please tell him to not go around cheating making this an excuse....give some time to the new mom and child to bond...this is very common than you think that the new dad becomes jealous of their own child that the wife's attention is shared...now he is not the onlyone she will go headover heels after....be a MAN and be a good father...sex and all will prolly go on after the wife's hormones come to normalcy....also ask him to read on post partum depression for both parents ( research say that even men suffer from it) ....

pixie · Sep 1, 2010 8:54 AM

His kid is already 2 years now so he's getting stressed. Thats why he confided in me.

sabin29 · Sep 1, 2010 9:07 AM

Pay for the baby sitter and go for outings.Restaurants ,movies,plays etc.Even better is to go for the second honeymoon minus the baby to rekindle your sex life.

Tisa · Sep 1, 2010 9:49 AM

Did you try to discuss his past sexual life? She may had bad sex experiences or had to face bad sexual encounters, she was not ready and but participated unwillingly, or the labor was unbearable and she thinks she has go through it again. I mean some negative psychology may have developed. I think the lady needs help more than your friend.   I think it is your own story, try to remember the first sexual night, analyse it and try to find out anything did not go right direction. Where were you during the birth? Think as a psychologist you may get answer. You missed 2 years and you tried to jump right away ( I would have done the same).  Last edited: 01-Sep-10 05:24 PM

Bhojpure01 · Sep 1, 2010 3:35 PM

Role play brother role play. thats the best way, play nurse, laywer, police, school girl, bad girl. Man that will surely spice up things. Its hard with nepali girls but you got to introduce it sometimes. believe me its amazing.

terobaaje · Sep 1, 2010 5:43 PM

I'd tell your friend to speak frankly with his wife.. "I need to relive, if not you someone else, don't blame me for cheating stuff." I did it worked just fine, my women turned about-face and now we're normal.. took may be 4-5 days for her to get normal..

khamthapa · Sep 2, 2010 12:09 AM

Watch porn when making out. It will turn her on.

furke · Sep 2, 2010 12:31 AM

First why would you be so interested in your friend's sex life. Second why on earth your friend ask you rather than going to expert for consultation?  My suggestion Go to your friend's house when his wife is alone ask her to have sex with you. If she refuses you have some problem, if she accepts it your friend have a problem. if she refuse it you have some problem         go see a doc............................... 

chilime · Sep 2, 2010 12:47 AM

I would not suggest any porn, it will be the worst nightmare to her and will be inviting more problem. Porn is an acting and they did not show real love making. They will show liking privet parts and various odd positions which is not a  day to day love making style and a shy Nepali woman would not take it positively, read my words.  Do not do it, you will be pushing her further away. But any movie that goes the love making scene with the flow of film will be fine. Have any of you taken marketing class ? They explain one type of customer who exactly have to clue but the sales man has to find out with the right key, I think this gentleman (you) have to become successful marketer and find out the reason for not participating and take care from there. Ask her for a tel massage and ask if she likes too? Which may give you chance to touch every part of her body even privet parts , be professional and do not show any intention to be love making, it may arouse her and then you may see some sing for yes and she may be worried about being pregnant (she had to carry by herself may had negative impact), talk to her and get yes before you wanted to push in as you have been awaiting for couple years.  I asked you some questions, did you(him) have a normal sex during your (his) home time? If it was did she felt enjoyable or just satisfied you, she lay down and you tossed her as you wanted and even she was not wet, you just pushed it through every night?If she is not wet and you pushed it through,  it may rapture the vagina walls due to the friction of both's dry privet parts, lady will be the sufferer. Those issues must be taken into consideration. Ask you friend to cross his legs until she is ready.  Sorry fella, being rough but trying to pass the message.  Last edited: 02-Sep-10 10:04 AM

Bhojpure01 · Sep 2, 2010 10:01 AM

Where the F is Nas when we really need him???

MillionDollars · Sep 2, 2010 10:07 AM

Oh My God ! I just saw this thread. This does need my immediate attention like MillionDollars Bro said. Sabin29 bro, Here is the thing. Most of the women find it hard to digest but 80% of the time, married men are having extramarital affairs precisely because of the same reasons pointed above by you bro. Once the women have children, their vagina becomes as big as the head of the baby that popped out. So how you gonna ask a man to put his penis in such a big hole, huh? It won't even scratch the surface of their vagina. So once the women have their children, they could literally kiss their sex life good bye. So married life is only good until having a baby for the ladies. Only one man really understood the plight of men world wide so Praise Be Upon Him, Prophet Muhammad allowed all the Muslims to marry atleast 4 wifes for this reason. Isn't that good for us men ? I really appreciate P.B.U.H Prophet Muhammad for his vision. All the above remedies are 100% failure. The only recourse is to have extramarital affairs. Women should try to understand their men on why their husbands need to fulfill their sexual urges. If they understand this, they can live happily forever, if they don't they will surely end up with a divorce. And if you women divorce your husband, nobody will marry you because you have a big vagina. And I bet there are no men in the world whose penis is as thick as a baby's head.

Nas · Sep 2, 2010 12:52 PM

hhaaha , hasayo NAS le,,,, sadhai jastoI liked it.

furke · Sep 2, 2010 1:00 PM

Nas that was funny. That's why most women do C-Section thesedays.

grgDai · Sep 2, 2010 1:04 PM

NAS, I remember once you said men cum (विर्य इस्खलन) very soon so wife are not interested to have sex  because they won't be fully satisfied as men will stop before she cums. This may also be the reason. May be sabin29 bro still can not give her hard for even 2 minutes and she is no more interested as it will only cause more non fulfilment of her sexual desire. And she must be masturbating watching porn and teasing her pubis, flaps, clitoris and inserting finger into vagina when sabin is not home. Sabin29 bro must build up stamina and try to satisfy her first and then only ejaculate. More you have sex using no condom, more you build your stamina because the oestrogen harmone from women will make penis stay hard for more time.  (This is from my experience; I have been married for 5 years and we still make out once a day with some exceptions, in the beginning 4/5 times a day, never had a baby, she is still horny like hell and need more than me, is ready all the time, however she loves me a lot and she never cheats me neither do I, we watch porn sometimes, She masturbates sometimes and tell me after I come home, There is nothing wrong in licking, sucking with a single partner, do it and enjoy so that you won't be looking for it outside, husband wife ma k laaz k ghin?) Last edited: 02-Sep-10 01:23 PM

furke · Sep 2, 2010 1:14 PM

furke · Sep 2, 2010 1:17 PM

Man did you watch it or heard the message from Raj? He loves the way american girl make love and they suck privet part and he did not get from his wife. कुन्ताकी बुहारी  भटवास् खाएकी, once she watches it and she will hate it to the extreme and forget about making love. By mistakenly if you show her making love by two people and two way, read my lips she may ask you to bring her back to Nepal.  Great Advise: Never Ever do that mistake.  What did you do to overcome this hurdle? We wanted to hear your input and any improvement? Last edited: 03-Sep-10 08:12 PM

Bhojpure01 · Sep 2, 2010 2:52 PM