R u mr logan ? He has similar issues that u r dealing. Talking to the point,people will never understand what anxiety is unless ur dealing wid it or someone in your family has it . My ex gf had it . It started when c changed her job. New place , new job ,new environment , everything new . She keep on complaining me about it but i never understand whats going on as everything to me was looking normal until c brust . Did onlin research , councling but nothing work except mediation. C is fine now . Try meditation not in home but with some experts it will work.

Logankobaje · Dec 28, 2020 11:31 AM

ओह हो फ्रसटेड़ ब्रो ! आइ एम सो सरि टू हियेर अबाउट योर सिचुएसन ब्रो ! पहिलो कुरो त् इउ आर अँन राइट पाथ ! हजुरलाइ आफु डिप्रेस छ भन्ने कुरोको ज्ञान छ ! दोस्रो कुरा इउ आर रिचिंग आउट फर हेल्प ! अनदर गुड थिङ्ग ! ब्रो एस्तो फ़्रसटू हुन् भाको बेला कहिले एक्लै बस्न हुँदैन ! इउ निड मेन्टल सपोर्ट , सपोर्ट अफ योर फ्रेन्स एण्ड फेमिली ! बट द बेस्ट सपोर्ट इज योरसेल्फ ! अन्ली इउ क्यान गेट योरसेल्फ आउट अफ दिस मेस ब्रो … नो वान क्यान … ट्रस्ट मि …अरुहरु माइट बि क्याटलिस्ट बट एभ्री थिङ्ग डिपेंडस् अपन योर चोइस ! ब्रो म पनि पहिले प्रेममा धोखा खाँदा सार्है सुसाइडल भाको थिए ! आइ वाज इन मर्डर सुसाइड पाथ ! एति सम्म डिप्रेसनमा गाको थिए ! तर एट लास्ट आइ हेल्प्ड माइसेल्फ थ्रु डोज डिफिकल्ट आओर्स ! पहिले त् डोन्ट लेट योरसेल्फ बि अलोन ! इउ मस्ट गो आउट … सोसिएलाइज ! तर निउ योर्कको स्थिति झन् खराब छ अहिले ! एटलिस्ट कनेक्ट विथ योर लभ्ड वान्स ! टक टू देम ! अल्सो गो आउट फर अ जग अर एक्सरसाइज ! थिङ्क पजेटिभ ! मेडिटेड ! मैले १० दिन बिपसन्ना मेडिटेसन जोइन गरेको विच हेल्प्ड मि ट्रेमनडिएस्ली ! डोन्ट ओभर स्लिप ! डिप्रेसंनमा येही कमजोरी हो ! इउ वांट टु आइसोलेट ! प्लिज अभोइड ड्याट ब्रो ! सेल्फ हेल्प इज द बेस्ट हेल्प बट इउ मस्ट मोटीभेट योरसेल्फ ब्रो प्लिज ! प्लिज किप अस अपडेटड ल ब्रो ! आइ विष इउ द बेस्ट ब्रो ! लेट्स स्टार्ट विथ अ ब्र्यांड निउ यियेर ब्रो ! ❤️🙏

Nas · Dec 28, 2020 11:44 AM

Seeing a therapist and getting medication definitely helps a lot.

MandigoBS · Dec 28, 2020 11:50 AM

If its just anxity (not depreesion) mediation will not work , behavioural change will work. And while on sajha never seek advise from nas bhai and logan bhai, they will topp depression on your anxiety. They just simply have no normal life . Listen to normal people not extremists.

Logankobaje · Dec 28, 2020 11:59 AM

Frustated me bro first off dont get frustrated your problems might seem minor to others. As far as driving, its the easiest thing to do I recommend moving out of NY and going to easy peasy places like texas where even tortoises can fly cars lol. Then sometimes jogging and minor activities help relieve anxiety too. If it makes you feel better, I found subways in NY to be more frustrating than driving cars lol.

pandeyji · Dec 28, 2020 12:15 PM

एंगजायेटी एण्ड डिप्रेसन गोज ह्याण्ड इन ह्याण्ड है फ्रस्टू ब्रो ! म मैले बुझेको र जानेको कुरामा मात्र टिप्न्नी गर्ने गर्छु ब्रो ! आइ क्यान सी व्हाट एंगजाईटि कुड लीड टू ! लिभिङ्ग, ब्रिदिंग एगज्यामपल मै हु !  बट लेट्स नट मेक दिस पोस्ट अबाउट नेम कलिंग ! कुरो ठिक होइन त् लोगनको बाजे ब्रो ! Last edited: 29-Dec-20 02:53 PM

Nas · Dec 28, 2020 12:17 PM

After failing the driving test multiple times this anxiety started . Now I am at the point whenever somebody talks about driving license I got anxiety . I even took lot of driving class and whenever on test I got this nervousness so high I screw up. Just hoping if there is any easy suburb place to get license. I can notice this frustration is slowly building up in my mind and creating anxiety.

frustratedme · Dec 28, 2020 12:54 PM

Move to texas bro people there get license before getting born itself lol

pandeyji · Dec 28, 2020 12:56 PM

हा हा पाण्डे ब्रो ! 😂🙏 अनि ब्रोलाई जाबो लाइसेन्स नपाकोले पो एंगजाएटि ? म त् फर्स्ट पोस्ट पढढा त् लागेको थियो पुरै …>>>>🤪 अनि निउयोर्कमा किन गाडी चाहिएको त् ! खोइ मैले त् १० बर्स पछि मात्र गाडी लेको त् ! पब्लिक ट्रान्सपोर्ट कति सजिलो छ त् ! गाडीको लाइसेन्सको लागि तेती सारो एङ्ग्जाइटी लिन पर्दैन हौ ब्रो ! छि ! पाण्डे ब्रोले भन्नु भाको झैँ जानुस टेक्सास ! तेती पनि गर्न सक्न हुन्न भने … ट्राइ मार्दै बस्ने हो ब्रो ! 🙄 हो … फ़्रसट्रेसंनबाट …एंगजाएटि … अनि एंगजाएटिबाट … डिप्रेसन  ! 🙏 Last edited: 28-Dec-20 01:09 PM

Nas · Dec 28, 2020 1:01 PM

Thank you everybody for the response and kind words. Will keep posted.

frustratedme · Dec 28, 2020 2:06 PM

प्लिज ब्रो ! टेक किएर अफ योरसेल्फ ! गुड लक विथ द द्राइभिङ्ग लाइसेन्स ! प्र्याकटिस मेक्स इट पर्फेक्ट ! वि विष इउ द बेस्ट ! किप अस पोस्टेड ! गाड स्पिड ! 👍🙏 Last edited: 28-Dec-20 02:34 PM

Nas · Dec 28, 2020 2:33 PM

@frustratedme bro, I understand it's easier said than done but try not thinking too much. If it helps don't try for driver license for a few months. It is very normal to fail a few times. Btw, which car did you ride while taking the road test? And yeah, do keep us posted.

lazyketa · Dec 28, 2020 4:32 PM

These are the contacts for mental health professionals  https://www.nepalseattle.org/c... besides that ping me when u want to chat, I am all ears    Last edited: 12-Nov-21 06:34 PM

Mr33Sajha · Nov 11, 2021 1:23 PM

I would suggest starting slow like go for a walk on a regular basis. may be 30 mins then to an hour. Walking helps clear mind and also it's a good basic workout. It might sound very simple and basic but taking care of your body physically has a lot of impact on mental health too. Hope it helps! Last edited: 12-Nov-21 04:34 PM

Free Soul · Nov 12, 2021 4:16 PM

Studies have found that more and more anxiety and stress are caused by mainstream media and social media. Mainstream media makes a person feel like they have to live in fear constantly. These media gain popularity and audience by peddling fear and uncertainty so that people keep coming back to watch their show and thus they make profit while their viewers are made to live in fear. Turn on the news and you will see how the world seems like a worst place to live but if you don't watch TV and enjoy your neighbors, friends, enjoy the weather, the walks, etc, then life is amazing and great. So stay away from media / news. Social media is a source of anxiety and stress for many as they do not know how to cope with their apparent failures in life as all they see is people posting pictures of happiness and greatness and success. This makes people feel like failures and thus despair. Life makes people into two categories of mindset. One mindset is that of being at comfort level with one's existence so that external influences do not impact one's happiness and the other mindset is the one that blows with the wind. These mindset tries to hang on to different things they see in media and social media which tries to define what being cool is and what is needed for happiness. So they get blown by every gush of wind in different directions, always trying a find a meaning in life. Trying to be accepted. These type of people will find anxiety and stress to be their attachment if they don't try to break away from the status quo. My two cents.. Last edited: 12-Nov-21 04:34 PM

independent · Nov 12, 2021 4:30 PM

I am logging to Sajha.com after decades. Just want to help a fellow Nepali. I've had and still have anxiety, but I'm very much in control over it. 1. Know the trigger What is it? Job? Relationship? Money? Family? Responsibility? Driving (your case)?.Try to fix the trigger. Stay away from people who cause it, even if it means your family. If you cannot, then solve the issue. If you cannot fix it, then you have to train your brain to let it go. It is ok not to make too much money like you want to, live with that peace of mind. It is ok, if you're not as successful as your brother, let it go and train your mind to rest and not think about it. 2. Alcohol This is the killer for anxiety. You might feel like it is helping but in reality alcohol will make it worse and things will get worse as you age. Quit it ASAP. I gave up after more than 30 years of drinking. It is not easy but it is one of the most important thing to do. 3. Sleep Get 6-8 hours of sleep everyday. Avoid TV, phone 2-3 hours before you sleep. Read a book, listen to music, be in a quiet dark room and relax your mind and body. Avoid exercise, talking to people or doing anything important at night. 4. Exercise It has to be cardio, something that will make you sweat. Aerobics is a great choice as well. 5. Yoga Primarily breathing exercise, that is one of the most important way to calm anxiety. Many different type of breathing exercise exist, so explore each and every one of them and do it in the morning every day, no excuse. 6. Meditation Guided meditation every morning in a quiet place 15-45 minutes everyday. This will train your mind to focus on the present and not let your mind wander. 7, Nature Hiking and walking in nature will arouse the happy hormone. So instead of watching some stupid TV shows, get up and take a hike. 8. Talking to people Socializing is very important and talking to people will calm and supress your anxiety. Living alone and staying away from people is a bad combination for anxiety. 9. Music Learn to play music or atleast spend time to listen to them everyday. 10. Paint It has a soothing effect on your brain and keeps you grounded and focused on the present. Very good idea to pick up that habit 11. Pet Dogs and cat will lower your stress and anxiety and make you happy. I have a dog and I love her, she makes me happy and I take care of her like a children, we have an amazing bond. I cannot fathom my life without my dog. 12. Gut health Keep your stomach health clean. Your stomach is the 2nd brain and it controls your brain and most other parts of your body. Eat healthy. Stay away from spicy, oily, fatty and processed food. Cook, eat healthy. Eat more veges and fruits.13. Social Media Stay away from it, it is the newest poison fro people with anxiety and depression.  If you do these everyday, then you will see the change in your life. I've had really bad many years ago. I am fine now because I do most of the above point everyday. You will NOT recover in a week or a month. But in few months, you will see the difference. But you have to stay active and keep doing them. Good luck. Last edited: 12-Nov-21 08:56 PM Last edited: 12-Nov-21 08:58 PM

Rewire · Nov 12, 2021 8:53 PM

That was the best suggestion ever seen in Sajha. Most of us know what to do, but we have no will to follow, if we follow we must be diligent and consistent ( a daily routine ).

logan · Nov 17, 2021 11:17 AM

Great input Rewire!

independent · Nov 17, 2021 1:35 PM

all the suggestions given above, they might cure the symptoms and u might feel good for few days but eventually it will come back. only way to deal with it is go for the root cause and solve it. so be honest with ur self and ask urself the question, what is it that is bothering you so much. DEEP DOWN, IN UR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND. USUALLY IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH GUILT, SHAME, ANGER. and people find it hard to admit it at first. they are ashamed of it. so if possible, try to own up and solve the original problem. but its not possible for most cases, because those problems are usually old and lot of time have already passed. in those cases, its beneficial to take the help of a therapist. he will help u look at the problem from a different perspective. u will realize what ever happened, it was not ur fault at all. in fact, u had no choice but to act in the way u acted. any sensible person in ur shoes would have acted in the way u did. life is not fair and we all come from different places in life. so u r the last person to be blamed for whatever happened. this new outlook in life will make life easier for u. and will solve ur problem forever. u can develop this outlook in life on your own through reading books, watching videos. but it will take a lot longer than if u visited a therapist. https://youtube.com/watch?v=ab...

bairaghi · Nov 17, 2021 2:16 PM

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bairaghi · Nov 17, 2021 3:12 PM

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Sanaklaal · Nov 17, 2021 3:46 PM

If you need help and want to talk, please private message me. Don't listen to people who really have no clue and have never experienced it. Even an idiot knows he needs to go to doctor when he is not feeling well.

Rewire · Nov 18, 2021 10:07 PM

Not saying this is great but this thread and rewire's reply is 1000% times better and relevant than all those anti-vax nonsense.

lazyketa · Nov 18, 2021 10:30 PM

@Rewire "Don't listen to people who really have no clue and have never experienced it. Even an idiot knows he needs to go to doctor when he is not feeling well." I appreciate your input seriously for the guy who started this post, but I have to say that a lot of times, going to a doctor and taking medication also works out, and I have this experience in my life when I had to take medicines to overcome my nervousness and lack of confidence. This is especially because everybody is built differently and their immunity, ways to tackle difficulties and their past experiences vary in a lot many ways. Besides that to everybody who has been posting to this thread still, I have a question for you all. This thread is like one year old and the guy 'frustratedme' is nowhere to be seen and heard and hasn't written anything in this thread for 11 months!! I am wondering who are we advising here?? Hello!

Bennedict · Nov 18, 2021 10:47 PM

I honestly hope that frustratedme is still alive and has passed his driving test and overcame his anxiety problems in these 11 months!! People are too impatient to pitch in their ideas and what not but they should also check out when was this post created really!

Bennedict · Nov 19, 2021 12:10 AM

@Bennedict, well the thread is not locked yet so what's the problem with replying. In fact you just replied twice to make your own point. Having said that, I may have triggered you again but I apologize in advance and I promise this would be my last reply on this post (but you never say never)

lazyketa · Nov 19, 2021 6:52 AM

I don't have anxiety. But I am going through a heartache. And at first I was sad, I wanted to cry, I was heartbroken, I felt betrayed. But it's been few days since I found out about this thing/ situation that has caused me this heartache. But I have decided to make peace with myself and my past. And also I have decided to erase this picture I had of my life. And decided to make a new one. Also writing ones feelings out also eases the pain. You can literally write anything that you can't share with other people. And then just shred the paper. Also manifest for good things to happen in your life. I have also stopped worrying about little things that I have no control over. My only goal in life for now is to make sure that I am financially able so that I don't have to expect any financial help from anybody. I know that's going to make me look like I am all about money. But I take it as a distraction so that I don't worry about this thing that's causing me to be sad.

wegalzrock · Nov 20, 2021 10:36 AM

@wegal good advice and im sorry that you are going through this situation. Just wanted to say “ My only goal in life for now is to make sure that I am financially able so that I don't have to expect any financial help from anybody.” doesnt make you look like you are all about the money. Being Financially independent is awesome! And i think everyone should try for that. Once Making money was my only goal as i was struggling financially. After a while things got better and my life goal changed. :)

Ketofarar · Nov 20, 2021 11:47 AM

@ketofarar thankyou for your kind words. Yes hopefully when time heals my heartache, my life goals will be different. For now I want to be able to help that person who gave me a heartache. I want the best for that person. Is it weird that I worry about that person's future? Like I would definitely want to help that person if they were struggling financially in future? I hope this feeling of me wanting the best for them and worried for their future, their finances goes away as I heal from this heartache.

wegalzrock · Nov 20, 2021 4:18 PM

That person gave you a heartache and there you are still thinking about all the best things for him/ her. Wow! Now that is something! Usually heartaches and breakups do not end up in a nice way. As you might have seen they can be detrimental to cause enough harm mentally and physically both. Wegalzrock, I would like to humbly ask you to move on and take this experience as a learning lesson, give some time for yourself and not mull over it, trying to justify and reason whatever that has transpired in your life. I hope you emerge as a winner who have survived this setback in life and handled it quite well. Loads of regards from my side for your healing!

Bennedict · Nov 20, 2021 6:52 PM

@Bennedict yes I am proud of myself for not wanting the worst for that person. I like the person that I have become. It will be a lesson for sure. I have wonderful memories of when that person was there for me emotionally. He helped me be a better person. Obviously at first I was super hurt and I felt like my whole world collapsed infront of me. I felt sick to my stomach. But I don't want to play blame game. I am taking it as universe making space for another person to come for me or other greater things to happen for me. But I am a human and sometimes I still feel sad at that person, his family or anything that made that person take that decision. But I think it's my love for him that is making me want the best for him. I am also taking it in a positive note that his decision is going to bring much more happiness to me. I asked for universe and God to take away any bitterness that I have for him and his family. I want to send out positivity so that I can get abundance of happiness back from the universe.

wegalzrock · Nov 20, 2021 9:49 PM

Hahahahaha…

Sanaklaal · Nov 20, 2021 10:28 PM