SHOULD I REALLY LET HER GO?

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It started with yahoo chatting. Till this date I haven't met with her physically. At the very beginning, we did not used to chat very often. Once in a week we used to chat saying how is everything going on. One day, I sent her some of my pictures and requested her to send her too. But in vain. She didn't send her pictures to me. One year passed by saying hi and hello. One day she gave me her phone no. and asked me to call her. I immediately called her and asked her to send some photos of her. She agreed. I liked her voice when I talked with her for the first time. The later day when I checked my email, two beautiful pictures of her were sitting in my inbox. I was astonished by her beauty. I immediately fell in love with her. It was like "Love at first sight." I wrote her an email expressing my feelings to her. The next day she replied me saying "yes." I was so happy that day. I felt like I am the luckiest one in this whole planet. After this our love journey started though we were physically apart. I am in the United States, and she is in Nepal. We then started talking very often via phone, texting, and IM. Talking honestly, I was in love with her, and as far as I know, her feelings toward me was the same.  Two brains in love. The level of dopamine was extremely high. It was very hard for us to bear the distance. She constantly used to asked me when I was coming to Nepal. I promised for the next winter. I am an undergraduate student here in the US. The semester was going on, with lots of assignments due. Suddenly, I received a text message from her saying she is getting married tomorrow. I replied saying how this is possible. How could anybody in Nepal can arrange a marriage in less than 24 hours? Finding a groom and arranging the ceremony in less than 24 hours sound fishy to me. I replied, what can I do in this situation? She replied, I should come in October-November. These statement from her contradicted. If she is getting married tomorrow (it was fall), why should I come in october-November? I have no idea why she said this to me. May be she was just giving me pressure for coming to Nepal as soon as possible. But I already mentioned that I am coming in winter for sure. Then she kept saying me that so many guys are coming to see her asking for her hand. I replied her saying just wait for winter. Upto this point, we were in love for almost 2 years. This long distance relation was killing me, and I was certainly going to Nepal in coming winter. In fact, you never know how and when things go wrong. One semester, I was giving my chemistry exam, i received a text message from her saying the same old thing -"So many guys are coming to see me." The paper was hard, and there was constant pressure from her; I lost my mind. I replied her using some bad words. The later day, I apologized for my nonsense act. She forgived me after more than a week. However, this long distance relation didn't lasted. We broke up officially. I was the one who wrote an email saying I am breaking up with you. Now I feel like I did a mistake. I want her back in my life. But the trust between me and her in not the same as before. She doesn't believe me anymore. But I still have a feeling for her, and it's real. I called her, but she is not picking her phone. She wrote me a text message saying "good bye." Should I really let her go?

081620040471 · Feb 1, 2009 5:52 PM · 18,208 views

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Man trust me....let her go...........

cricket.fan · Feb 1, 2009 6:44 PM

solta timi ta atti nai seek jasto lagyo... email batai seek hoidine.... chhoda testo kt harulai.... testo ta hami sanga din dinai hunchha.... photo herda chwak lagchha .... asli ma heryo bhane tehi ho.... ramri kt haarlai ta nepal ka tori laure le patai halchhan ni. Naramri kt haru bidesh ma basne kta harusanga chat garera lave garna khojchhan.... sathi chhoda yar

full_maya · Feb 1, 2009 7:44 PM

bud, i just want to know these question answers, deep down your heart... .do u still feel like u love her? did she already marry? and did u love her to get her love or get her into your bed? i only got one thing to say... never let go the ones u loveeeeeee

jaisambhokailas · Feb 1, 2009 7:58 PM

We all know how much we will feel pressure in US.So its good idea to focus urself for ur study,career and ur health,just forget her

Hardic · Feb 1, 2009 9:22 PM

Hay i dun think you should let her go seriously. May be she was just trying to know you and did not know you were under pressure in here. People in Nepal always tend to think that life in the US is fun and so so. So, when u wrote sum shit words to her then obviously she felt bad and was hurt too. Keep on msging until she answers you and then talk. This is my suggestion. Good luck!!

mohit · Feb 1, 2009 10:03 PM

Well 081620040471 bro, I didnt get your story. She said she is getting married (tomorrow) right, then why wud she ask to come in NEpal. Well from my personal experience, LDR(long distance relationship) doesnt work at all. Not for me hai. This is the worst case scenario. Boy in US and girl in Nepal. And girl saying she is getting married. Well, mero ni exactly same case vako ho. Timi undergrad ma grad. I used to chat with her daily till 3 am in the morning. The result was I couldnt complete my assignments. And moreover khali kich kich garthyo marriage ko bare ma. Aja ni kta herna aayo re ani stuffs like that. Ani the result is, last tension hune ani i spoiled my exams and got the poorest grades. So i ve decided this is bullshit. Aba hera na ta gf lai live hernai paako cha, na ta ghmaunai paako cha, na chunai paako cha na a aru kehi garnai paako cha. So i ve decided to leave her. I blocked her completely from all messenger and facebook. Complete breakup. Ahile ramilo nai vairaheko cha. Getting used to in the studies. Hera saathi, u r doing undergrad, so jus study well and try to get best out of it. Ani tyaspachi ta keti haru pachi lagcha ni. So best thing is leave her. Aba chat nai garnu pare saathi haru sanga garne ni. So take care

AlterEgo · Feb 1, 2009 10:04 PM

Same sentiments. In the first place if you know that you want to go overseas for further education, then you should know your priorities. Priorities being, studies first. Girls next. The moment you think of letting her go, then you should do it immediately. Because in the first place, a girl doesn't deserve a guy like you. She has now become an option. This or That? When a relationship reaches that stage, its no longer sincere. So, be honest to yourself and to that girl. LET HER GO BECAUSE ITS NOT WORTH WAITING FOR A MAN LIKE YOU WHO JUST USED HER FOR YOUR TEMPORARY NEEDS. But if she means everything to you, then education must become the reason why you want to give her a better life. Pick your choice well.

Heartbeat · Feb 2, 2009 12:34 AM

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