Ok I am updating on this girl whom I had dated a couple of times a few months ago. After sharing all my expectations and disclosing my extremely personal information with her, I asked her if she still wanted to take our relation any further. Since I was not making as much money as she was (I am a post doc and she is a senior engineer in some reputable company; and you know how much a post doc makes in comparison), I told her that she should be willing to compromise with me (that is in terms of income disparity) for the next few years until I get hold of a better position. She told me that she was not after money and all she needed was love blah blah.. and with such a 'put-up' simplicity of hers, I got so attracted towards her that I fell in love with her. I also told her in the very beginning that she has to be very careful with her decision before stepping into my life because when I love someone I love them to the extreme and it can't be undone. She said, she likes me and is willing to go ahead with our relation. We shared intimate time over the phone for hours and days/weeks. However, one day she called me and said that we don't have future together because there is a huge distinction between her level of comfort and my level of comfort. She said, when I said I am not after money, I did not mean I don't need a basic luxury, car, house etc etc. she said, "I just meant I don't need a 5000$ hand bag and that is what being materialistic mean to me". I was flabbergasted getting to know her true colour. She ultimately decided to leave me. And here is the more interesting part: After two months of our separation, she texted me one day saying that she missed me a lot. She said she missed me every day and she was so regretful for what she did to a nice guy like me. She also mentioned that her parents introduced her to a few new guys for marriage. She said, they all were incomparable to who I am. "Kaha timi kaha tini haru ani ta jhan timro yaad aayo malai", she said. Since I still love her, I asked her if she is willing to take our relation any further, but her reply was still the same. She still thinks that I would not make enough money to keep her happy. In response this is what I replied to her (my exact words): Hey don't message me ever again unless you really want me to fuck you, but still you will have to convince me with really good reason. It will be really difficult for me to fuck you with so much "yuck factor" in you, but I will consider doing it for you anyway. Now don't complain to me that I am being disrespectful to you. For the most part, girls like you are the reason why we have so much trouble with men in our society, and strangely you are those frontrunners in complaining about it. You know I was not like this before, you have made me this person and this is what you deserve from me. Yesto kati jana lai banayau ? Don't think that you are a special breed. Sabai ko izzat huncha, sabai ko existential value huncha. Don't message me ever again, you just don't deserve a nice guy. I truly hope that you get dumped with a bum (and that's the fate of a girl like you usually). Stupid! Here is her reply: I ' m sorry :(( really terribly sorry for what I did. ######################## I don't seem to find nice girls these days (I am really hopeless). I need to get married soon, the time bomb is ticking but these bitches keep on spoiling everything. Do you guys have similar stories to share? Last edited: 27-Jun-15 05:38 PM
Hydrogen Sulphide · Jun 27, 2015 5:24 PM · 976 views
Blow up doll don't count as girl and u can't date them..her replies are in ur head..
itroll · Jun 27, 2015 5:52 PM
She is living in 21 century, but her mentality is still in 19th century. Only after rich guy.shame on u girls.
Bichitra_Kumar · Jun 27, 2015 6:15 PM
"I also told her in the very beginning that she has to be very careful with her decision before stepping into my life because when I love someone I love them to the extreme and it can't be undone" That's where she found your weakness. Never show them your craziness like that until you tie the knot. Also since she is a senior engineer in a reputable company, why is she after money?
sabaiko satru · Jun 27, 2015 9:35 PM
Sabaiko satru, you have got the point and I also realized that mistake. Last edited: 27-Jun-15 10:08 PM
Hydrogen Sulphide · Jun 27, 2015 10:08 PM
Bro, there are girls/families on both extremes. On the other extreme, if you are desperate to marry, there are plenty of Nepali girls from middle class (or in some instances, upper middle class) families who received their MBAs from India (or Nepal or Europe) who are desperate to move aboard and would marry any post-doc with a US Greencard or Australian/Canadian PR in a heartbeat. They have no idea how much a post-doc makes, all they care about is that jwai sahab is a PhD Doctor and has a PR. It will be hard for you guys (those settled aboard) to understand the pida of Nepal-resident males looking for a wife. If one is not a Medical Doctor or Chartered Accountant or Government Employee (with future "earning" potential) or employed at an international developmental agency/INGO (making significant dough), it is impossible to find a wife -- all girls want to marry a NRN; only the desperate ones settle for the professions I listed above. Non desperate ones don't settle for any non-NRN beside Doctors. Such is life, my friend. Make the best of your NRN status and ask your parents to find a middle-class Nepali girl with an MBA from India/Nepal, if you are desperate. Last edited: 27-Jun-15 10:57 PM
eklo_balak · Jun 27, 2015 10:45 PM
i dont understand one thing, if she already makes good money working at a reputable company, why does she need someone else to provide for her or give her a luxurious life...she can do that for her own and its not like you're broke/uneducated either.. she was prolly never serious with u to begin with, well atleast you found out her true colors, it was only 2 months, thts nothing:)
Aquamarine · Jun 27, 2015 11:21 PM
she doesnt happen to be a 30 something divorcee from fairfax/dc area?
Aquamarine · Jun 27, 2015 11:23 PM
Aquamarine, No she is not from VA. She said she wantto buy a nice house and settle immediately. With the post doc position I may have to move from one position to another in different states and that was her concern too. Anyway she is one educated stu idiot.
Hydrogen Sulphide · Jun 27, 2015 11:48 PM
well if she wants love, she should be willing to compromise a few things and adjust a bit.. girls like em spend their lifetime looking for the right guy and regret later, dun worry ull find someone better, it seems like she was trying it out with you for couplemonths and gettin to know ur future plans n ur financial security, when she figured theres not 'enough' money for her, she backed out :P omg i thutt engineers werent greedy n dependant on others for money
Aquamarine · Jun 27, 2015 11:55 PM
Trying to get with girls and you can not handle her emotions? Better date boys and get married with your thinking. Common you are trying to get along with girl. What do you expect!
Khairey · Jun 28, 2015 12:19 AM
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