I am feeling 100% same to you CRYSTAL5. I have been living here for almost 4 years . I am feeling all the time tensoin , I never feel good even a single second.That's why I changed my name too. It's me PANGRE.

pangre · Mar 15, 2009 9:14 AM

hello this thread very good cauze i also trying to go overboard for study. but still confuze cauze i donno which country to select from. UK, USA, JAPAN, RUSSIA, GERMANY, AUSTRALIA, SPAIN, INDIA,CHINA so confuzing. so if more americanoes can open up and tell life in usa and elsewhere. is it true that tea is call coffee in usa? and there is really no tea in usa except green tea drank by asians? thanks SKH

sajhakhohero · Mar 15, 2009 11:02 AM

It is later one in your question but everybody seems to be not able to leave this though.

nepal_ko_lato · Mar 15, 2009 11:06 AM

Hello there, First and foremost I don’t think that most of the people here from Nepal are satisfied at all. The first big reason is that we are not with our loved once.. which means for us parents matter than anything else.. No matter how Americanized we would be, each and every time we meet other people we have to prove which country we belong to. As for do I regret or not.. I don’t.. coz if u regret for what you have chosen then its simply giving up. And I don’t believe that’s their in Nepalese blood. We are known for our fighting spirit. So, never give up. Its true that we Nepali people don’t want to be that socialized with other Nepal people coz they first thing we start with is asking personal information. Which is very wrong!!  One shouldn’t be like that. Well,  I see that you have a lack of planning in your life. Be clear to your goals. If u want to stay in this country then set your mind. Or else if u think that you can make change in our country then focus in your studies and get back home.. as for not completing you studies until not its no one to blame but you. Coz its all up to you. I don’t know in which state are you in but here in Boston, there are some reasonable college and you can find jobs easily. Transportation facilities are very good. And I have seen myself many stds have completed their studies and now working for a good company. And you might think that at this period of time how come one gets good. Its true that its have to find a job but their many company which are hiring in this condition as well. They don’t sponsor for your H1 but still u can work for a year and get back for your masters or get back to the home country.. Well, I think that I over wrote here. Anyways all the very best for your future ahead.   cheers            

BostonKtm · Mar 15, 2009 11:31 AM

Oh really Boston, there are companies who hire you for the opt period than hiring an much qualiied American citizens who recently got laid off? are you talking about desi consultancies again or korean restaurants?     Last edited: 15-Mar-09 01:17 PM

dyamn · Mar 15, 2009 1:17 PM

 sajhakhohero bro,   Based on your English you should choose China or any other non-English speaking country.   Thank you.  

dhoti_prasad · Mar 15, 2009 1:42 PM

Hey Sajhakhohero, First of all, thanks for leaving a comment on my post. Hmm, I am not gonna be able to give you advice on which country to go for further studies or to work cause I am also very confused myself. Sorry about that. I hope you will able to get in touch with people abroad who are doing well. Tea is not called coffee in America. Tea and coffee is totally different. Tea comes from leaves and coffee comes from coffee beans. And about green tea, it is not only popular with asians but also popular with other races. I believe it is because of the health benefits of it but personally I dont like the taste. Best, Crystal.

crystal5 · Mar 15, 2009 2:17 PM

also one more question. if i go to america is it easy to find jobs?i heard can work in petrol pump cause many petrol pump job is available.also dhoti_prasad thanks you for the advice. But dhoti bhaiya i heard heard americanoes do not SPEAK english either.They Speak and Write Americans which i heard is NOT english.example,  in america left is right, and right is left, referigrator is freezer...etcso why you say i should go to other non-english  talking country.?crystal so do you drink tea in usa? i heard usa not selling tea only coffee.is it true. They say you drink tea you become a traitor or something like that.skh

sajhakhohero · Mar 15, 2009 4:56 PM

lmao kha machis ka khol ran-do .......muj--eee sajhakhohero......jhyankneee

8848m · Mar 15, 2009 5:15 PM

LOL!!!!!!

dekchidriver · Mar 15, 2009 5:18 PM

I don't really want to boast but I don't like the negativity flowing in this thread. Let me say this: One of the best decisions I made in my life is to come to US for my college education. First of all, the only reason anyone should come for college education is if you do pretty well in high school and manage to get full scholarship to a decent college in US. Most Nepalis who come to study in US not only deplete their parents fund but also attend colleges where they are not really getting the education for their money. The school I graduated from gave full scholarship based on need to many international students. Of course, it was very selective as well. My parents paid for my flight and a semester of personal expenses. I never had to work in a gas station, though I did work on campus. My college funded approximately 30-35K a year for me just to study there. Most top universities will give you money if they think you are worth it. It wasn't hard for me to secure a job and I have seen many Nepali students in similar situation who into good schools and have fared pretty well. Bottom line, I am happy with my decision. Moral of what I am trying to say is: Don't come to US just because that's what everyone is doing. If I hadn't got a 100% scholarship, why would I want to kill my parents retirement savings to fund my education? It's morally wrong! I am surprised to see 11000 nepali students coming to US every year only to work illegally in gas stations. And it is exactly those people who say getting a US visa is a matter of luck. Enough ranting, I can already see the rage fueling.

JediMaster · Mar 15, 2009 6:34 PM

Damn you're right about the rage fueling. A volcano just errupted in Jupiter (remember Cha-Cha Chowdhary? and Sabu). I think everyone who came here did the right thing. Life is about the journey, not spend half of it thinking what you want to do and how you want to do it. You might have gotten an elite education at a private university (I'm jealous, yes) but you also have no experience when it comes to mundane things such as managing a gas station. It may not be the appealing job, but you definitely end up picking valuable life saving skills like how to deal with difficult people, how to haggle, how to be rude in order to save something precious. You go in a pussy, you come out a lion. You learn about defending yourself in today's cruel age.

dekchidriver · Mar 15, 2009 6:57 PM

Hey JediMaster, Am glad that you are doing well in US. And hope you will always do well. Eventhough you talked about not killing your parents' savings and all, I dont know why I still get this feeling that you have parents who do well back home. You know, in terms of money. So even if you are struggling here, it is not gonna be a problem cause they can just wire some money over. Period. Money makes a lot of difference in life.   Best, Crystal

Crystal5 · Mar 15, 2009 7:08 PM

One more frustrating thread ! I have just overcame my depressed feelings and here again! uff kahile aaula sukhako din prabhu?  

sajha_addict · Mar 15, 2009 7:16 PM

Hey Jedimaster, i think u r really a smartarse.....u topped college..u scored 100 percent in Tofel....u are just a intelligent student and got schoolarship......but how many youths in nepal are kinda like that.......They got lucky....they are working hard....more than 90 percent work themselves and make their living......they havent robbed raped killed anybody ......dont just think u r only in the world.......

sajhakhozero · Mar 15, 2009 7:18 PM

Hey dekchidriver, I really agree with you on this one : [ "It may not be the appealing job, but you definitely end up picking valuable life saving skills like how to deal with difficult people, how to haggle, how to be rude in order to save something precious. You go in a pussy, you come out a lion. " ] Looking back, I have worked at jobs which I am not proud of. I used to get cheated by customers on the job itself. That was how naive I was when I first came here. But as you mentioned, I did come out stronger. And my experiences are somethings that nobody can take away from me. The experiences I got working off campus jobs are way more valuable than school related internships. Cheers  

Crystal5 · Mar 15, 2009 7:20 PM

LIFE IN USA IS ABOUT EXPEND.............U NEVER KNOW ......WHEN N HOW YOUR DAY N YEAR PASSED WAY ............ONLY THING U KNOWS IS EVERY MONTH U Have pay bill...........IS LIKE U COME TO USA FOR PAY BILL .........

metalgal · Mar 15, 2009 8:43 PM

its like a great shit

mohit · Mar 15, 2009 9:01 PM

Today went fine....about tomorrow, I can let you know only tomorrow, not now :)

sangfroid · Mar 15, 2009 10:03 PM

Life in USA has security with insecurity everywhere. Yes, don't come to USA without scholarship. If you are even little smart, these third tier universities will give you some kind of scholarship. You just have to do research. The saying "You have to be at the right place at the right time to go everything right". Luck and your effort both is required to be successful. Last edited: 15-Mar-09 11:09 PM

mno · Mar 15, 2009 10:29 PM

I agree : [ "It may not be the appealing job, but you definitely end up picking valuable life saving skills like how to deal with difficult people, how to haggle, how to be rude in order to save something precious. You go in a pussy, you come out a lion. " ] I have seen some smart ass guys who never worked during their studies or some USMLE doctors and boy they can't order a sandwich and even hesitate to return goods at Walmart.. having said that the lower paying jobs may not be best ones that u gotta to do but they have their own benefits..I appreciate it coz I do it.. Life sucks at US but I think in the end all these struggles would payoff..

sanuman · Mar 15, 2009 10:29 PM

Eryday we hustlin! ;)

dekchidriver · Mar 15, 2009 10:46 PM

Dekchidriver, in your essay that I read a couple months back, you pretty much summed up what life is like here in the US. For every indivudual it is different here. I think it boils down to one question. Would you trade your life here to being back again in Nepal where life wasn't any better? Come to think of it many of us have traded our lifestyle to one that is more promising. If one's life was better in Nepal or more fulfilling, I think there is no reason to live here. My life is "ok" here but compared to what it was in Nepal it is better. I miss my family and friends now but when I was there I didn't feel good with them either. Why you would ask - pretty much because of financial hardships in the family and friends who were too rich to fathom my crisis. At least I'm able to accomplish something here and provide for my family to some degree. That's what is a little satisfying. I was able to put myself through college and continue to strive for the better and amass some wealth by working hard. I still have a low paying job but I realised that in this country you can make it if you work hard and do not encounter a health related problem or meddle with the law. No matter how shitty life is here, it must be far less than what it could be in Nepal. No wonder many don't want to go back or are too ashamed to go back if you turned out a loser. Given the choice, I'd rather live in Nepal but I have my problems, so I'd rather be here.

ugrad02 · Mar 15, 2009 11:49 PM

sajhako hero, sajha ko posting haru dherai herera nikai kura haru thaha paisakeko re chau petrol pump urf gas station ko barema basic gyan bhayecha ani dhoti haru ko barema pani...so why r u much worried abt tea or coffee stuff cause there are much other things you have to be worried abt???

ss727 · Mar 16, 2009 12:15 AM

Am glad that people are responding to this post.

Crystal5 · Mar 16, 2009 9:25 AM

साझाकोहिरो जी, यो link http://www.unicodenepali.com/v... मा जानुस् Roman English नेपाली मा टाईप गर्नुस्। अनी Cut and Paste गर्नुस्। त्यसो गर्दा तपाईं को English नेपाली मा सबैले बुझ्छन कि ?    

dhoti_prasad · Mar 16, 2009 9:56 AM

I found this thread intersting as people are sharing their ideas but I dont understand why people always try to ruin the thread and again bring the same topic again n again like sajhako hero...everywhere i see he/she is bringing coffee and tea thing, pure english and not thing, thats simply pathetic...If you want to comment do comment but with the relevant ideas not the same annoying thing again and again sir/mam plz. As far the life here concern it depends on two things what kind of life you had back in Nepal and what are you doing here. But if we talk about majority of the people, I think more than 90 % ( including me) USA taught us many thing, may we dint achieve everything we wanted, may we dint find USA as we thought it would be but definetely we learned alot which we dint learn in Nepal, from how to live alone without any help of other people, how to cook, how to deal with other people, different cultures, people from different parts of the world, better english, better way to talk, broad knowledge about everything and so many other things. The reason we found USA is not upto our expectation may be because we expected too much, we thought alot which we shouldnt. You guys tell me honestly how many of you guys used to cook back at home, had worked in any places, or helped your parents do the things, paid your bills or helped parents financially ??? I know the reason as I have the same answer so as most of you. I am happy to be here and I am loving life here. I have gone through the same thing as most of the Nepali people do go through after coming in their early stages, that doesnt mean I am through, I still in between and have long way to go. It just been 3 years I am here and I have finished my degree, got H1 and now working for some company. I will say I got lucky also but I have worked in the store for 60 hours a week in my school days, I never took off even for my exams, not even a single day and 80-90 hours in summer without a day off whole summer to pay my tutions fees and never went back home till now that doesnt mean I dont love my family or I dont want to go back. I love my family the most as do all. Regardless of what I have been doing, I always loved my life here, because people respect you as long as you work regardless of level you work. How you guys thing you will get better jobs if you are stranger here, dont have any valid documents, dont have enough skills needed, dint get degree from here because the degree we have back in nepal is all ghokante bidhya more than practical knowledge but I am not saying we have less knowledge than the people from here just I am saying is we are not exposed to real world. I have been lucky in the sense I had good friends from the beginning we came together and I came to know nice people around me always who helped me when I had gone through bad times and have crisis both financially and mentally. Another thing you can afford to get all those facilities here with any kind of job which is hard to get back in Nepal with the descent amount of money. This is the time of our life to learn something, to achieve something better for our future, for your family and for your country. I know its natural to get fraustrated but try to be happy with what you have and what you achieved, that doesnt mean you should stop doing progress, always go for it Saying all this thing doesnt mean Nepal is not great, I love my country the most and still now I believe I will return some day and contribute something which I can from my side, I never liked working under others and have dream of creating jobs for others.   Last edited: 16-Mar-09 11:53 AM

gc1488 · Mar 16, 2009 10:26 AM

Americn life....no matter what....Its 82 rs for 1$.....do the math......and DIGNITY OF LABOUR....no matter where you work......Nepalese here earn 82 times more that anyone in Nepal ( except the corrupt politicians)...SO a person who works in a Gas station earns about 1 lahk fifty thousands Nepali RS. or More everymonth.........AS for me ...when I was a student...I worked every job I could lay my hands on........I got so much experience and ideas that now I am a self employed business man. I had to kill my Nepalese mentality and ego to survive. I dont regret comming to the US but also agree that life here is very tough, bills bills bills....but I didnt ask for a easy pass.......I have learned through experience and know how to tackle situations. I make the best of my knowledge and WORK HARD so I get rewarded and sometimes I dont...which makes me want to try harder to succeed. I believe there is a transition period for every Nepalese In America........as students.....we all struggle to pay school, bills and rent, so we do whatever to graduate and gain enough experience to work in a good paying corporate job or utilize the skills learnt while working to start your own business..............we all face challenges here....but where dont you face chllenges in life??? To overcome challenges, hardship and faliure....we shape our identity and IN this land of oppertunity...we make the best of it ......I sure have.....and Im still facing challenges everysday........But I have the knowledge to overcome it and live life everyday....READY FOR THE UNEXPECTED.

MadDoGG · Mar 16, 2009 11:27 AM

I don't regret coming to US.

Power_Ranger · Mar 16, 2009 11:30 AM

crystal5, Life in US sucks for you because YOU SUCK.

Power_Ranger · Mar 16, 2009 11:32 AM

Sure life in the US is tough.  You have to work hard.  You have to make money to pay bills.  Yada yada yada... But... Isn't life in Nepal tough too?  Unless you are a scion of a very rich family, you have to work hard there as well.  You have to make money to pay bills... remember they do have bills in Nepal - batti, gyas, dera, chora chori ko school, micro ko bhaada, aadi, ittyaadi. If you are in private sector in Kathmandu, you end up working 6 days a week.  Sure, you might not be as dilligent, as productive, as efficient as in the US, but those are up to you.  If you prefer to be none of those, not live up to your life's potential, sure you can probably coast a little, but you will not move up the ladder. If you work for the government, you can probably get away with working as little as possible, but c'mon, is that really a life to aspire to?  Most sarkari karmachaaris in Nepal can't make their family's ends meet without doing something on the side, legal or illegal.  So a government worker has 3 options: (1) depend on your "talab" and stay poor, even hungry.  (2) take bribes and live with your conscience.  (3)  do another job on the side, work double time.  That's just how it is. You could get rich doing business.  Yes, that is possible.  But most do not have the wherewithall nor the inclination.  And there's no getting around the hard work as a businessman either, especially in formative years.  Yeah, you have to work hard. Sure you will be near your relatives and there is no denying that aspect.  But, way I see it, life is tough in Nepal as well.  There ain't no free lunch in Nepal either.  That's why ya'll are here.  Because your mom and dad ain't gonna feed you for the rest of your life.  Sooner or later you will have to earn your own keep.  And it is pretty difficult in Nepal to earn your own keep.  Go on.  Admit it.  You know it's true. From my own experience, I am glad I am in the US because life here holds a promise.  Sure I have to work hard and things can get downright depressing sometimes.  But net net, there are more positives than negatives.  Now if you ask me what those positives are, that's whole another story and probably not germane to this discussion.  Furthermore, I don't want to sound like a jerk.  Suffice to say, I am doing better than if I had stayed in Nepal.  So, my friend, pull up your chin, take a deep breath, lift your shoulders and put some spring in your steps.  You have made it to the US.  Now it may not be a land of milk and honey, but this is certainly a land of opportunity.  There is always a chance that if you are smart and work hard, you will end up getting ahead, whatever meaning you give to it.  

Riten · Mar 16, 2009 12:09 PM

Hope there are more postive comments to come. And to power ranger, I think you suck more than I do. If you belittle others, you are not that much of a man/woman.

crystal5 · Mar 16, 2009 2:41 PM

I think my life so far has been great here...yes I had the struggles...the pains..the bad days...and yes nothing came easy to me..had to work hard for each cent...but I do know that had I been back home..I would have no easy way too...yes my parents had a good house back home...my dad has a car..life was easy...but to continue and add fortune to what my parents had, I would have had to work hard in Nepal too..I don't think life is easy anywhere.. my point is...I feel good that I came here..

sajhapost · Mar 16, 2009 3:15 PM