post breakup

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I try not to think about her everyday but it is not easy after you been with her for 4 years and now i am all alone. I miss those good times i had with her. When nobody was around i could always count on her. I even baaal my frens because she was there for me. Now we break up and I feel all alone, I have no good frens and no gf. I am by myself......... I wish we could have been together because I still love her a lot but dont want to be with her.I dont think i can be with anyone else too so soon because I still love her a lot but everytime i talk to her, its an argument. But later I feel like maybe I should have talked good to her because we were not like that before then why all this now? Now I am done with college and work. I dont meet anybody new that often too, sometime it haunts me that how long will i be alone or will there be anyone who can replace our 4 years long relationship? Sometimes I feel very sad and depressed.

bhikari · Jul 30, 2009 7:03 AM · 3,434 views

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same here dude

raju161 · Jul 30, 2009 8:22 AM

find another fish. this fish is dead.

Power_Ranger · Jul 30, 2009 11:00 AM

I wish it was that easy..not atleast for some time. feel so alone :(

bhikari · Jul 30, 2009 11:37 AM

It takes some time Bhikari, and your pain should soon fade away. I understand when a relationship you have been in for a longtime comes to end, you seem to lose the few friends you already have. If there had some mutuel friends, it becomes hard to call them up and spend time with them since the situation becomes ery awkward. Don't worry, you should get over soon. If not, try to get yourself involve in somethings. If you are in US, you can do many voluntery work. Join some dance club or start some sports. Get you mind away from something. Join a meditation or yoga club.

hurray · Jul 30, 2009 11:46 AM

It is said, thoughts lead to feelings, and feelings lead to actions such as behaviors which develops life situations. Check your thoughts and feelings, are they rational or irrational beliefs. When you are comfortable with your self esteem-encourage yourself to confront your beliefs. To learn further Google on cognitive behavior therapy and/or solution focused therapy. However, the biggest concern might be YOU ARE NOT READY TO HELP YOURSELF. Perhaps recognize that TIME heals everything as nothing is constant. Develop some coping mechanism with positive self-talk and life achievements. Of course every individual has different perspectives and may not work on you. At the same time BRO! It’s worth try. You tried.  

subrath · Jul 30, 2009 12:58 PM

Easy to say but indeed very hard to adhere.

raju161 · Jul 30, 2009 1:12 PM

Make 1 dollars change for 50 dollars and go to Dance Club man. Enjoy life with full throttle. Give shit to lost ones and try making new ones. Pay for an hour man or you worry paying as you used to get it on free. Don't worry situation eventually changes; few left you today every body will be after you tomorrow.

Ganjadi · Jul 30, 2009 1:59 PM

thanks for the feedback guys.. Time will definately heal . makes me feel better knowing i am not the only one :)

bhikari · Jul 30, 2009 8:36 PM

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