Ola,


so yesterday i was so bored that i decided to shave off my pubic hair. it went well except that i now have a cut this -------- long on my left ball. also the left one is the only one shaved while the righty is still hairy as usual. guys if you are bored jerk off or puff the magic dragon or do whatever else you do, don't go at your body with a razor. alright the incident got me thinking about the barbershop i used to frequent in nepal- natwarlal hair sailoon- yeah and that is the right spelling. so guys had their own particular barbershop and a specific barber that they trusted their hair with. the guy that cut my hair used to put a pinch of balwan under his lip before he took the scissors. i sat at the chair and beside the mirror there was a poster of Mamata Kulkarni etching to bare her breasts. so my barber dude started every sentence with "kaha hajur...." so every time i was done with the hair cutting i would tell him that he should get a poster of mamata nude. he laughed and said "kaha hajur...."

so while i am on this train of thought i rememebr another incident. my kaam-garne at home was a little fuchhe- a bright and fiesty kid whom we called KB - short for Khadga Bahadur. so he had this enimosity with all the tarkariwalas that walked with their bicycles and the tokori of fruits and vegetables. one day a tarkariwala was walking by in the street when KB stopped him. he went near the guy and without looking at the tokori at all, he shouted: ye madhishe golveda kati?
the tarkariwala looked suspicious but said: golvinta bis rupaiya kilo?
KB, made his incredulous face and putting his hands on his hip declared: mula madihse, talai heryo bhane talai kasaile panch rupiya ma kindaina, tero golveda beeeeeis ruuuu---paaaiii---yaa?

balls to u .......lollllllllllllll !!!!!hehehehe!!!!!

n there starts racism in our society, it may not be KB's own mind to say so but he learned what other( most likely frm the place where he lived) said before..Its really disgusting someone who is owning bread for himself whether he is a madhesi or not has nothing to do with his vegetables that he is selling.

So watch out the difference in attitude among us towards a hair dresser n a tarkariwala..

Ola,

sense, i fully realise the implications of KB's use of the word madishe to the vegetable hawker. we and KB himself are from the Terai, so we were madishe too. but if you tell me that there are people in kathmandu who really think twice before calling a dark-skinned person from madesh or for that matter india- a madhesi then you are not from there. i now know and understand that it is a derogatory term and i would not ever use it to address a person from madesh. furthermore most of the people call the vendor by the name of the vegetable or fruit that he is selling, a potato seller may hear someone ask, " ye allu, kilo ko kati ?"

it is racism. it is prevalent and KB is not the first person to use it, nor are the people from the place where he lived, and i can guarentee you that we did not have to teach KB the use of the commonly prevalaent vernacular, as you so subtly point out.

ya, I agree with u, n me myself was born in India. n thats my point just look at the change in behaviours when it comes to a hairdresser n a tarkariwala...if there is any agrawal(madee if I am not inflicting racism)what my experience will tell me is we r really treating them more than what we treat to a normal nepali lets say a bhariya....I would better make a comparision to make it clear in how we treat dark colored people.

Tarkariwala/khali sishi=Lowest of all..no respect...not even dogs respect them
Hairdresser/carpenter/technicians= the way we treat( nepali) bhariya ..with a least respect
businessmen= more than what we treat to avg. nepali

so the above figure shows us that there is a missing treatment n that is, when do we treat dark colored people as what we treat to some avg nepalis?

the answer lies in our mentality n its not a days work to change it ..nomatter how nicely u say madhesi it does represent a smell of racism.... so better make KB learn this matter when he is still young.

Right Bros, this attitude of color and profession based discrimination has to go for the co-herent future of our society. What KB did, was an unconsious expression that is taken as a birthright by some to discriminate others. However for the information of public, this is not one way it is both way with our bretherns (mostly hill people) facing discrimination in India.
It has to go, civilized societies do not provide room for such discrimination and every individual begining by self restarin should also discourage any such situation.
Yeah talking about barbers, Santosh, he was from a village few Km from Bethiya was my regular barber. I had a chance to visit his village when attending one of my friends marriage, that made the bond even more stronger. It was a diff experience, paying 10 Rs for a haircut, while dooling out more than that green buck for the same.

MindGames-ji that was a funny story there. We all wish we could STOP discrimination in our country but it isn't as easy as we make it out to be.

Ola

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monika, meera thanks for seeing the anecdote for what it is.

mG.

however funny it may sound when we see the firrst posting of mindgames;) I really appreciate ur sense of humor but the undelining things r way too bigger than just a sense of humor, well lets not favor sadhvawana party for this ..cheer up;)