Hurray. Go ask your Mother

jptsamachar · Sep 28, 2010 1:07 AM

ChicksRock, I know that many of these guys are trying to give the best advice that they can give to guys like us. But without understanding what a sociopath is (and how they cannot be reasoned with--by definition), there is no way they will understand your story. You cannot expect these other guys to understand. They either do not know what a sociopath is or have never have one in their family. Probably it is both. Definition of a sociopath: http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.ht... But I understand what you are talking about. The pain of a society like ours forcing you to love someone who has nothing but their own interest in mind...is undescribable. It like having someone with a Hannibal Lecter kind of personality (from the movie Silence of the Lambs) in your family...as your mother. For most of you, that is more than your imagination could stretch. And for good reason. Just be thankful that you were spared experiences like the ones that ChicksRock and I have gone through.  I wouldn't wish the kind of mother that both I or ChicksRock have had...on anyone. If you really want to know what it feels like to have a sociopath in the family, read this article. But remember that this is from an American perspective. To be in a society like Nepal and to have a sociopath as a mother is 4 or 5 times worse. Why? Because of the kind of responses you see in the thread where people who have no concept of what a sociopath is...want to tell you...'just love your mother and everything will be ok...afterall, she is your mother. She wants nothing but the best for you.' http://www.youmeworks.com/soci... Like Hurray said, just watch American news of father's abusing daughters. Mother's killing their children. It is just that in our society no one talks about these unpleasant things so it never comes out. In this thread I have seen reasoning where some people are saying: "She was not born that way, so love her anyway." I don't understand this reasoning. If someone becomes a serial killer or goes crazy beyond the point that they don't know what they are doing, should you just close your eyes and let them destroy your life also...all in the name of loving them? Why? Why is that a good idea? Just because they are family, even if they are not acting like family, should you just sacrifice your sanity and peace of mind because they are related to you? Why does that make sense? Why would that be good for anyone?

NayaJivan · Sep 28, 2010 3:27 PM