Real problem moving back home after living years abroad is not lack of infrastructure. Of course its inconvenient at times but you always have alternatives. Have your own car, have solar, inverter and a/c at home. And you are all set, as far as luxury goes. Real problem I found during my last visit was with the way people think over there. I will try to list out some of the stuffs I personally saw during my 1 month stay. 1. Value of life - people don't value their life as much as they should. Especially at this time, public bus are carrying passengers more than twice their capacity, in the roof and hanging on the door. There are numerous accidents where many people are dead. Still people don't think twice to get into the bus they know are over crowded. Once accident happens there is no investigation on what went wrong. It's insane how lightly people take take risk at every step of life. 2. Waste of resources - Useful time is being wasted in getting basic things. People in line to get gas, oil, paying electricity bills, every government office has huge unmanaged line. Everywhere there is waste of time. Shopping takes alot of time in Nepal because of bargaining at every shop. If you dont know how to bargain you will get ripped off. Things that can be done easily online takes up your whole day. You will see people in the streets just standing there doing nothing. Just wasting time. 3. Insane inflation of money - If you think few grand american dollar is alot of money in Nepal, you are wrong. The amount of inflation in last 5-6 years is insane. Cost of living and food can be compared with developed countries. For Example, 2 liter of Coke bottle costs less than $2 in US, but it costs about 200 Rs, over there. Rending a apartment in Kathmandu costs as much as some of the cities in US. Even price of momo went up to 150 above. How can people surviving where average monthly income is less than Rs 25,000. 4. Concept of living - Found it very interesting that success to Nepali people is building a nice house or buying land that they will never use. Even my parents are building a new house just for the shake of having new house. They save every penny, never go out for dinner, barely go for vacation so that they collect jewelry and buy house. If someones son buy new house, everyone thinks he is the most successful and everyone gossips about how they used to be poor. Society is very materialistic. Enjoying life and being prosperous is entirely different concept in Nepal.

hamrochautari · Nov 23, 2015 1:11 PM

Thank you much all for your thoughts and insight. Agree it can be channeling for a few days or month for sure. Real challenge is to get a job. Once i have that line up then it is the matter of adjusting i believe which everyone agrees one. I am not going at the moment for sure with all the mess but thinking in the near further. Yes, i agree with the inflation, dhulo dhuwa, people are so nosy for sure and they are right on the top to let you down, talk behind your back but i am not worried that much, i think i can adjust that (i think) , who knows what may lie ahead when it gets to the point where you say enough is enough. I guess Social life comes with pros and cons and it is not the same Nepal i left years ago . I might have to think a little bit and Decide. I know i was born and raised there but the Kathmandu i left was nice and beautiful, people were friendly they used to respect each other, there was something called love and care which is so lost now a days but i Love my Kathmandu :)

Yeap · Nov 23, 2015 5:22 PM

I think it would be a good idea to have a group in Nepal for those who have returned after staying overseas for many years, for example, like ex-NRN. This will help, even in little ways, in adjusting back to life in Nepal. It will also be a good networking, and might help in finding job with the experience of overseas. We have some exposure to management in companies in the west, so Nepal could use that expertise. If not at least the group will be good to tackle some common challenges for those returning back to Nepal for good.

jerryswari · Nov 29, 2015 9:31 AM

I liked hamrochautari's points. Point #4 exactly matches with my family situation. They sit on large amount of wealth but never spend money on travel, eat out, learn new things, comfort their life etc. I am pissed off that they don't want to change for their good. I am sure most Nepalese in US have lot of inheritable property in Nepal, but still their family want money from us.

dindukhi · Nov 29, 2015 11:54 AM

Yeap, if you can find "yourself", maybe it's the " satisfaction" you will be happy in nepal. Though life is tough , people are happy there. Atleast , society is still cohesive and helpful. Obviously, society is getting more materialistic, it has the right fusions between the old and new. You will find a different lifestyle outside of cities. I can bet you you will never get bored in Nepal. One thing you need to overcome is the frustration which will eventually come after living there for few months at the current situation . I suggest you set specific goals what you want to achieve and what you want to be. Even a small achievements over there will bring you greater satisfaction due to loved ones around you and if you can have good friends circle. I see it's livable. I have seen people doing it. After living in USA for 12 years, I have lost the charm here. i feel like going back but haven't decided what can i do there? Don't wanna go with out a plan.

KhateBuda · Nov 29, 2015 7:27 PM

Yeap, if you can find "yourself", maybe it's the " satisfaction" you will be happy in nepal. Though life is tough , people are happy there. Atleast , society is still cohesive and helpful. Obviously, society is getting more materialistic, it has the right fusions between the old and new. You will find a different lifestyle outside of cities. I can bet you you will never get bored in Nepal. One thing you need to overcome is the frustration which will eventually come after living there for few months at the current situation . I suggest you set specific goals what you want to achieve and what you want to be. Even a small achievements over there will bring you greater satisfaction due to loved ones around you and if you can have good friends circle. I see it's livable. I have seen people doing it. After living in USA for 12 years, I have lost the charm here. i feel like going back but haven't decided what can i do there? Don't wanna go with out a plan.

KhateBuda · Nov 29, 2015 7:29 PM

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MaGorkhe1 · Nov 30, 2015 7:45 AM