What's The Best Way To Manage Anger?
It depends on whether your anger is aimed at one
particular person or is just internal anger about life and ultimately
yourself.
If it's personal, then it never pays to lose your temper in the long
run, even though it can be hard to control and momentarily exciting to
let it go. Because it always tends to come back at you when you least
expect it.
The cleanest way of managing anger is to realise it's just one form of
energy circulating inside you that needs to be gently but firmly
released, such as by slipping off somewhere secluded and whacking the shiiiit
out of a pillow shouting 'I hate you, I hate you, I hate you' until all
the energy's spent. By doing this you're implicitly no longer taking the
drama which sparked your anger personally, which is key to coping with
it properly.
General feelings of anger come back to your inner child's omnipotence
complex and feeling sorry for itself, either because life hasn't worked
out the way it expected or because someone has actually dared to not
show it enough respect.
When you stop taking it all so personally, the anger tends to diminish
automatically and you instead just feel happy to be alive even if life
doesn't go the way you thought it should.
Other good ways of releasing what's essentially the wild animal within
include going for a brisk run, climbing a mountain and hitting the
dance floor."
Brit Backpacker Gets 10 Years For Pot
Daisy Angus, 26, was sentenced to 10 years in an Indian hell-hole jail
this week after being found guilty of trying to smuggle 10kg of
cannabis out of the country through Mumbai Airport four years ago.
The former gym instructor, who's been locked up ever since customs
officials found the cannabis in her suitcase, claimed her Israeli boyfriend
had used her as an unwitting mule and told the Judge when sentenced "I
have already served almost four years in jail for a crime I did not
commit. This false case against me killed my father and my grandmother."
Her father died of leukaemia last December 3 years after being
tragically quoted in a British newspaper as saying that his daughter was aware
there was 'something in her luggage'. Though Daisy later retracted the
statement, prisoners' rights organisation Fair Trials Abroad withdrew
their support leaving prisoners' charity Foreign Prisoners Support
Services (FPSS) to help. The British press also reported in 2003 that
Daisy's father was complaining she'd been repeatedly raped by lesbians in
prison, though those allegations were also said to be untrue by her mother
soon after.
"Daisy's Mother reports that Daisy is fine and has never being abused
in anyway as reported in the media," FPSS said in an update in
September. "She has been very brave throughout this ordeal, has learnt Hindi and
is teaching English to the other women and children in her cell. Daisy
has made a few campaigns to improve the jail's conditions and is a
great help to those around her. She is a remarkable woman and has done her
best in a very bad situation."
Daisy's Israeli boyfriend was freed for 'lack of evidence'.
In more India drug news Goa's top cop Neeraj Kumar, Director General of
Police (DGP), said a further 25 foreigners have been 'black-listed' and
3 deported, most as suspected drugs traffickers, the Goa Herald
reported.
"We have information that Goa has become one of the transit points for
soft drugs like cannabis and hashish," the DGP told the paper, "These mostly
find way to European countries through charter flights taking off from
the State," he said.
Hot Sex Death Threat
Doctors from Vienna's Sports Medicine Institute issued a public health
warning this week, urging people to abstain from having sex when
temperatures top 30ºC or risk death.
"The high temperatures increase the sex drive, but they also make
intercourse quite risky, as the chance of heart-related complications
increases," Professor Norbert Bachl told Scotland's Daily Record.
"Those who can't resist should wait until the evening hours, when the
air gets cooler, but even then they should not go wild."
The Austrian doctor's alert came as Loughborough University Professor
Ron Maughan revealed that many British men get more excited watching
soccer than having sex, according to tests he carried out on fans watching
the world cup
"The heart rates that we have recorded throughout the first stage of
the study are in line with those experienced by an individual reaching
sexual climax," Professor Maughan told the Financial Express, "and in
some cases greater than that."
Both findings emerged some years after Japanese scientists suggested a
link between infidelity and strokes, the BBC reported in 2000.
Dr Izumi Toyoda told the World Stroke Congress that 19 out of the 42
people he examined who suffered strokes during sex were with lovers other
than their regular partner.
Does Seeking Approval From Others Make Sense?
Peoples' opinions are like the wind in that they have
no consistency, so seeking their approval is like trying to make the
wind stand still, it's pointless.
Of course, when they have something to offer which requires their
momentary approval of you to give you whatever it is, then in an immediate
sense it matters, but in the longer-term sense, it's not something you
can control.
Instead, the only person's approval really worth fighting for is your
own and it's almost always a long process acquiring it, because of all
the negative input you've had as a child whether from (probably)
well-meaning but misguided carers and peers or TV.
One way to release yourself and shake off the effects of low
self-esteem is by setting yourself goals and achieving them, another is to
hypnotise yourself into a different stance in relation to yourself. To do
this, you should talk to yourself constantly, out loud or under your
breath, saying over and over again, 'I'm doing alright, I'm OK, I'm doing
fine' until you actually start believing it's true.
No one knows the score better than you do yourself and if you give
yourself approval then the approval of others will naturally follow (though
by then you'll no longer care, because you'll already know you're doing
fine - you just said so yourself.")
"The sperm will experience burnout before they reach the egg."
(Guardian) US fertility specialist Dr Lani Burkman says male pot smokers often
have lower fertility rates because their semen 'swim abnormally'.
"I didn't realise what I sounded like but then my speech therapist
played a tape of me talking. I was devastated." (Guardian) Newcastle 'Foreign Accent Syndrome' victim, Linda Walker, 60, recalls the moment she discovered her rare post-stroke condition means she now talks in a thick Jamaican patois instead of her native Geordie.
B*tchy Women Can't Help It
Women criticise other women more when they're seeking a partner and are at their cattiest when they're at peak fertility in their menstrual cycle, the Observer reported this week.
"Evolutionary theory predicts female sexual competition will occur when males of high genetic quality are considered a resource," study chief Dr Maryanne Fisher of York University, Canada, told the paper, "One strategy is competitor derogation- using tactics to make a rival inferior."
The Observer unearthed additional evidence showing men are twice as likely to b*tch about others' appearances with 'negative gossip' being a form of social bonding.
"You are picking some negative characteristic of a third person and saying 'I trust you enough to tell you my view of it and I think you and I will hold a similar view and we will form a coalition," Professor Geoffrey Beattie of Manchester University suggested.
The male/ female divide also reared its head in Australian magazine the Age this week, via an interview with Peaches in which she reiterated her commitment to raising male sexuality, particularly gay/ straight issues.
"I think women have had their sexual revolution. But I don't think men really ever did. In the process women really grew, while men are still really afraid of other straight men," the always outspoken electro-trash star suggested, "I don't really know, but for them I think they've still got a long way to go, so I'm trying to help them out."
Also in Australia, a new survey of women's sex lives revealed that almost one in three under 44 year old women have no sex at all (SBS Radio). The survey of 659 females also revealed that women over 45 have far more sex than those aged between 25 and 44.
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http://gangsta411.com/GANG_CLOTHING.htm (Gang Tees, sneakers, etc.)
http://www.bambooclothing.co.uk
http://www.americanwomensuck.com/quiz/index.htm (Real man quiz)
http://www.cartoonstock.com/directory/r/real_man_gifts.asp (Real man
cartoons for sale)
http://www.manties.net/7dayb (panties for men- 7 day collection)
http://www.geographia.com/bahamas/annebonny.htm (Anne Bonny. Some call
her a feminist who chose piracy as way of rebelling against a
male-dominated world . . .)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anita_Garibaldi (Anita Garibaldi. "An
amalgam of two elemental forces…the strength and courage of a man and the
charm and tenderness of a woman . . .")
http://members.tripod.com/~ancient_history/boad.html ("...many believe
that her name, Boudicca, was not her name at all, but that she may have
been called Boudiga, the Celtic goddess of Victory . . .")
http://www.sizematcher.com/ (Enter your height below to see how tall
you are as compared to hundreds of celebrities)
http://www.famousbirthdays.com/ (Who else was born on your birthday?)
http://www.myheritage.com/oldIndex.html?safari=1 (Find the celebrity in
you. Genealogy site runs with Firefox browser)
http://www.colorquiz.com/ (Pick the color that makes you feel the best
when you look at it first...)
http://www.liquidgeneration.com/content/showMeDaContent.aspx?cid=2169
(Porn Star or Pop Star?)
http://www.mysticgames.com/mysticgames_cfmfiles/tests/showtest.cfm?TestID=29
(Masculine/Feminine test)
http://www.pokercondoms.com
http://koniakow.com/index_en.php (Lace G strings knitted by Polish
grannies)
http://www.stockroom.com/sales/2006/03/08/sexmachines (F++king
Machines)
http://www.escalofrio.com/n/Asesinos/Thierry_Paulin/Thierry_Paulin.php
(Thierry Paulin)
http://home.earthlink.net/~jbailey6/SerialMurderList.htm (Media names
for serial killers)
http://www.astrologyresearchjournal.org/article101704/index.htm
('Frequencies of Various Aspects and House and Sign Positions in the
?Horoscopes of Murderers, Serial Killers, and Mass Murderers as Compared ?to
Control Groups . . .')
http://www.kill100.com (Remix's new single and win a release plus
£2,000)
http://www.beatpick.com (well worth a look- radical online licensing
and more)
http://www.samurai.fm/timecapsule (Time Capsule is a monthly selection
of records played 30 years ago by DJ Greg Wilson – the first in the
series covering January 1976 . . .')
http://www.hedonistica.com/flash.php?path=/games/nexgame.swf&w=640&h=300
(Ice breaking game- excellent)
http://www.highstreetheadache.com (dodge traffic game)
http://www.cypresshill.co.uk (Cypress Hill lowrider game)
http://www.paralumun.com/ghostprotect.htm (How to protect yourself from
ghosts: salt carried in your pocket will keep ghosts at bay...)
http://theshadowlands.net/ghost/types.htm (Ghost types: The first type
of haunting is exactly like a video playback of a historic or tragic
event...)
http://www.angelfire.com/on/wicca/Spells10.html (Keep evil spirits out
of your home: This spell will keep evil and unhappy spirits out of and
from following the person into their homes...)
http://www.hififestival.com/game (stage-diving game)
http://www.funny-games.biz/endlesswar.html (shooting soldiers war game)
http://hallpass.com/media/fancypantsadventure.html (platform jump game
http://psych.ucsc.edu/dreams/Norms/sexuality.html (Norms for sexuality)
http://www.mentalhelp.net/psyhelp/chap15/chap15s.htm ('Learning to
remember your dreams/ Before "analyzing" your dreams, carefully observe how
you feel--physically and your mood . . ')
http://www.blackdog.net/games/arcade/pipe/index.html#top (Water, pipe
puzzle game)
http://www.corpun.com/books2.htm ('THE ENGLISH VICE: Beating, Sex and
Shame in Victorian Britain and After . . .')NOT GOOD FOR WORK
http://buttmagazine.com/Issues/13_johnwaters.html (Legendary film
director John Waters, interviewed by Wolfgang Tillmans: 'But you knew about
sploshing? That's an English perversion; the erotic urge to throw food
in your loved one's crotch. I don't get it. I bet sploshing is a really
healthy fetish. It's safe: you can't get AIDS from sitting on a pie. I
wish I did like sploshing. The best sploshing magazine is from London .
. .') NOT GOOD FOR WORK
http://www.splosh.co.uk ('I am over 18 years of age and want to enter a
world of custard pie comedy, horny women rubbing goo into their gussets
and beautiful clothing ruined and ripped to shreds, hosted by a hot
harlot called Hayley. The site contains nudity, swearing and elbows on the
table . . .')NOT GOOD FOR WORK
http://www.sinulator.com ('The Sinulator lets anyone control your sex
toy over the Internet! The most fun you can have when you are apart . .
.')Not safe for work
http://www.ni9e.com/nwa.php (NWA's Straight Outta Compton: Explicit
Content
Only MP3s)not safe for wok
http://www.missm.co.uk/interactive/uploads/attachments/weenie9xl_727.gif
(men behaving badly)not safe for work
http://milaadesign.com/wizardy.html (Magic mystery)
http://www.strictlyshoujo.com/goodies/quiz.html (Which magical girl are
you?)
http://www.byzant.com/biography/_showquotes.asp?ID=2 (Aleister Crowley
wisdom)
http://starfirescircle.com/LoveSpells.html ('It is against the
principles of good/ethical/white magick to try to impose your will onto
another, even for such a benevolent reason as to induce true love. If you do
so, remember the saying: Be careful of what you ask for, you just might
get it. The spell in the potion could rebound, you could find yourself
falling in love or being attracted to someone completely unsuitable for
you, which may even be dangerous . . .')
http://www.angelfire.com/biz5/Spells2.moved-to-lid-hash (The first of
many dynamics is the magick circle...This is what a Wiccan will do to
create a barrier from anything that might enter while they are caught
between the worlds: Remember....you should always use caution and keep
the Wiccan Law in mind... Harm none...do what you will... ')
http://religion-cults.com/Occult/Magic/MAGIC.htm
http://www.fear.org/victim1.html (Forfeiture real life horror stories)
http://www.angelfire.com/hi/DeathCamps.moved-to-lid-hash ('The spoils:
The victims' gold teeth and dental work, collected by the Nazis. After
the war, the allies found many documents listing quantities of gold
teeth transferred from the camps to banks inside Germany; also, a secret
vault was discovered, containing (among other valuables) 384 pounds of
gold and silver teeth . . .')
http://www.mrbling.com (Gold teeth grills
http://www.doenetwork.us (The Doe Network is a volunteer organization
devoted to assisting Law Enforcement in solving cold cases concerning
Unexplained Disappearances and Unidentified Victims from North America,
Australia and Europe . . .')
http://www.mydeathspace.com/deaths.aspx (dead people's tales)
http://www.lifegem.com (Diamonds are forever)
http://www.edauk.com/mens_issues.htm (Manorexia: 'Gender and sexual
orientation are significant factors. Approximately 10% of people with
eating disorders are men and approximately 20% of men with eating disorders
identify as gay, which is double the proportion of gay men in the
population . . .')
http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sexed/strapons.asp ('The Curious
Couple's Guide to Strap-On Harnesses and Dildos . . . ')
http://www.planarity.net (line/ dot game)
http://www.foon.co.uk/farcade/?page=balls (Ball bouncer game)
http://www.2flashgames.com/f/f-127.htm (Shoot alien spaceships game
http://www.godhates.com ('Wail, for the day of the Lord is near! It
will come as destruction from the Almighty. 7 Therefore all hands will
fall limp, And every man's heart will melt. 8 And they will be terrified,
Pains and anguish will take hold of them; They will writhe like a woman
in labor . . .')
http://www.godhatesfredphelps.com/hatecrimes.html ('American men and
women murdered in anti-gay hate crimes between 1992 and 1994 . . .')
http://www.godhatesamerica.com/html/Audio.html (Fred Phelps sermons,
very scary)
40,000 Pill Man's Memory Madness
An unnamed British man graduated from taking 5 ecstasy pills a weekend
to 25 a day, doctors from London University revealed in April, in a
case report published in scientific journal Psychosomatics.
The now 37 year old Brit took an estimated 40,000 ecstasy pills during
his 10 year habit, though despite quitting seven years ago remains
plagued by health problems including muscle rigidity round his mouth and
severe memory problems, said doctors.
"His long- term memory was fine but he could not remember day to day
things - the time, the day, what was in his supermarket trolley," said Dr
Kouimtsidis. "More worryingly, he did not seem aware himself that he
had these memory problems." (The Guardian)
"I thought it was a government ploy to just numb everyone's brains,
carpet-bomb them with ecstasy, and make them loving when really it's a
massive holocaust."And then I met William Orbit, so that's how I started to become a bit
intrigued." (The Guardian)Chemical Brothers chanteuse Beth Orton recalls her uncertain entry into rave culture.
"Go back to sleep. If you wake up, take sleeping tablets. That's the
answer to depression, just keep sleeping." (Mixmag) Primal Scream singer Bobbie Gillespie shares his 'answer to everything'.
"People do it indoors, in secret. There's lots of it. If the
phenomenon of belly dancing spreads out our people might react against it by
killing people. We don't want our people to become like the Taliban."
(Guardian) Hamas' new Palestinian culture minister Attallah Abu al-Sibbah explains
in April why he's planning to outlaw 'un-Islamic' belly dancing.
"We all think we are rational beings, but our research suggests... that
people with high testosterone levels are very vulnerable to sexual
cues. If there are no cues around, they behave normally, but if they see
sexual images they become impulsive." (Guardian) The more testosterone a man has, the worse his decision-making abilities become when he glimpses a sexy woman, a new survey claims.
"For a woman, a wax is necessary. It makes everything smoother and more
attainable. It makes room for all the advances I make when I'm going to
please her." (Guardian) P Diddy insists ladies should remove all pubic hair.
Men Act Like Monkeys As Donkeys Out-Do Women
A study on infidelity published in April revealed that men become more
jealous of 'alpha male' types when their girlfriends are at their most
fertile, mirroring mating behaviour amongst chimpanzees, the Telegraph
reported.
Liverpool University biological science expert Rob Burriss said females
favour high testosterone square jawed faces when fertile, and big-eyed
feminine types for long term relationships.
"Men become more wary of masculine-looking men only when the female's
facial preferences begin to shift prior to ovulation," he suggested,
"Face shape and structure are good indicators of dominance."
Meanwhile in India, feminists launched a protest over textbooks in
Rajastan, which compare women to donkeys in the new curriculum.
"A donkey is like a housewife," the book aimed at 14 year olds,
explains. "In fact, the donkey is a shade better, for while the housewife may
sometimes complain and walk off to her parents' home you'll never catch
the donkey being disloyal to his master." (Sunday Times)
In more animal/ battle-of-the-sexes news, religious police in Iran
launched a renewed morality drive against 'Bad Islamic Behaviour' this
week, cracking down on men with long hair and those wearing Western style T
shirts, and women breaking traditional dress codes.
"In our campaign, we will confront women showing their bare legs in
short pants", Tehran's police chief, Morteza Tala'I, promised.
"We are also going to combat women wearing skimpy headscarves or
without socks, short and form-fitting coats, and the ones walking pets in
parks and streets", he added (Iran Press Service).
Top Iranian cleric Hojatolislam Hassani previously accused dog owners
of 'moral depravity', in an angry tirade against canines some three
years ago.
"I demand the judiciary arrest all dogs with long, medium or short legs
- together with their long-legged owners," Mr Hassani reportedly told
reformist newspaper Etemad. "Otherwise I'll do it myself," he promised.
(BBC)
Speed Affects Men Three Times More Than Women
A US study on how much dopamine amphetamines produce has revealed that
men's brain's produce three times as much as women, prompting
scientists to suggest that the link could explain why men use more drugs.
"This plays into the alpha male stereotype," Drugscope chief Harry
Shapiro told the Guardian.
"It's possible this explains that men respond better to something that
makes them feel strong and powerful."
The scientists' findings emerged just two months after another US study
revealed that women are six times more sensitive to loud noises,
according to a report in Esquire Magazine. Researchers in the study examined
correlations between noisy areas and heart attacks and discovered that
men experiencing 'prolonged exposure to noise in the 65-75 decibel
range- just louder than conversation- were 50% more like to have an attack.
Women spending time in the same circumstances were discovered to be
300% more at risk.
In more battle of the sexes news, Scotland's Sunday Herald published an
illuminating report on London's latest clubbing craze, naked clubbing
at new biweekly club Starkers! In London Bridge.
Full nudity (apart from shoes and socks) is compulsory, the Scottish
newspaper revealed, though women at the pan-sexual all-sorts-welcome
night 'are, inevitably, outnumbered by the men.'
The club's FAQ question page on their website also has a number of
questions clearly intended only for males including 'What happens if I get
an erection?'
"No-one will mind and you will not be told off, criticised or asked to
leave",
Starkers stress. "In fact, nothing will happen at all as nobody will
take any notice. It is just one of those things that happen. Getting an
erection is perfectly natural."
US Authorities Attempt Nazi Style Gold Teeth Grab
Prosecutors in Tacoma, Washington were criticised in April for trying
to confiscate gold teeth caps known as 'grills', out of the mouths of
two men accused of drug charges.
Federal cops told prisoners Flenard Neal and Donald Jamar Lewis that
they had obtained a warrant to remove their teeth under the Asset
Forfeiture Laws and were driving the pair to the dentists to have them drilled
off when their lawyers managed to persuade a judge to halt the
operations, just in time.
"I've been doing this for over 30 years and I have never heard of
anything like this," top Washington criminal defence lawyer Richard
Troberman told the Charlotte Observer.
"It sounds like Nazi Germany when they were removing the gold teeth
from the bodies, but at least then they waited until they were dead."
America's Asset Forfeiture Laws allow cops to seize, and retain, money,
cars and even houses if they can establish even the most tenuous of
drug links, prompting civil liberties organisation the ACLU to launch an
advertising campaign in 2001 with the poignant strap line 'who can you
call when the police are the ones robbing you?'
"Thanks to civil asset forfeiture laws, possessions that took you a
lifetime to acquire can be taken in the blink of an eye, or, more
accurately, the flash of a badge," the advertisement, which appeared in the New
York Times, warned.
"The forfeiture laws were designed as a new government weapon in the
'war on drugs.' But they've done little more than provide law enforcement
with a license to steal."
Strap-on Safe Sex Suggestion
Mens News Daily columnist Denise Noe called for American teenagers to
be legally allowed to buy sex toys, in May, suggesting sex aids could be
valuable tools in the fight against teenage pregnancies and sexual
diseases.
Ms Noe also suggested strap-on dildos could be particularly effective,
especially when used by girls on boys.
"While it is best for adolescents to avoid any type of partnered sexual
activity, the penetration of a male by a female wearing a strap-on
dildo is far safer than the more usual sex acts," she pointed out.
"A teen girl who possesses a strap-on may suggest to boys that they
perform a sex act that is kinkier but far safer than the ones boys usually
suggest to girls. Boys can be expected to differ greatly in their
reactions to such suggestions. Some are certain to Just Say No. Others will
enthusiastically answer, "Yes!" she predicted.
Ms Noe also theorized many boys would balk at their girlfriend's
requests ('however, none will get pregnant' she pointed out), presumably out
of concerns at being stigmatised, though according to online strap-on
site 'The Curious
Couple's Guide to Strap-On Harnesses and Dildos' the most common myth-
that 'a man who enjoys being anally penetrated is gay' is false.
"Some gay men enjoy recipient anal intercourse; others don't. Gay men
also enjoy holding hands, kissing, massage, genital fondling and oral
sex, and heterosexual men don't shrink from these erotic activities," the
guide points out.
"Sexual orientation -- straight, gay or bisexual -- has nothing to do
with the kinds of sex acts you enjoy. Heterosexual men who enjoy
recipient strap-on play are not secretly gay; they are heterosexual men who
enjoy adventurous sex," it adds.
In more 21st century sex news, trendspotter guru Marian Salzman, who
first spotted Osama Bin Laden's potential before going on to popularise
the term 'metrosexual' predicted that asexuality will be the next big
thing, alongside 'manorexia' (male anorexia) and mass vegetarianism.
"There's a push away from intimacy, a lot of people are looking for a
way to medicate their sexuality," Ms Salzman told the Independent,
"Because it's too much trouble."
Do Psychic Vampires Really Exist?
"Yes they do. The Buddhists talk about the realm of
hungry ghosts; lost souls who don't know how to access their own energy
and have developed the ability to suck it from others; and they're all
around you, wherever you look, no question.
You can spot them easily too because you'll feel momentarily if subtly
cold and frail as you pass by, look in their eyes or spend time in
their company. Generally though, as long as you're sensitive enough to
notice what's going on and remember to keep breathing to replenish your own
energy, that should be enough to prevent any serious energy leakage.
The real problem comes when you're unaware what's happening and have a
pattern of attracting psychic vampires into your life (whether as
friends, lovers or colleagues) and find yourself weakening as a result,
through no actions of your own.
The key is to avoid focusing on such people too much, and instead of
confronting them, simply direct your attention towards breathing slowly
and purposefully to generate more of your own energy within. You should
also practise visualising yourself at the centre of a giant egg-shaped
3-D energy field that protects you from their force.
This may sound ethereal but it really works. And at the same time,
remain loving and warm, keep your chest relaxed and soft and repeat
silently over and over, 'I wish you peace'. This is the Taoist technique of
neutralising harmful energy with love and if practiced faithfully for a
couple of days whenever you're in the vampire's presence, will cause a
profound shift of dynamics."
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