How should I approach this?

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Last Friday, my eyes accidently started looking at a girl(American) in my Calculus class. She caught me at the same time. When she caught me, I kept looking at her. I felt like I was unconscious about what was happening. It was unintentional look. However, there was something about this 4 sec. accidental look. She felt it. I felt it. I don't know anything about her nor she do about me. How should I approach this? Need mature advice.

ujl · Oct 15, 2013 5:18 PM · 19,943 views

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next class go straight to her and ask if she know the certain problem of your hw. And ask if she wanna have study.....if she help you, it gonna be easy for you. But, if she say she already have group  to study leave her alone.

codeme · Oct 15, 2013 7:03 PM

no_more_crush · Oct 15, 2013 7:27 PM

 

Kiddo · Oct 15, 2013 8:16 PM

its serious coz this guy want to get laid ....its pretty serious man.....    :)    go bro ....[Disallowed String for - Bad word 'fuk'] that white ss !!!

codeme · Oct 15, 2013 8:23 PM

It's not about sex. What is there in rubbing two bodies for gaining sense pleasure! I am not the slave of my senses; instead I control my senses. I just wanted to know how should I approach an American girl because I don't know how cross culture dating/relationship works. Attraction is the first criteria. I found that she is looking at me from moment to moment in my class. But I have no idea how should I start the 'very first conversation' and as they say first impression is last impression, so just needed some friendly advice.

ujl · Oct 17, 2013 7:11 PM

 Hey  Well i think you shud just go talk to her...Dont expect it to lead into something serious.. just because your eyes met and those 4 secs u felt something doesnt neccessarily mean it will lead to a relationship. So just be confident and talk to her.. may be u can just introduce yourself and talk abt the class for a bit.. then depending on ur response, you probably will get a hint of what u guys shud talk about and see where things go from there. Good luck :)  Last edited: 17-Oct-13 07:20 PM

alina · Oct 17, 2013 7:19 PM

फोर सेकेन्द्स ?? ए जथा के नेपाल हो र आँखै आँखामा लप पर्ने ?? शि अलरेडी थिन्क्स यू आर अ कृप इफ नट अ साइकोप्याथ ! भाई जस्तो लागेर भनेको , इफ यू हव यान अप्सन ड्रप ड्याट ड्याम क्लास इफ नट बै अ बुर्का यान्द नेभर सो हर योर फेस !  ह्यप्पी टु हेल्प 28th

28th amendment · Oct 17, 2013 9:24 PM

Quite an ironic situation, eh? You post something that an average joe goes through when he's 13 and want mature advice? 

riddle · Oct 18, 2013 9:24 PM

Riddle, I do not want to explain Vedas and Upanishads to you right now because it is Friday! CHILL OUT GUYS AND GIRLS! Alina, thanks for your friendly advice! I think Sajha is not an appropriate place to investigate the purity of people's heart. A liberated sage acts like a baby because his mind is pure!

ujl · Oct 18, 2013 11:08 PM

 hey ujl no problem.. and good luck :) Happy weekend 

alina · Oct 18, 2013 11:17 PM

Uji anonymity brings out the worst cynic in people it's like a free pass to show your negative side

funtush · Oct 19, 2013 5:26 AM

I can't speak for others but I wasn't cynical at all. Lighten up, will you?

riddle · Oct 19, 2013 6:46 AM

Seriously, dude? Let me sum up: Your eyes met for 4 secs, with an American girl, now you want advice, your heart is 'pure',  it's not about sex, you throw Vedas and Upanishads when people comment on it. Hmm rather interesting! Or are you lost, may need to seek help. Good luck, brother!

IDK2013 · Oct 19, 2013 8:48 AM

Guys, please relax! Idk 2013, I brought Vedas and Upanishads here because Riddle is unaware of the fact that "possibilities are infinite." There is nothing wrong with 4 sec. For your information, cosmic dissolution can happen in twinkling of an eye! 4 sec is a lot more time. Mind can experience 1 year in 1 minute, and 1 minute can be felt as 1 year. In dream consciousness, you see dead people alive and fish flying in the sky! What is not possible? The problem here with many sajha folks are, they become highly reactive. They don't just become reactive, they become negatively reactive. Idk 2013, I brought Vedas here because Vedas clearly mention that "where there is mind, there is stupidity." Riddle comes up with this average kid joe, he thinks his behavior is immature. Let me tell you both one fact: there is no good, there is no bad. It is your mind labeling it because of innumerable psychological conditioning. An enlightened sage is both mature and immature! He lives his life playfully here like a baby! I was just seeking some friendly advice from you guys. Major chunk of people spent their whole lives on likes-dislikes, love-hate, and many other pairs of opposites. They don't even know they are more than this mental emotions and ideas!

ujl · Oct 19, 2013 12:56 PM

gita and upanisaad??? what the fak!

28th amendment · Oct 19, 2013 1:55 PM

"There is nothing wrong with 4 sec. For your information, cosmic dissolution can happen in twinkling of an eye! 4 sec is a lot more time. Mind can experience 1 year in 1 minute, and 1 minute can be felt as 1 year. In dream consciousness, you see dead people alive and fish flying in the sky!"          It has Sheldon Cooper written all over it. Nerrd.  Worrd.  How about ask SIRI how to approach a girl like Dr. Kudrapaali does.

jepayotyehi · Oct 19, 2013 2:38 PM

साझा मा राम्रा thread हरु को खडेरी परे जस्तो छ.

adhikari_bandhu · Oct 19, 2013 8:41 PM

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