Broken into pieces. You realize you are never going to fully forget about her. No matter how hard you try, she's going to come into your memory every now and then. In the first few weeks, its ok to be depressed because you feel so numb and lifeless. Try playing some sports to see if it can distract you. after you start getting your thoughts back together, write her a letter. Pour your heart out. Write to her about the fun times you had about what you liked about her and blah blah blah. The purpose of this letter is to simulate an actual farewell conversation with her, since fone is a 2 way conversation and you never really get to say what you really mean. Letter is the best! And in the end request her to burn your letter. It doesn't matter if she does burn it or not, for you, its a way of parting with your love and tying up loose ends. Then buy yourself a bottle of gin, another of tonic, couple of lemons, salt the mothertrucker and drink yourself silly. Its ok to cry. Real men have real hearts, those who claim not to cry are the fake ones. Lastly give yourself a pat on the back and congratulate yourself for being lucky enough to enjoy her company during that specific time frame, which she could have spent with anyone else. There is only so much you can do, the rest is upto fate. Take care man.

dekchidriver · Feb 23, 2009 7:52 PM

Hey broken into pieces. It reminds me of my story and ya I am still not completely over it. I know the pain and it really sucks. But have faith in god do not indulge yourself into immoral thing. Cry, scream, remain hungry, feel the pain to the deepest but never forget that there is a life ahead welcoming you. You just need to overcome this situation somehow. and most importantly do not try to compete with her life just live your own and live it fully. Shit happens man. and ya somehow people miss the habit not the person. So develop new habit that interests you. please feel free to discuss more since i know this situation very well. Person overlooks the beauty of life in this kind of situation so we need to show them what life really is and of course we will show you if you come with a potential to see it God bless you brother

prembirahi · Feb 23, 2009 7:55 PM

I can feel your pain. I know it's very hard to forget as people says. I think you will be more mature because of this incident. You now know what it means to be hurt so that in future you will not involve in any kind of heart breaking game. Have you ever analyzed why she left you? Were you strong enough to be her man? Or was she just playing with your emotions? Whatever may be the reason, now it's time to analyze and interpret. If we look at ourselves, we are nothing but a system of complex chemical reactions. You and your girl started as reactants and the overall product was just pain and sorrow.When one system malfunctions, it affects the whole system. Is there anyway to fix this broken piece of system? Look at yourself. Observe yourself. You have all the manual to fix this broken system. Your girl was more acidic to react with you. In the reaction mixture, you forgot to put the buffer. So take this breakup as a lesson, and try to react with less acidic girls in coming future. You can fix this. It's all about chemical reaction. Life is very short my dear friend, people come and go. But who loves you will never leave you. She does not deserve your love. May be she have found a high profile man. That's her big mistake. You focus with your career. Try to do something big and good. Learn knew things and enjoy being human. Make a phone call to your mom and talk to her right now.

Mirror.Image · Feb 23, 2009 9:05 PM

hey, have a relationship with a new girl. you would forget everything. after all a man brain and heart lies inside his di--ck. i saw this somewhere in sajha and i have started to believe it . find a girl and wont take you long to be the most perfect person back again in your life. enjoy  

sajha_man · Feb 23, 2009 10:55 PM

Dear frens thanks for the comments.But situation with me is getting worse. Since last three nights I have been sleeping only 2 to 3 hours a night. I cannot eat properly and i feel so devatsted and unloved. I feel like being pulverized and derange mentally and i could not gather the motivation. Evth else in my life has lost its importance. Her memoories and the promises and dreams are all in my thoughts everytime. As suggested by sajah members i tried to see a gal but it is no worth. It makes me more miserable coz i see her everyhwhere. I am not doing good at work and I remain aloof with my co worker. I have so many damn difficult mathematical papers to write ahead. If this continues my workplace might fire after my current contract expires. Ya i can go back home but I dunno how well it will help since i will have even nothing t do there. I do not know how to get out of this situation. Co incidently it happened such that they guy whom she is getting married on may 8th happens to be someone i know through family connection. It has made me more panic. I wish life was a hindi movie i wud have called that guyt and talk in detial before anything happens. khai celebrity haruko ta tikatala bhayesi ni chuttincha (karishma and abhishek). Or wish we had the systemn like in christianity, one can oppose why the marrriage shall be postpone after all its her brother initially and then whole family pushed her. I know she didn love me enough as well but the main culprits are their parnets they didn even want to see me and talk to me. I really dunno what to do.  if i do smth i will be in misery and if i do not do something i still be in misery. I really do not know what shall i do in this situation. Guys please post something. Thanks dekchi driver, mirror image, kaitlyn, sajha man and prem birahi for your comments. Last edited: 25-Feb-09 05:47 AM Last edited: 25-Feb-09 05:51 AM

broken_into_pieces · Feb 25, 2009 5:29 AM