कसले के भन्यो तर त्यो भन्न खोजेको होइन भने पानि माथिको ओबानो हुन् खोज्नु मात्र हो | यो उपत्यका बासि जो थानकोट काटेर कमै गएका होलान अनि २० बर्स अगिको अनुभब लेख्दै छु |  उपत्यका बासि आफुलाई धेरै सहरिया ठान्छन र अरुलाई होच्याउन पाए ठुलो मान्छे हुने ( सायद ट्रंप को मिचाहा र होच्याएर बोल्ने बानि धेरै नेपालीले मन पराएका छन् र यो नै मुख्य गुण मानि यिनको ताबेदारी गर्दैछन )| अरुलाई तल पारेर हेर्नु मानब गुण हो तेस्माथि बर्ण ब्यबस्थामा हुर्किएका बढेका हरुको जिनमा नै बोकेर आएका हुन्छन | शिक्षाले ज्ञान दिन्छ तर बिबेक भने दिदैंन यो त संस्कारमा हुर्किन्छ बड्छ : कुनै बेला साझामा उपत्यकाको हैन भन्ना साथ् खिच्चा कुकुर झैँ पछि लागेको पनि देखेको छौ | मेरो अंग्रेजीको सर ले कुनै बेला " त " सब्द को प्रयोग गर्नु हुन्थ्यो | धेरै जसो तिमि सब्द्को प्रयोग गर्थे | यी अंग्रेजी सरले "त्भ" ने पनि हेपाइ नभएर स्नेह साथ् भनिएको महसुश हुन्थ्यो | भन्न खोजेको कुरा के हो भने अन्धो छ भनेर जानी सके पछि अन्धो भनेर अनि लनगडेलाई लंगाड़े भनेर पुकारी राख्नु पर्दैन | अर्को कुरा कालो छाला हुनासाथ मार्सिया भन्न पछि नपरेको पनि देखेको छु | मेरो डेरे मित्र काला बर्णका थिए | ट्याक्सी खोज्दै थिए : एउटाले बढो मिठो संग हिन्दीको ज्ञान भएको जनायो " खालि नही है " जबकी ठेट नेपालीमा सोध्दै थियो | नानि मैया तिम्ले जसको लेख टास्यौ उसलाई जबाफ दिन चाहन्छु : मार्सिया भने पनि कुन Tone मा मार्सिया भन्यौ तेसमा पनि भर पर्छ | तिमीलाई तिम्रा साथि हरुले तिम्रो नाम एक चोटी लिए पछि बीच बीच मा राखेर कुरा गर्छन गर्दैनन् ? तर "मार्सिया" भन्ने बाक्य हरेक सब्दमा जोडिएको हुन्थ्यो त्यो चै के हो नि ? आज भोलि मार्सिया हरु ले नेवारी सिकाउने भएका छन् | एक दिन सुन्तला किन्न गएको मसिनो स्वरमा सोधे अनि अलिकति घटाएर दिन्छस भन्दा क्या चड्केर कुरा गर्यो | सम्झे मर्सियाले लोकल हैन भन्ने थाहा पायो भनि अर्को पसलबाट किनेर घर लागे | यो सबै एसियन का गुण हुन् | नानि अरुको लेख टासेर वाहि वाहि कमाउनु भन्दा आफुले पनि केहि सृजना गरेर देखाउ अनि थाहा हुन्छ परिश्रम को फल | Let us see who you are , what are your thoughts. If you can post your own writing. We know how to get those stuff surfing internet.  कसैले लेख्नु भएको थियो : एकिकरण कालो_ दिनको सुरुवात मा लिन्छौ भनेर , त्यो नभएको भए तिमि हामि इन्डियन कहलिन्थ्यौ | तिम्रो उपत्यका नेवारी र नेपालि नभएर हिन्दि भासी हुन्थ्यौ | कोहि कोहि विद्वान पनि निक्लेलान बरु भारतीय भएकै बेश हुन्थ्यो होला, CK राउत को अनुयायी हौ पनि भन्ने पढे लौ मलाइ पनि बनाउनुस उसको अनुयायी | उसको अनुयायी हुने ब्र्म्हबाणि मलाइ पनि दिनुस | जय नेपाल को ठाउमा जय हिन्द भन्ने हो ? Last edited: 23-Jun-16 07:39 AM

magorkhe1 · Jun 23, 2016 7:35 AM

Very much agree with MaGorkhe, would like to add more. I myself have been a huge culprit growing up. I am pretty sure I was hurting their sentiments but I just didn’t care much. Person from Madhesh would be called ‘Marsya,’ those with mongoloid face were ‘bhote,’ brahmins would be ‘tapari’ and newars would be ‘jyapu.’ These were actually my close friends and were used to it, on a hindsight they just tolerated it. Sure, in most instances I’d use these terms amicably – but whenever I fought/argued with them I made sure I used these terms in the most derogatory fashion I could muster. One can argue that these terms are used with utmost respect, with love – but whenever you address a person constantly as a group that the person represents, you kind of take away their individuality. “Nepali,” in no way can be a derogatory term, but I sure don’t want to be addressed as Nepali in each and every conversation with my coworkers and my boss. When the term has derogatory connotation, then it is even worse and such is the case with Marsya. It certainly has patronizing angle, it never is used with respect. You might have the best of intention, but you have to think about how the person you are addressing is receiving it. I could call you the worst of names and say that I say I meant no disrespect, does that work? I don’t know if I’ll ever seek atonement for the names I have called my friends; one thing I will sure do is that I will never repeat that mistake. If it is not received well, I shouldn’t repeat it. Common sense.

Kiddo · Jun 23, 2016 9:01 AM

"mana maka marsya kha" bhanera dherai choti suneko chhu. jasko artha lagchha "manchhe haina madhise ho"

dustanki · Jun 23, 2016 9:16 AM

yo marsya sabda pani angreji sabda FUCK jastai ho jasto lagyo... Fuck you! ra Fuck yeah! thyakka negative ra positive cha tara dubai ma prayog garna sakincha... Tehi vayera marsya vanne pani euta neutral sabda ho.. aba tesma "TONE" k rakhincha tyo vanne ra sunne ma var parne ho.. Marsya sabda ko kehi dosh chiana....

RAAJJ · Jun 24, 2016 3:25 PM

Very true raj , just like using word " nigga" lol...anyways I'm waiting here for some inputs of "anu ji" aka our own ex president's daughter! Being myself newar, within newar " they use so many racist words among themselves going with caste" , words like syawsyaw , barey, Nya, podey, jyapu, gobhaju etc etc. This looks like never ending story and some culprit just finds the way to do politics. And it is exactly how these words are use in which accent and context.

atomic · Jun 24, 2016 5:34 PM

Tone? Show me one guy from Madhesh who will be happy to hear the word "marsya", whether it is said on positive tone of negative.

BadhiJanne · Jun 24, 2016 9:28 PM

Offense is more taken that given. Even I am commented as "chakka" in this society. But I cannot take a particular word as offensive. You know, in Sikkim "chhakka" is just a common term for transgender, which is taken as offensive in Nepal. In India "hijra" is a common word, not exactly to transgenders but a particular group/organization of transgenders. I have refused to take these words as offensive anyway and how much a person may cry these words have stopped making difference to me. Lets stop taking offence. I do agree with racism in Newar community. But if we stop taking offenses, offenders won't be successful to offend us in any ways.

Rukshana Newa · Jun 25, 2016 1:59 AM

You can stop taking offense but can't expect every body else to do so and go on insulting people. Kudos for not being offended by the word Chhakka, I'm yet to meet a person who doesn't get offended by the word. Now acting violently while being offended is not tolerable, but you just can't insult people and expect them not to be offended. Why use the terms that offends them?

BadhiJanne · Jun 25, 2016 2:35 AM

If we go after etymology even "Mother-F***" may sound harmless. George Carlin, in a later standup, admitted that this word did not belong on his list of 7 words you can't say on TV, as it is a derivative of the word “fuck". Marsya - in any Nepali person' cognitive dictionary is a derogatory term referring to a group of people from Terai. I am from Terai and I lived in a dera in Kathmandu. That is exactly the visual imagery of a Marsya. Doesn't take into account that I am Ganesh J. or that in offering grateful homage to Sangita Rayamahji's "All Mothers are working Mothers: A Play", I sent a letter to the editors at Kantipur dainik, who published, why we should read not only more from Sangita Rayamahji but also Eve Ensler in our colleges.Note the irony of stereotypes. To negate my own perception of how 'Marsya' is perceived by native Kathmanduites, I am trying to persuade you that reading Vagina Monologues is not a typical Marsya discourse and that I am an elite individual which is why you should respect me. Like someone posted earlier, we're all implicit in this. Not only that we called our friends bhele, madhise, maade ( माडे ), bhote, jyapu, barmu, tapare, baje, chamaar, pakhe to label their representation of a group derogatorily, we also labelled them individually kale, baam, daante, dare, dede, bhakbhake, baans (bamboo), mote, chakka,, torpe. We are the society of unequal. This notion of everyone should get the equal opportunity no matter their caste and ethnicity did not really down on me, even though, I studied about it in my School and my College. It mostly took me to actually study and live in a Western country to actually realize how gravely wrong it was. At least that is my experience.

kalidasbhaisaab · Jun 25, 2016 9:48 AM