खोला किनारी चिसो अझै हात समाई कुदेका छौँ ! भत्केको हैन बनाको घर !सयौं सपना साचेका छौँ ! बसौला भनेर !बसौला भनेर ! भनेर ! Last edited: 20-Dec-10 11:12 PM

Nepalipagal · Dec 20, 2010 11:11 PM

U need to go to some titty bars this weekend. Get laid and read your question again.

furke · Dec 21, 2010 12:25 AM

"ma ta hawa sanga udne manche kunai gantabya chaina, kunai chahana chaina na ta kunai udyasya nai..."-- " the circumstances are not under control, things happen to u, u donot make things happen" kura k ho  bhane donot dream the process, set a goal and go for it no matter how,,,,,, plan yourself  10 years form now, and follow a common path which everybody do to get there...and just remember where u have to be in 10 years . this is part one i ran out of thoughts ,,part 2 will be here pretty sooon

gaurab_10003 · Dec 21, 2010 12:28 AM

furke.... titty bar gayo....jhyap bhayo...but the problem is solved for that day, that moment. tomorrow is gonna be the same day dude gaurab_10003 nice thought buddy

kaji sahab · Dec 21, 2010 12:40 AM

Easy to say, but hard to live by; for what it's worth, here it is: Live in the moment.

riten · Dec 21, 2010 5:11 AM

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dekchidriver · Dec 21, 2010 9:10 AM

Your problems will never end till the day you die. If its not the problems like mentioned above, there will be others in Nepal too.  Life is what you make of it, YOUR PERSPECTIVE.  It is not like life is going to be any better anywhere you go.  It will be just different problems.

BathroomCoffee · Dec 21, 2010 11:39 AM

Kanji Shab, जदौ Thanks for bringing a meaningful perspective. Well, to start with it’s the nature of thoughts to cross our mind. It matters what relationship we have with our thoughts. Are we estrange, related, or engaged with our thoughts? How can I have a healthy relationship with my thoughts and my mind? Anyway, your thoughts have also been visitor at times of my existence. To my lens your question is quite an existential. Somehow caught up with here-and-now and then-and-there of life! I as well had been quite addicted to figuring out things in life, setting goals, planning, achievements, and all those good stuff. Of lately after losing a very close friend of mine it has come to my realization that nobody has it all figure out. Why be so obsessed with plans and future??? Why am I not able to enjoy “now” and be friend with “now”!!! Why my relationship is established with “past” and “future” A very good book called “The Power of Now” did help in some reflections. I am learning to say I don’t know towards many instance of life and being comfortable with not knowing. Listening to positively energizing music, watch inspirational international movies and reading mindful books, and being around positive vibe people is helping to heal and address so many thoughts that cross my mind. Lastly, I have found no treatment for meaningful life because to me life has no meaning; life gives opportunities to make meaning. My medicine is not to be obsessed with opportunities and enjoy even the struggle of now, for if I want to be nostalgic I could say how adventures my youth traveled through life.   I hope I made some sense Last edited: 21-Dec-10 12:36 PM

subrath · Dec 21, 2010 11:52 AM

are we simply surviving and "existing" here abroad or are we living life??? -> It depend on how you see it and live. this is a very simple question but if you ponder on it then it will make sense. -> Is this a v. simple q.?for me right now, i am struggling even to exist, let alone live life. for most of the people here its the same thing.....bills after bills.....simply working to survive. theres a saying in nepali "manchhe ko juni ek baar ko juni ho".........yo ek bar ko jindagi ma pani kati tension line ho saathi......first struggle to complete undergraduate, then struggle to find a job...> find employer that will sponsor H1> if one is lucky.......path to GC.......>citizenship.... yo garda garda half life ta struggle ma nai bitchha bidesh ma ani kahile jindagi jiune? -> Is struggling (working, studying or whatever you say) different than LIVING? Isn't it part of living? Would it have the same meaning if you were fed on birth with silver-spoon. Why do you need everything that you mentioned to live life? What do you really need to live?  When we have desperate cravings, we don't get it; and when we get it, our desires or cravings have already jumped and we don't enjoy it when we get it. Poors can't eat it because they can't afford it and rich can't because of their health.kahile kahi ta okka lagchha.........thakeko feel hunchha struggle garda....afno desh ma jau bhane halat testo chha.......amrika ma basau bhane life long tension chha. -> Even if we had what we usually complain about Nepal such as water, electricity, political stability similar to here, wouldn't we still be running after somethingelse?yo sajha ma afno maan ko kura rakhau saathi ho....

arahat · Dec 21, 2010 12:29 PM

kaji: If you are really serious about this question, then do some meditation (mindfulness if you will), then  try to observe the past (patterns and the moments that crystalized with you). Then rest is the un-veling of curtains by itself. I whish and hope you will get your answer soon.....

Poon-Hill · Dec 21, 2010 12:30 PM

Watch on youtube "mero jindagi mero biswash". You will get motivated. I am and I already started.

mno · Dec 21, 2010 12:47 PM

you think it's easy for americans or the road ends once you become citizen here? http://chronicle.com/article/W... July 18, 2010 What I Did When I Couldn't Find a Job Brian Hubble for The Chronicle Review Enlarge Image By Andrew Dana Hudson Gangtok, India It was a bit of a shock, losing all expectations. For years—all my life, really—parents, teachers, and guidance counselors had told me that if I went to a good college and did well, I would be able to find a job after graduation that would, with a little ladder-climbing, keep me comfortable and financially secure. After I graduated in May 2009, in political science, I moved back home to St. Louis to start my career, but there simply were no jobs to be found. Over several months, I sent out more than 500 résumés for all sorts of jobs all over the country, but I got only two interviews and no offers. I couldn't find a job, but neither could anyone I knew. Now, more than a year after graduation, most of my college friends still live at home, and many of those who have moved out are borrowing money from their parents to eat and pay rent. A few have internships, but most of those are unpaid, and few are likely to lead to jobs. Two friends who studied psychology for four years now work off the books at a sandwich shop. Another, who got her master's in development studies from Cambridge, became a barista at Starbucks. Some are applying to grad school just to have something to do, but the prospect of racking up thousands more dollars in student debt is crushing. The rest are still looking, sending out résumés, going to career fairs, volunteering for experience, and networking. Some have given up. We are a whole generation graduating into a job market that has no room for us. So I moved to India. Two years earlier, I had spent a semester abroad in the Nepali-speaking regions of northeastern India, learning the language and culture through a fantastic study-abroad program at Pitzer College. In India, I met Pema Wangchuk, editor and publisher of Sikkim NOW, the most popular local English-language daily newspaper in the state of Sikkim. A couple months into my job hunt, I sent Pema an e-mail asking if he knew anyone who might be interested in hiring a young, enthusiastic American college graduate. "We'd be quite keen to have you here," he wrote back. After lots of e-mails and late-night international phone calls, I got on a plane and went. I had been unemployed for eight months. My arrangement with NOW is informal. I help out doing a little photography, a little feature writing, and a lot of copy editing. Native-level English proficiency is a rare skill in much of the developing world. I take garbled press releases from local nongovernmental organizations and government departments, and equally garbled correspondent reports from remote districts of the state, and fix the punctuation, syntax, usage, and spelling to turn them into real news stories. I also write feature pieces for our `Sunday edition, interviewing NGO's about their projects and local experts about social trends. I'm learning a lot about reporting, writing, and running a small newspaper, not to mention life and politics in northeast India and Asia in general. I suspect I am getting more intimate and comprehensive journalism experience here than I would in almost any internship, temp position, or entry-level job that I could have found back in the States. In exchange for my work, Pema found me a flat to stay in and arranged for my meals. The cost of living here is so cheap that, with my room and board taken care of, I can live comfortably on around $10 a week. If I were back in the United States, even with the most austere lifestyle, I would be costing my family far more than that by just eating their groceries, running their utilities, and burning their gas. My Nepali, gone rusty in the two years since studying abroad, is getting better, and I'm picking up a few words of Hindi. Once a week, I volunteer at a small village elementary school, teaching tae kwon do. I've made some friends here to hike and go out on weekends with. Every day I see interesting and beautiful things: Tibetan monks playing soccer, stray dogs napping in twisty alleys, snow-covered mountains white (and high) as clouds. When I Skype and correspond with college friends back in the States, their frustration with the job hunt is palpable, and I wonder: Why don't more recent graduates move to the developing world to wait out the recession? Plenty of college grads apply for Fulbrights or the Peace Corps, but those programs are increasingly competitive. For those who don't make the cut, or who want to just try something different, why not design their own programs, as I have tried to do in Sikkim, finding NGO's, schools, businesses, or families willing to trade meals and a place to stay for help teaching English, writing grant applications, or editing press releases? In tough economic times, living in the developing world actually makes a lot of financial sense. In the more prosperous 90s and aughties, plenty of educated and highly skilled Indians moved to America and Europe to find jobs. The cost of living there was higher, but if they made even a little above their expenses, that money would translate into a huge amount back home. What I'm doing is a reversal of that. With opportunities for making ends meet so hard to come by in the States, I have moved to a place where a little savings and family support go a lot farther. Globalization can flow both ways. Making such a jump isn't easy. Working out visas and permits is always frustrating, and moving to India or Brazil or Ghana won't help pay off student loans—but then, neither will futilely sending out résumés every day while racking up credit-card debt. Some parents may be nervous about letting their kids go abroad on their own, but to them I say: Stop worrying. In many parts of the developing world, Westerners are in no more danger than they would be commuting on the highway every day, and if your children are willing to work and give up a few luxuries, the trip will save you money in the end. Though I suspect it isn't impossible to just pick a country, show up, and work something out, I'm not sure I would recommend that. My own "program" was made possible by the contacts I developed studying abroad. So even in a bad economy, a semester abroad—especially in a location more exotic than London or Paris—can be a great investment that opens a lot of doors. Colleges can help, too. Academics are a worldly bunch, and universities could use their professors' contacts abroad to find informal volunteer arrangements for many graduates to support them for a year or two while the economy, hopefully, recovers. It's raining today, and as I write this, I am sipping sweet tea and watching clouds dance like titans in the valley below. I grew up among the corn and soybean fields of the endlessly flat American Midwest, and the foothills of the Himalayas are an astonishing sight. I'm not sure how long I'll stay in India. I'm returning home in November to spend the holidays with my family, and I may test the job market again. Asia is my economic escape hatch. If things don't work out in the States, I'll go back to a place where I can live cheaply and make my savings last. There might not be room for us recent college graduates in the job market at home, but the world is a big place. I bet somewhere out there is an opportunity for each of us. So go. Andrew Dana Hudson majored in political science at Fordham University. He works as an associate editor at Sikkim NOW, a small newspaper in India. You can follow his blog at www.andrewdanahudson.com.

arahat · Dec 22, 2010 10:22 AM

It is true, the Buddha said, that life is a suffering. Being an immigrant and a student, the quote is even more true. You have to deal with getting a job without EAD, finding enough time for school assignments, passing the classes to maintain visa status, job hunting in aftermath of Economic Pearl Harbor, H-1, GC and the whole nine. Unfortunately, all that seems to be getting more and more of a hazy dream with even the fellow Americans struggling to find a job. A lot of people I know had far more care-free lives back in Nepal since they have either a thriving family business or a decent real estate income stream. All they had to do was - comply with their parent expectations which can sound absurd at times. People with resources could go home and pursue their own little dreams that they have a good shot at by utilizing their US experience. The rest of you, I am sorry, you are kinda stuck here, you have to deal with it and attain your goals anyhow; Just don't do anything that is plain illegal or something that could get you in deep sh*t. Lennon said there's no problem only solutions. Likewise, if you are a little creative without any regard for what others might say or think, you can solve a lot of your problems all at once. Think and act like you are in America. If I may also add,  Lagasse said life does not hand you things you have to go out there and make things happen for you. The year and the (lost) decade is coming to an end and when else could be a better time to reflect and create one's resolutions as we step into the new unknown fourth-dimension.

mR. hydE · Dec 22, 2010 10:27 AM