"life is good", liked your solution. Best thing to do unless the break up involves beating or cheating.
 
Posted on 04-19-11 1:09 AM     [Snapshot: 316]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Lovetheway! the best solution what I see for you, don't run behind that virtual love n study hard to make better English.
 
Posted on 04-19-11 9:53 AM     [Snapshot: 441]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Hmm..
Tricky situation there. First of all it is really hard for me to believe that the girl "loves" you that deeply and she hasn't even seen you. Call me cynic but it might be infatuation at the best. Do you have a GC? Does the girl want to come to US hence why she is ditching her ex?

Those are cynical questions but worth pondering. Do you mind doing an experimentation? First week, tell the girl that you aren't happy with your work. Second week tell her that you are thinking of quitting and you don't like in general in USA. Third week tell her that you are coming back to Nepal for good. She how she responds, she might not exactly say goodbye, but her response will indicate her intentions. If she is happy for you to come back (rather than neutral) then the girl is yours, don't give up. If not, let the other dude get her, they both will be happy.
 
Posted on 04-19-11 10:40 AM     [Snapshot: 459]     Reply [Subscribe]
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"Honestly speaking, sometimes i feel like telling my girlfriend to go back to him because the way he write me a message is very
heart wrenching and sympathetic"

this must be the funniest shiyt i have ever heard from a guy in love !!! find yourself a real girl son
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Posted on 04-19-11 6:31 PM     [Snapshot: 571]     Reply [Subscribe]
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 @bodmas: Brother, she's not just my option. I really do love her and want to spend my life with her. 
@life is good: Agree with you bro, no matter how much she says she hates her ex, first love is first love. Same thing in my case. Even though i had many relationship but still i remember the girl and do hav                   e feelings for her with whom i had affair when i was in class four. Liked your suggestion though. Letting her go and focus on my career. Bro, i would love to help them to patch up, trust me i really wanted to do that but i am pretty sure that she's not gonna go back to him even if i tell her to go because she hates him so bad that she don't even want to talk with him. I would be blessed and happy to do that but i don't think she will agree that. 
@furke: Thanks
@gone12: Thanks for your suggetion. You made me realize that i need to go to take ESL class.
@Stiffler: Touche, it might as well be just an infactuation too. No i am not GC and she broke up with a guy before even she had a relationship with me. I like you experimentation, might as well do that. It seems worth it but bro don't you think that will be too possesive towards attitude.. Thank you anwyays. 
@Fat beast: You're a funniest shyt i have ever seen in sajha. Go find yourself some other platform where you can express your views. I stated clearly that only serious comment, so why the f**K you dare to comment if you think that's funny. Go lykk your balls.. 
 
Posted on 04-19-11 6:44 PM     [Snapshot: 575]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Very difficult chha hai bro!!!

maaniliu -- tyo ex-bf ketaale ahile naatak garera timilai lekhyo, timilai fakayo pagaalyo ra timro gf uchhittaayo re, ani tespachhi feri timro gf laai ditch garyo bhane ke hunchha ? will you be able to excuse yourself?

if I was in your shoe, I would have let the girl face her ex-bf herself. You really don't need to read what her ex-bf writes / pleads to you if you truly love your gf.

 


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