Divorce is a long and a complicated process. It involves Property and Children. In Nepal, men are more favor by laws. If you are man and willing to give her 0 property and no children, deal will be done in less than a year. What a sweet deal!!! If woman wants your property, then she has to be certain age to get that benefits.  What a Bull Sh**T.  Word of wise. Hire an attorney.

Sexy In Sari · Nov 15, 2009 11:56 AM

Yeah, If not at these times, when will you spend some - to hire a divorce attorney. They need people like you to maintain their econosystem. Good Luck & I hope you didnt have any kids. Nevermind!

Sleepless · Nov 15, 2009 12:15 PM

Just saying you are in USA and she is coming soon and wanted divorce? What is your status? How you end up marrying her? What are the hurdles ? Why you want a divorce before you trying to patch those errors and emotions ? It seems even you have not enjoyed your married life and not able to know her well. In Nepali there is a saying "जहाँ नसो पस्यो त्यहा माया बस्यो ", may be after arrival you will start feeling better? Or are you having an affair or she is having an affair ? Marriage is a contract and sacrifice, you both has to develop an understanding , and give and take theory has to apply. Do you have any children?If you want to be your counselor , you have to write all your history , childhood to present. It may be 100 of pages before we say a word for advise" your marriage did not work out , you go for divorce" Boy it is a real hard game and do you see the celebrity divorces cases are so juicy. Each and every TV tries for coverage. Man it is easy to screw relationship but hard to fix it.    Last edited: 15-Nov-09 12:16 PM

syanjali · Nov 15, 2009 12:15 PM

Syanjali manche le ta advise diyeko .. Lol ...Kissna , just a word of advice , get a good lawyer rather than a counselor . Specially someone from syanja ...

executioner · Nov 15, 2009 1:01 PM

Sexy in sari you obviously know nothing about law in Nepal. Law in Nepal is heavily in favor of woman.  It is different case that most of the woman don't know and never use it. sexy in sari said.......... man and willing to give her  property and no children, deal will be done in less than a year Doesn't it prove law is in favor of  woman.  Who wouldn't want to keep their children.  I read somewhere that in about 90 percent of cases man loses right to their children.  In case of divorce most of the man not only lose their property but also their children. So how does that prove law is in favor of man.   You are obviously confused between the benifit woman gets from her father . Woman have right of property form her father and husband. Man have right of property from his father.  When a man and woman divorce under normal circumstances the woman have right of certain alimony from husband of the property he have earned after the marriage. Opposite is not true.  A man will seldom get the money from his wife . The new constitution authorizes woman to stay married, no matter how bad is the relationship between the husband and wife. If a woman chooses not to divorce her husband, the marriage can last for ever. There is no law on years of separation in nepal unlike other countries (eg. in Thiland it is 3 years) and custody.  Last edited: 15-Nov-09 01:35 PM

no_quiero · Nov 15, 2009 1:22 PM

SIS knows nothing. She is definitely one of those girls who are brainwashed by american college system and its propaganda. I remember sitting in a class in my undergrad. While going through a research paper in economics about fertility decisions, all commentators on the paper kept on repeating the same theme: that fertility decision in our society is taken by men. (abortions, number of children etc). Men are dominant but most of these decisions are taken jointly. Nepali men are no more dominant than American rednecks, anyway, and lots of rights in Nepal were given to women without them even having to fight for it, unlike in America (eg, suffrage rights). Anyway, the girls from south asia , even though they are proud of heritage in some ways, get brainwashed after going through these brainwashing sessions, without them knowing it. Several Nepali girls I know are unmarried until 28, 29, because after they have a job in the states, they are afraid to marry Nepali men and they are also afraid to date white men--some are often simply disgusted at the white man when he starts talking about past girlfriend. (Our educated women don't normally drive BMWs i.e. Black, Moslems and Whites, anyway). Lots of these girls are actually raised in conservative families backhome, and whatever transformation they might have gone through, they still can't eat pork and beer with a white man without feeling some discomfort. On the other hand,  they also don't understand that Nepali men are not as bad as their liberal education teaches them to be. Coming back to SIS--you have no idea, but our law gives exclusive right to women for divorce. Women can get children and half of the properties. It is almost impossible for a man to get divorce on his own. This is true in India too. In fact, I think it is unfairly tilted in the favor of women.

pire · Nov 15, 2009 1:47 PM

Yes, It is very hard for a man to get a divorce even when wife leaves home and does not comeback for several years unless she files for divorce. It is extremely hard to get divorce without wife's consent. So if you marry a bad women you are doomed - half of your property gone and years spent pleading her to get in divorce term. Nepali law is F----- stupid.

pokhari · Nov 15, 2009 5:14 PM

To me it sounds like a divorce in fake marriage. Their marriage sound like fake marriage such as paper marriage for green card. They are going to get divorce after the girl has been given a permission/visa or green card to come to USA. I doubt it could be a marriage within relation!!!!!!!! I heard few stories like that.

sachokura · Nov 15, 2009 6:22 PM

FYI, SIS is a dude.

Quagmire · Nov 15, 2009 6:55 PM

Hey guys, Thanks for all your comments. Its not like we did not try, but things are that we are just in a verge of killing ourselves as we are not in compatible to anything. I agree mistake has been made, but the punishment is too harsh for us till now. So we totally agree. I know it can be done in US in few days if you can prove your residency for few 1000's, but we are just looking for all the options. If nothing work we may be ready to be sacrificing our lives living as it is thinking marriage is just in papers...but as I know nothing is clear other than that we are as incompatible as it can e thought of. I will read kurakani for few more times assuming somebody give me the possible details of the process, as the information cannot be found anywhere online for Nepal, as it could be found for here in US. Thanks

kissna · Nov 15, 2009 9:55 PM

If as Sachokura said is correct, initiation should be from girls side make you easier, but be aware of alimony. Executioner:  Do not act like a child, be logical and be a man. If the girl wanted to screw this man, she can have a civil marriage, enjoy a married life with another man , have kids but still be an unmarried woman in the eye of law  and can get alimony for life long.  Dude what in Name, get into the content.

syanjali · Nov 16, 2009 9:50 AM

syanjali · Nov 16, 2009 9:50 AM

In My case, I brought my x-wife in the States, Spent about 8 months together. She seemed more dmanding, didn't work out well that of her wishes increased largely like in American bitches. I applied for divorce, and got the final decree in one year of the filing date. It is a lot better to get divorce here in US rather than in Nepal. I am not aware of much of Nepal's divorce law, but as I have heard and folks are talking here, I am convinced  that you cannot get divorce from your wife until her consent to dissolve the marriage contract. This is absolutely, unfair, and biased law. My suggestion would be, if you really want to bring her here (in US), don't even think of divorcing her in Nepal (which is more unlikely). Once she gets here, you both try working out. May be it will work, after sometime together and knowing each other in a better way, just like Syangjali Dai has advised. If not, go for the separation process, for which you need to be physically separated for a year with no cohabitation (depending which state you reside) to be qualified the filing for divorce. Hope this helps.

nikesh282 · Nov 16, 2009 10:24 AM