'It ' s funny when people discuss Love Marriage vs Arranged. It ' s like asking someone, If suicide is better or being murdered'.... :P - stolen from a desi forum :D

K6 · Dec 13, 2009 2:56 PM

It does not matter whether you do love or arranged marriage. Only difference between love and arranged is  In love marriage you know the person very well before marriage but not completely. I think marriage is another name of sacrifice so if you are willing to make sacrifice then you are good to go. For me Arranged marriage is fine coz i have no any other options. Chance of finding a girl myself is very less because i work 9-5 and i am not in college. Its been like ages i have not seen any Nepali Girls. People are just scared of arranged marriage nothing else.

daka · Dec 13, 2009 4:39 PM

Nah m not married and nowhere near to be either.. still have like 4-6 yrs of my independence with me..luckily.. for the assurance fact u can see it all over the places..I've seen many ppl who does tht and many of my cousins did tht..I don't think any parents will block their children out of their life just because they married someone frm other caste or religion...well purano jamana ko kura vaye aarkai..but I might be wrong too.Ii don't really knw whr u r coming frm and stuff..anyways Best of Luck with u'r life and hope u will make a right decision.. Peace

Miss Independant · Dec 13, 2009 7:05 PM

 Iwas not making up the story ...the first incident actually happend to one of my close friends and he is in a really bad state right now...blaming himself , lack of confidence or trust in other girls, etc. I was really surprised to hear his story as well because it sould like a story but for some people it can come true!... But then even in love marriage, what if you fall out of love at some point? Would you then leave the person because you r no longer in love? it can happen too, right?

Sheetalb · Dec 14, 2009 8:58 AM

Well, My appology..........But as I said that was just my thought...it was first thing that came to my mind, while reading the post.........nontheless, I am very aware with our Nepalese mentality - 'one ear, two ear, and then field' ("aak kan, dui kan, maidan"). however, it doesn't make of all us into same default. Anyway, this is why I like this kind of healthy conversatations. It really made me think over all these during this weekneed. If all these can be true, and ppl can go to such extend for various reason....I would really wait and find the right one before making any decision. As few of u said above, I still think whatever works best for you is the best choice as marriage doesn't come with guarantee. But thanks to all out there, for their inputs......It really helped me.

STUPIDA · Dec 14, 2009 9:37 AM

please no arrange.. takes out the fun of wooing the girl u lobb. :D wtf...arrange is for cheaters (pun not intended :P).

dekchidriver · Dec 14, 2009 10:19 AM

"But then even in love marriage, what if you fall out of love at some point? Would you then leave the person because you r no longer in love? it can happen too, right?"  Excellent point. 

Quagmire · Dec 14, 2009 10:22 PM

Speaking of Marriages, this seems to be a perfect marriage that everyone could dream of. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v...

Quagmire · Dec 15, 2009 9:35 PM