How many of you belive in Long distance realation ship..

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How many of you belive that Long distnace relaionship work...?   What are the factors that make relationship complex..? Why relationship is always complex...   Please share your  personal feeling..

osla432 · Mar 5, 2010 2:46 PM · 42,622 views

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If you believe that nobody /nothing else makes you happier than being with that special person, then it’s worth being in that long-distance relationship.  Distance is nothing when it comes to relationships as long as you're with the "right" person. The great thing about it is that you don’t have to deal with that person when you don’t want to :P : ) Last edited: 06-Mar-10 09:57 AM

Shantii · Mar 6, 2010 9:56 AM

Oh, and if just a thought of that person brings a smile on your face, don't let that person just pass you by because of "distance." You two can always move in together or be closer when circumstances change.

Shantii · Mar 6, 2010 10:22 AM

And also, sometimes: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. 8 months and ticking :) Hang in there fellas!!

dekchidriver · Mar 6, 2010 10:47 AM

" A short distance love and a long one kills it." Forgot the person who said it. 

aveeral · Mar 6, 2010 12:24 PM

फुलबारी को चलचित्र हेरर लिएको आनन्द र फुलबारिमै घुमेर लिएको आनन्दको मज्जाको तुलनै छैन । यो त उही सरदार जि को किस्सा जस्तो भयो नि long distance relationship?  May I ask a question, is it a friendship relation or more than that ? What is the length of time you guys talking about? Last edited: 08-Mar-10 04:15 PM

syanjali · Mar 7, 2010 1:39 PM

so! this is your interest??? :-) Relationships depends on everything about you, so how come you ask someone else about the factors effecting it? thats stupid

ktmbts · Mar 7, 2010 1:51 PM

KT; To be in relationship needed two people, a face to face relationship no matter what kind of relationship you are talking about will last longer but the long distance start fading as the time passes.

syanjali · Mar 10, 2010 3:35 PM

All the forces(love or whatever forces) inversely propotional to square of distance. Its not weird but its the natural law. You must be wondering why it is inversely proportional to square to distance, its simple. One inverse of distance  is contributed by man and another inverse of distance is contributed by Woman. So they multiply together :). There is another factor also "TIME". It is inversely proportional to time also. Force of Long Distance Relationship >1/(d^2*Time) Sorry. This is the rule and you have to admit it

mampakha · Mar 10, 2010 5:44 PM

there no rule like that, you just made that up.  There is no rule to how emotions and you will react.  There is a probability no rule.  Long distance is case by case basis.  

mucho_fiesta · Mar 11, 2010 7:09 AM

There is nothing in this universe without rules!. There is nothing such thing as random. Yes I do in emotion but emotion exist then it has be govern my some rule. You just don't want to admit it. Thats the different case. Otherwise why most of the long distance relationship end up with tragedy. Yes I have also seen people keep their long distance relationship maintaining more than 7 years. It is because of the proper communication and understanding. But even with those Proper communication and understanding, if it continues (lets say 15 years), it will fade. Sex, Touch & Intimacy is human need. To do it, you must be in touch!

mampakha · Mar 11, 2010 9:47 AM

Mampakha........naam jastoe vhaya ni kura vhanay thik garnue hudeo raicha. Absolutely agree with you; although teyo formula chahi khai kahilay dekhya koe thina....thaha paya khusi lagoye. Love comes from Pleasure. (I am not defining Pleasure here as a act of only making sex or intimacy). Anything that brings happinees and sense of fullfillement and also things that you wish to do is simply Pleasure. As mampaka said Sex, Touch & Intimacy is human need ( we know few expactations...thats why they are excpetations; not the normal way of living standrad life; they are special as many things have). Besides, there are other chemical reactions and hormones alterations that alters mind and body. The biggest fear comes from loosing things or persons that brings pleasure to you. While some ppl (very few) in the hope of reaching these- "things or persons ",  do everything on their power to control. however, with time, these fear and hope grows and ppl tend to look for other alternatives. I am not telling that these long distance realations doesn't work. They do, but to very few ppl. But @ somepoint the "need" overcomes your "determination". this somepoint varies greatly with individuals. In simple, any relationship is like a "growing seed"; a constant attachment and nourishment is essentail for healthy growing.

STUPIDA · Mar 11, 2010 2:23 PM

I have lived it. after almost 4 yrs of long distance relationship. here we are today happily married. Its that love between you ppl that  keeps u going not the distance. Good luck. Last edited: 11-Mar-10 03:17 PM

abc_n_xyz · Mar 11, 2010 3:16 PM

It does not work. If anyone of you are in it, know that you will suffer soon. If possible get together, otherwise you are 100% to suffer. That's it.

ANS · Mar 11, 2010 4:43 PM

its totally depends on the individual who are in relation ..Bt I think if u r truly in relationship and  believe each other distance dosent make any different ..main imp thing is how u r communicating each other and share feeling so .....distance  is not a big deals....love  matter feelings...not  distance....

mn_npl · Mar 11, 2010 4:56 PM

I agree with ANS, there is a saying " distance is too intimate what wind is to fire, it extinguishes the small but rekindles the great" but it is just a saying... in reality distance does matter a lot when it comes to relationship.

new baneshwor · Mar 11, 2010 9:38 PM

I do agree in long distance relationship, in my case our relationship is going strong and its in the third year running. bhanchan ni  lek kai ko maya mitho, najikai ko nisthuri bhanda..  

sojo_kta · Mar 11, 2010 11:49 PM

wow ..Nice saying.... Sojo-Kta...

mn_npl · Mar 12, 2010 8:46 AM

I really don't think anyone — at least not any woman — intends to end up in a long-distance relationship, but sometimes it just happens. You fall in love with him/her in town, then he/she moves out of town. Or you meet him at a military installation, and suddenly one of you gets shipped out. It is an understandably difficult commitment to honor if you and your sweetheart decide to keep the relationship going while you are apart. Difficult but not impossible. I have found that there are keys to keeping the romance alive, if both parties are willing and determined to make it work. Keep in mind that the length of time you had to get to know the person before you were separated will have a lot to do with how successful your long-distance romance will be.   Love Across the Miles I must admit that I have had one such relationships for 6 years till we finally decided to get married. We went to Nepal and got married. Trust me it was an inter cast marriage and his family was against our relationship until they gave up. I have found that there are keys to keeping the romance alive, if both parties are willing and determined to make it work. Keep in mind that the length of time you had to get to know the person before you were separated will have a lot to do with how successful your long-distance romance will be.          Define Your Relationship One of the first things you should do with your long-distance sweetheart is to agree on what the relationship will be going forward: Are you going to be just friends? Intimately connected when it's convenient? Or does this have the makings of a real and solid love affair? Determining limits is of the utmost importance, because as things get difficult, it will help ground the two of you if you know the boundaries of your relationship. It will also help avoid heartache later because you will both know where you stand. Be Honest This is very important, and I don't just mean disclosing the superficial things (like where he was when you called and he didn't answer). You must be willing to discuss more sensitive issues, too, like your sex life. If this relationship is to really hold its ground, talking openly and honestly about your sexual needs is one of the biggest keys to success. Generally speaking, communicating openly with your partner about your sex life will allow you to find out if the other person is truly committed to you physically as well as personally. It is not an easy subject to broach, but it can be very revealing in terms of how much the two of you are willing to disclose for the sake of your love. (The only exception I would make to this regards the military: When you or your love is overseas, or fighting in a war, this kind of honesty may be way too much to handle and would be best left to discuss at a more opportune time. Encouragement would be the order of the day until you or he returns home.) Exercise Patience Boy, is this one tough! I personally am not a patient woman, and one of the pitfalls for me in long-distance relationships has been the waiting. I recommend that you find things to do here at home to occupy your time. If your career or your children do not keep you busy enough, get involved in some volunteer work or maybe go back to school. The key is to avoid weighing down your long-distance conversations with whining or unrealistic demands, solely because you are bored or missing the other person. Give Encouragement Make it a habit to always ask how things are going — with school, work or family — and then proceed to encourage him in those areas where he is especially talented.  Encouragement, assistance and praise work well over email, too. It's also a good idea to "smile over the phone" as much as possible. A good mood from you on days when your partner may be feeling especially needy can make both of you feel better. If you follow this advice, you will be on the road to making your long-distance relationship last. Even better, it may end someday with the two of you finally in the same place, having learned so much more about each other simply because you had to put in a bit more effort. PS: He gave me a Divorce Papers after one and a half years of our marriage. Believe me or not he decided to give me those papers on my Birthday!! Things changed after our marriage. To him his friends were so important than me. He would even invite friends along with us on our Honey Moon. I didnot imagined my life that way. He started staying at his friends house for 4 days and came home for 3 days. I was so depressed and sad. I was better off single before I got married to him.. My life changed drastically but is remained the same. I guess he felt like I was keeping him away from his friends so I let him go to his friends for good. I couldn't take it anymore. Later I found love letters in his emails. We dont live together anymore since last December.

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hellohinamaste · Mar 19, 2010 2:12 AM

As long as you have Passion,Love,Honesty for each other Distance does not really matter. Jab Miya Bibi Raji to Kya Karega Paji!! When you are together make sure you cherish her, shower her/him with your love. So when you are away she /he will remain faithful.

Dance Zone · Mar 19, 2010 6:45 PM

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