Hello, I am hoping that some of you may be able to shed light on a sensitive issue I had with my Nepali boyfriend... I am western,, it is a fairly new relationship,, (a few months) and we recently spent the night together..for the first time. We woke in the morning and the FIRST thing he said to me was, "I think you are a little heavy'... at first , I thought maybe he said "happy",,, and so I said, "yes, Im happy" he said, no, no HEAVY, you know , 40, 50 60 KG,,, how much do you weigh...??? (honestly he had seen me many times before this, I don't know why he felt to mention it at this time) I was completely insulted and not to mention devastated, by this statement,,, (I am not Super-fat, by American standards, but I am no stick, either...I have curves) anyway, I was really insulted ,, I told him that I was really hurt by what he said, and he didn't apologize, but rather sighted "cultural differences", and said that Nepalis say "moti" to tease as a term of endearment. I told him that he didn't say that, even if it were true,,,and now my feelings are very hurt.., He continues to sight cultural differences, and I am beginning to wonder if perhaps he is just mean. Ok....people,,,, In my opinion, all men in the world know not to call the woman they are with Fat, if they want to continue living,,a happy life,,,!!!! What's going on here,,, really?? Maybe he just doesn't like me?? What gives? Is there ever a time when saying this wouldn't be considered mean-spirited... he says now that I have misinterpreted what he said, that it is normal for Nepali's to say that,,, I really cant believe that..(I should mention this isn't a one-night-stand... we met in person 5 months ago,, he saw me then, we skyped every day for 4 months,,, and I just went to visit him for a week,,.... Ladies,,, should I just dump him... or is there ever a situation where I might have misunderstood... it feels like he has a mean-streak that I really hadn't spotted before... he says he loves me, and I really cared for him...very confhttp://sajha.com/sajha/chat/sm... all this.... Last edited: 30-Aug-14 02:36 PM