Small example. I'm scared to enter a "Angan" in tripureshowr even to just ask them for "2 jerry". It looks so hi-fi. Jerry lai ni 1ta lai 50 pardo ho. I can definitely afford 2 jeriz. Why? - It looks to clean - It looks too hi-fi - It gives a professional feeling, khatra lighting (at evenings) - People who go there seem to be very rich, good looking and clean dresses. It gives me different feeling and makes me feel these people are special that I'm not. In the same way I'm scared to enter malls even if they provide things on affordable rates. Similarly, I hated entering good colleges, because psychologically I felt that everyone would be better than me, life would be harder in big college, the course will be harder to succeed in big college (Which isn't false either in reality). I always felt I was not good for getting anything of worth. I felt I didn't deserve to be among best minds(Which I feel is true because I'm not genius but I can make things work). And still to date, feel so. Even for moving abroad, I get scared of countries like USA based on how they're portrayed in internet. Clean roads, efficient government, proper law, strict rules etc. It scares the shit out of me. I feel I'd be more happy to live in India than in USA(assuming I live alone w/o parents in both places). Which just shows a big psychological problem I've. It's not that I'm intending to do crimes in USA though, I just feel it. What's this psychological condition called? And how do I get rid of it?
PK2014 · Sep 9, 2022 6:47 AM · 21,909 views
This is a very common condition prevalent among younger people. This condition is called inferiority complex. Specially after the boom of social media and increasing importance put on financial success, many people see all good things and great things which makes them feel unfulfilled and reduces their own self confidence. You have to overcome this kind of feeling by focusing on positive aspects of life and by putting things into perspective. You will never be satisfied with the amount of money because there is always more to have. Appreciate what you have such as your family, friends and the love you get which is priceless. You don't have to judge yourself harshly or try to compete with others. Just believe that you are a special person and stop comparing your material possessions or looks in order to feel good about yourself. Build your confidence. Read books on philosophy or other self help books that encourage your confidence and outlook on life. More than anything you need to change your outlook on life and understand what is important for you. Change your priorities one step at a time. You don't want to worry about what others think about you. Most of the time, other people are busy with their own problems so do not restrict yourself thinking what others with say. Another thing is over thinking. You probably think too much. Although thinking resolves a lot of problems, most of the time, thinking is not productive because you end up worsening your state of mind. You need to be in control of your mood. You are the reason you feel bad because you start thinking all the negative stuff. When negative thoughts come to your mind, you have to actively push it out and think something else or just keep your mind blank. Hope this helps.
neurologist · Sep 9, 2022 8:02 AM
Any textbooks/books that you recommend to study about these and learn something?
PK2014 · Sep 9, 2022 8:46 AM
ओह, कस्तो सान्धर्बिक र गम्भीर प्रस्न . हेर्दा खेरि साधारण भए पनि भोग्ने लाइ थाहा होला एक एक पल जीवन जीउनुको संघर्ष . डर लाग्ने, पब्लिक फेस गर्न नसक्ने , अरु भन्दा आफु लाई inferior ठान्ने , २ ४ जनाको अगाडी बोल्न नसक्ने , anxiety , सके सम्म कम मान्छे फेस गर्नु परोस भन्ठान्ने , job interview देखि डराउने यी सबै त autism का पनि सिमटम्स हुन् . अम्रिकामा त १८ महिना देखि नै बच्चा को autism थाहा हुदो रैछ र थेरापीले निको हुदो रैछ . नेपालमा त autism को diagnosis हुदैन तेसैले कति धेरै मान्छेलाइ autism छ थाहा नै हुन्न . autism पनि mild देखि severe गरेर धेरै प्रकारको हुदो रैछ . तर जे भए पनि clinical Psychiatric संग परामर्स लिएर थेरापीमा जानु बेस होला .
edv2023 · Sep 9, 2022 10:11 AM
Autism can't be cured brother. Can it?
PK2014 · Sep 9, 2022 11:10 AM
Let's be positive. At least you released what you have been going through. Almost everyone goes through some inferiority complex in some points in life. Give yourself a chance and try to come out of your comfort zone, rather than looking out to people's perceptions. We can never make anyone 100% happy. Take an example of the man, his wife , donkey & the critics. More power to you.
jaysmi · Sep 9, 2022 11:20 AM
jaysmi · Sep 9, 2022 11:21 AM
cant be 100% cure because its not a disease , its a behavioral disorder which can be managed
edv2023 · Sep 9, 2022 11:28 AM
edv2023, Are they the really the symptoms of autism? It does not feel like it. I am not a doctor but isn't it a little too harsh?
Bennedict · Sep 9, 2022 11:43 AM
edv2023, any experts on this in Nepal? 2K per 1 hr linxan. Kangal banauni raixan.
PK2014 · Sep 9, 2022 12:21 PM
@Bennedict yes autism is too harsh. I think most of this in me is subconscious except facing people. I only have trouble facing people I know. I can face people that I don't know well. This is very interesting and doctors also think about this.
PK2014 · Sep 9, 2022 12:30 PM
I loved this book, " Emotional Intelligence 2.0" by Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves. You can read and gain deeper understanding of how our brain works. Also, Don't assume that people have enough time to think about you or notice you, Nobody really cares. For instance, you may see somebody staring at you in a public place. Now, that might be not true- that person might be daydreamming or thinking something else. Even if that person is thinking about you, that should not bother you as that's some stranger and his/her opinion about you serves you nothing. Lastly, Learn to say 'Fucck it/ Off' often. Last edited: 09-Sep-22 02:07 PM Last edited: 09-Sep-22 02:07 PM
sojho_bahun · Sep 9, 2022 2:06 PM
पि के यु आर अ चिकेन हर्टेद गाई। त केटि भएर जन्मिनु पर्नी।
Loganbennedictboka76 · Sep 9, 2022 2:23 PM
"I feel I'd be more happy to live in India than in USA" I don't know why this was written in the first place but you really need to broaden your horizon a lot. Do you think India is all what you see in those hindi serials on TV? People and places in India can be way overwhelming than in USA. Talk about it. Been there, done that.
Bennedict · Sep 9, 2022 2:29 PM
autism यति बृहत छ कि यो बारे बुझ्न हामी जस्ता nan -medical लाई धेरै गारो हुन्छ, तैपनि मैले एस्लाई सामान्यकरण गरेको छु ०-१० को स्केल राखेर . १-३ स्केल : यो स्केलको autism अति सामान्य हुन्छ र प्राय धेरै लाइ हुन्छ . न एसको कुनै लक्ष्यन हुन्छ . विशेसग्य लाइ पनि autism हो कि होइन भन्न एकदम कठिन हुन्छ . एस्लाई प्राय anxiety संग मान्छे झुकिन्छन . ४-७ स्केल : यो स्केल को autism पिडित व्यक्ति स्वयम् महसुस गर्न सक्छ . बाहिर ठुलो मासमा बोल्न नसक्ने, नर्वस हुने, अरु संग आफुलाइ तुलना गरेर हिनता बोध हुने , छेमता हुदा हुदै पनि नेत्रित्तो लिन नसक्ने , कुनै नया चिजको थालनी गर्न डराउने , नया मान्छे संग बोल्दा १० पटक सोच्ने र मुलत resistance to change हो . पिडित मानसिक रुपमा अती तेज हुने तर डर , त्रास आदि ले सफलता पाउन नसकी रहेको हुन्छ. बाहिरी समाजले पिडितको अस्वोभाबिक क्रियाकलाप खासै थाहा नपाए पनि पिडित आफै over reaction गरि रहेका हुन्छन, PK2014 सर यसको उदाहरण हुन् . उपचार गरे एस्लाई १ २ स्केलमा झार्न सकिन्छ . ८-१० सेकेल : यो स्केल को autism अत्यन्त खराब हो . autism को साथ साथै एसले अरु मानसिक समस्या पनि देखाऊछ . येस्मा पिडित लाइ autism भएको खासै थाहा हुन्न तर समाजले उसको क्रियाकलापले autism प्रस्ट बुझ्न सक्छ . बेसुरा कुरा गर्ने, बेसुरा हिड्ने , बेसुरा लेख्ने देखि जीवनका क्रियाकलाप गर्न समेत कसैको साहेता चाहिने हुन्छ .सामाजिकरुपमा घुलमिल गर्न नसक्ने , अरु सङ आखा जुधाउन नसक्ने, बोलेको लेखेको नबुज्निने , एकै प्रकारको क्रियाकलाप् बार बार repeat mode मा गरि राख्ने आदि आदि एसको लक्ष्यन . LOGAN र उसको क्रियाकलाप यो autism को उदाहरण हो .
edv2023 · Sep 10, 2022 10:12 AM
धागो समसामयिक बिसय भएको कारण चाख मानेर पढ्दै थिए तर केहि कोर्ने पर्ने बाध्यता भयो |मैले महाबिरले के भने भन्ने कुरा य़ुट्युब मा रहेछ | साझाका २ - ४ स्व-महारथी ठान्ने ले पढुन भनि टासे पछि त्यो धागो अगाडि बढेको छैन | यहा पनि टासी दिनु पर्ने कारण देखेर नै टिप्पणी गर्नु पर्ने र टास्नु ठिक ठाने | यो युट्युब को पहिलो ५ - ७ मिनेट मात्र सुन्नु होला | मनोविज्ञान बिसय नेपालको लागि नया र प्रयोगात्मक स्टेज मा होला | शोध कार्य बाट डा. झुण्ड्याउने हरुले पनि मनोविज्ञान का पुस्तक पढेका छैनन् भने बाउ बाजे देखि चलि आएको चलन अनुसार गालि कुट पिट नै अनुसाशन का आधार मानिन्छ र पच्छ्याइञ्छ | तर्क संगत कुरा कानी , घरमा सबै परिवार खुलेर कुरा नगर्नु , बाल बालिकालाई पनछ्याउने , जान्ने भएर ठुला मानिस कुरा गरेको बेला कुरा काट्छस , आदि इत्यादि ले साथि भाइ, समाज , स्कुल मा निर्धक्क भएर कुरा गर्न आट न आउने हुन्छ र म पनि एक हु | Autism संगै ADHD भन्ने पनि छ धेरैले दुबैलाई एकै पनि होलान | यी बिषय संग आबद्द भएका बाल बालिका संग घर परिवारले कसरि ब्यबहार , पठन पाठन गराई तिनीहरुलाई दैनिक जिबन यापन गरन सिकाउने वा सक्षम बनाउने बारे ग्यान दिने र लिने कुरा सुरु हुनु पर्छ | मनोविज्ञान र त्यस बिसयमा काम गरि रहेका हरु बाट लेखेका कुरा कानी लाइ बिचार पुर्याउनु होला | जम्मर कट्टेल को नाति , मेरो पीए हुने , डिकुटि खेलेर लाखौ लाख हजम गरि कोलम्बिया र मेक्सिको हुदै अमेरिका छिरेको यो बज्रस्वाठ जसको स्वभाब यो धागो माथिको व्यक्तिले लेखे झैँ मिले पनि ,नमिले पनि तेस्को बाउको जार तेसकी आमाको नाठो ठानी सधै मेरै नाम न लिई पानि पनि नछिर्ने यो EDV2023 स्वयम् ADHD संगै Autism बाट ग्रसित हुनु पर्छ | किन ग्रसित छ भने एकचोटी कुनै कुरा दिमाग मा छिरे पछि ति कुरा हट्दैन र अप्रासाङ्गिक रुपमा निकाली हाल्नु पर्छ | लौ दैनिक मेरो बाउको जार छदै छन् र आमाले नाठो खेलाउदिनन भनि सैयौ पल्ट दोहोर्याएर बस अनि मेरो नाम लिन बिर्सेलास | यो युटुब को पहिलो कुरा कानी महाबिर ले भनेका कुरा छन् जुन ६ -७ मिनेट होलान सुन्नुस | यो धागो पढ्दै गए पछि मेरो नाम जोडेको कारण ले मात्रै यति लेख्नु परेको हो नत्र टिप्पणी गर्ने बिचार पनि थिएन किनकी मनोविज्ञानको बिसय राजनीति संग आबद्द कुरा गराई जस्तो होइन् | [ Linked: https://youtu.be/S2onNJowDPA ] &list=RDCMUCO-q2ti0IVr0n8N_J2Nrxig&index=२ Last edited: 11-Sep-22 02:52 PM
logan · Sep 11, 2022 2:49 PM
पागल लोगने ले मेरो गाली खप्न नसकेर मेरो कमेन्ट नै डीलिट गरेछ हाहा .. हो येसरी डराउनु पर्छ . भिजेको मुसो ... #रित्तोलोटा #autism #
edv2023 · Sep 11, 2022 8:12 PM
तोर्पेहरु अटीजम् र पागल्पनमा आकास जमिनको फरक छ , लोगने बिसुद्ध पागल हो ,यो पागल लाइ अटीजम् हो भन्नु अटीजम् भएका मान्छेहरुको अपमान गर्नु हो . Period
GayPride · Sep 12, 2022 9:39 AM
edv2023, logan is just an idiot. he's not autistic.sorry logan bro
harkasampang · Sep 12, 2022 9:45 AM
हर्केपासाङ्ग र EVD2023 एउटै मान्छे हो , यसले अरु २ -४ ओटा खाता खोलि आफ्नो आफ्नो समर्थन मा आफैले नया नाम बाट कोरी बस्छ | धागो खोले हर्कपासंग अनि गगनको फोटो टास्न पुग्यो अण्डा महँगो भयो भन्ने रुन्चे EVD2023 | कि त्रियो महोदय हरु (EVD2023, harkapasng & Gagane) साला-भेना, भेना-साला हुनकी ?
logan · Mar 12, 2023 11:02 AM
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