Hello folks, I really need some suggestion on some serious issue that when I take will be a life changing for me in all ways. I am in relationship with a white girl, we have been dating for last 9 months, we started slow but we are in a committed relationship now. She is really in love with me and I can see that. She does every small thing for me and has a very flexible attitude. She involves me in her everyday life, I have met hers parents multiple of time and they seem to like me too. But the thing is I am not really in love with her. I like her and I enjoy her company and I try to be with her whenever I can. She has asked me to marry her. She says I am the one for her and she is ready to spend her life with me. We both are on our early 20s. When she told me the first time, I thought and I said well I think we should wait, I don’t want to get married and end up in divorce and she agreed. But she is still very serious about us getting married. We have our arguments on things and she is very compatible and compromises on things I say.  She is ready to change her ways that will work for us and says she will do anything for me. She is ready to move in together, wheather married or not and I have said yes to that, but iam very confused. I don’t know what I should do. Well about me I come from a medium class family & I am an average college student maintaining my F1 status. I don’t have good grades but still managing to move on towards my graduation. My visa has expired and I have not gone to Nepal for last 3 years and now if I go I highly doubt I will get my visa renewed because of my transcript. So basically if I go to Nepal for whatever reason, I have to stay there and finding a job here is not that easy for me. Still, I am hopeful and trying my best to get good grades and hoping to get a job. I am optimistic person. As everyone else I want a green card too. Life will be easy, better opportunity and going back home and coming here will be easy. I do not have any plans to move back yet and my parents want me to stay in USA too looking at the current situation of Nepal. The thing is I am not being able marry her just for green card. No matter how badly I need it, I am not being able to think leaving any girl after my needs are fulfilled, I  know I will feel really guilty to dump her after I got my green card. So now what I am thinking is I should marry her and hope for the best. If things go smooth then it’s great.  I will talk with my family and everything after couple of years of getting married. (Since we are on our 20s) But if we end up in divorce due to some inevitable situation then it’s all good too. at least I will have green card. And I won’t feel guilty of using her coz I never just married her for green card. I am in catch22 situation. What do you guys think I should do? I am in need of some suggestion. My main concern is Do you think marrying a white girl is appropriate for future? Like cultural differences, our attitude towards sex and relationship coz as we come from different society, all these views are different. Does anyone have similar experience? I am kind of skeptical at times and I think marrying a Nepai girl will be better and it’s more secure relationship than with an American girl, as Americans are so open towards sex and other things.  So I get mixed feelings again.... Last edited: 18-Apr-11 04:26 PM Last edited: 18-Apr-11 04:27 PM