Help me to forget my Girl Friend.
We have been in love since 1/2 decade. I have been working here in Us since 4 yrs. I went to Nepal couple years ago to see her. At that time everything was fine. I was planning to go back to country on end of this march to get married with my beloved, my heart. But I don'w know when and how the things went wrong. My heart and I were fighting and making love till today. I can't say my girl friend anymore now, she just got married. She left me broken heart. I called her today but couldn't reach her coz her cell phone was switched off. My herat is totally broken in tiny pieces even can't write here. I'm just expecting some healing suggestion to forget my heart and those golden moment that we had shared. Please No offensive word. I wish I could write more about my distance love that made us seperate now.
Can you please friends share your experience and opinion here so I can heal my broken heart.
spyglass, i feel for you bro. bad things like this happen, don't let yourself down. it's good that you found out about her before you went to Nepal. now stop calling her "my girlfriend" because she's not. she betrayed you, married someone else, and is sharing bed with that person. There's no point in being sad thinking about her; consider her a filthy whore/golddigger. That doesn't mean all females are bad; there are a lot of good women out there looking for a trustworthy guy like you. Just take things lightly and hope for the best. Sooner or later, you'll find someone better.
- In order to forget one biatch you should get another girl.
- Engage/occupy yourself with close friends/family and look fwd for new possible dates.
- Share your stuff with family/closed friends. You need to speek up and share your feelings.thought. Dont ever think that you can gracefully handle yuour situatiion. Get help.
- Avoid sad songs. Remove the stuff that reminds you of her.
- De-friend her from facebook. Stop cyber stalking her or any means of communication with her.
- Re-iterating: Go and get a new girl.
~GoodLuck
I am sorry for you. There must be some reason for it. It's shocking that everyone here is rushing to call 'b' word to the girl. Would you still call her the same if she happens to be your relative? The thread reflects the part of our society. I am not saying that girl may not be at fault, but we don't know the complete story, yet all are portraying only girl as the bad person.
Spyglass,
I am just curious how old you are and how old your Ex was and what were your plans to be with her?
@sidster, what kind of question is that?
spyglass
i m sorry to hear that.....i know , no words will comfort your heart...wait for the time overall.....just want to say
"someday someone will walk into your life and make you realise why it never worked out with anyone else (or her)."
everything happen for a reason.....smile and cheer up :)) ..happiness alz !!
@ nepcha - i agree with you !!
Firts of all Thank you all friends for your input. I heartly appreciate.
@sidster. I'm now 29 and my girls is 27. There is nothing speical plant to be with my gf. Actually I alwyas assume her as my life partner. Even we used to call oursleves husband and wife. She used to call me "my buda." That word still making echo around me. I used to take her family as my family. I send $4000 for her sister's study in her request couple month ago.
@Nepchai, I will never call her that word because I always loved her from bottom of my heart. I will just pray god for her betterment and better future.
@dalluko sanu, you can't be that much bad........... as you said............
Don't worry friend I started driniking............. but that worked only untill 2 pm. I'm again tensed............. but i'm fine.............. I'm not gonna do anything insane..........
Some facts for you:
Regarding your loss: Nobody wants to hear this, but sometimes…the person you want most is the person you're best without.
Regarding your emotions and feeelings: All emotional pain lasts for 12 minutes anything longer is self inflicted.
~GoodLuck
spygalss, I have a solution for you. Just pretend that your girl firend has never got married and you are still in relationship with her. Pretend that everything is same as you had few months back. But just don't try to call her, don't bring her talk with your friends. Just make yourself believe that you have postponed your marriage for one more year and you cannot talk anymore with your GF till next year. Do lots of exercise for few weeks or a month to exhaust yourself and avoid bringing unnecessary thoughts in your mind.
Then suddenly next year when it is time to break your silence and when you are ready for marriage realize that she had left you a year ago and you have lived happily without her for one year. You will find your life better and free of reponsibility. You will know you wont need her anymore.
The science behind this is it helps in secretion of brain monoamine oxidase A (MAO-A) — (an enzyme that contributes to depression) slowly in your brain which avoids depression down the road.
Spyglass:
Th esimplest way: Goto strip club or anywhere u can buy girl to make love , make love
Whewwww,,,
Cool suggestions!!! Sounds like they work..
My first relationship (LOL aka love of life starting at highschool, which was love at first sight for me),,which lasted almost 7 years through pretty rough days, multiple on and off long distance years. I indulged myself in flood of affairs after that,,dating multiple girls at the same time,,also almost made it a ritual to visit clubs like every week..and bla bla bla.,,
I did manage to muster enough hostile feelings towards my LOL making myself believe the she was an evil person..And after a few years of living in my world where i tried my best to make myself believe that i was a fool to think that she one indeed the one,,one email from her one day (with social networks these days it looks like one can never really hide away) was enough to knock off my seemingly invulnerable personality that i built in those years,, And all of sudden it just felt like she was my LOL and it will stay that way forever,,no matter how i appear from outside. I will never be able to be near her physcially with her new circumstances,,
And amazingly now i dont hate her anymore,,no matter what was done to me..I pray for her happiness..Many relationships have come and gone between then,,But then only one that still matters is the one that taught me to live as if i was never hurt.
I am glad i can say it out aloud here..(sounding like a loser)
Anyways it's one big thing in life but it's not the only thing in life. One can survive still survive without a kidney
Now i dont have any problem moving in and out of relationships..
@nomorecrush great words... Any pain more than 13 minutes(i gave u 1 more grace minute) is self inflicted. So move on and find someone else.
www.mastishare.com
enjoy this , sometime i even forget my present girlfriend :)
Did she ever reveal the relationship to her parents or relatives? If not - this day was bound to come. This is litmus test for 'most' of nepali girls.
To any "Nepali" guys who are in relationship - if your partner is reluctant to talk of the relationship with their relatives, there is something not 100%.
Next - it is human nature to hold the best available and look for the possible better.. Everyone is playing this game. Once better card is encountered, throw the previous one. If you disagree - it is simply because you have not encountered the better one yet... - this is the simple truth of life.
Suggestion to you - time is the greatest healer. Flow with time. She is not yours - there is nothing you lost. Don't be jealous or angry that you did not have sex with her - at least... (believe me, most guys who lost their girls have this 'ego') - this feeling will damage you more emotionally. Also, don't feel that her new man is better than you - wrong. You are good person, you are successfull person. So might be she. It is simply that something somewhere did not go went. That's it. AVOID ANY SORT OF EGO FEELING.
And yeah, it is good to be in another relationship. Not distant one this time. Smile :)
@spyglass, very good you are wishing good for your ex despite her dishonesty.
We're in 2012 and we're more liberal and kind than ever before. These positive changes are affecting everyone and this is the way everyone should be, giving and kind. I think few days ago, I read somewhere similar story similar to yours.
Remember, you are not the one and first to be heartbroken , there are million of others. Don't believe me?? there are thousands songs on break-up.
- Why worry? don't see fault in you rather see what is waiting for you. Life is a learning process, and you learned something very important that only and only YOU know.
- Think of this universe, see the stars, contemplate for a moment about all this creation and see where you are at. Don't bother yourself bro, these problems are insignificant as compared to what we really are. It's about time to go cosmic and bring up your true nature. The moment you do or become that, you'll attract more people :D
- Don't run after physical desires (don't fall for those say like 6 billions people, there must be one, of course there is, but don't run for it). Everything happens, happens for a reason. You deserve something wonderful and that awaits you :D Just give sometime to yourself.
Right now, you must be having a sleepless nights and probably hungerfree out of worry, more you do it, more you harm yourself. Sit in, meditate and think think think unless you realize that whatever you are doing (like worry, depression) is worthless.
Tke care.
Spyglass,
Since you are 29 and she was 27 already and there was no forseable plan of you two getting together i am going to assume that the girl was under lots of pressure to get married by her family and herself. In that context, i am going to hold back against calling the girl a biatch or selfish like everyone is doing here.
It is quite tough for women back home to stay single till 27 especially without any good explanation. I have heard many stories similar to yours and concluded that the relationship ended becasuse it was not practical. Rather than communicating those crucial issues Nepalese just move on to thier next option without letting the other person know ( just a Nepali way of dealing with Issues).
Nevertheless, you are in a tough spot. Try to accept the reality and deal with the situation. I know its easier said than done but try to focus on yourself, make yourself a better commodity and you will find another person whom you deserve.
Hope you find console within and much success with your next love.
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