Grow a pair of something something and talk to them the way they deserve. If they're inconsiderate enough that they don't care about you, you shouldn't really care about what they think either. It's easier said than done but you have no other choice. 

riddle · Mar 18, 2013 7:56 PM

First try to find a job. I heard Indian consutancy provide free training and also help to find a job , what ever percentage they keep in pocket , something in hand is better than nothing.  Last edited: 19-Mar-13 12:26 AM

maGorkhe1 · Mar 18, 2013 8:07 PM

Plan for a family movie night this friday and bring home a dvd of "Atithi, tum kab jaoge?" Watch it with them, they will get a hint. I agree with Riddle's take. They should've understood it aint Nepal. Tell them it's been fun and all, but that they need to move. If it's hard to grow a pair as suggested, tell them your relatives are coming from Nepal soon and you need space for them. Once they move, don't mention this or just say they postponed and are coming 2 weeks later. Keep doing it, they will get the hint.

Kiddo · Mar 19, 2013 10:02 AM

लबस्तरा र थेत्तराको कुनै औसधि हुँदैन | भैरब अर्यालको एउटा व्यंग विधामा : सम्धीलाई भगाउन बुढा बुढी कुटा कुट गर्छन,  सम्धी बाहिरीए पछि बुढीले भनिन मा कस्तो रु ए जस्तो गरे , बुढो भन्छ मैले कस्तो कुटे जस्तो गरे, अनि सम्धी जी पनि टुप्लुक्क तुप्लिकिदै थप्छन , म पनि कस्तो गए जस्तो गरे !

Magorkhe1 · Mar 19, 2013 12:19 PM

 the serious thread is trending out to be a funny with the funny statement but situation nai testo cha k garne. . kiddo's suggestion is funny but i find it practical too.  i think the bottomline of the suggestion is you need to let your guests know that they need to leave. you might approach in a direct way or indirect, BUT YOU NEED TO LET THEM KNOW.

bbmb · Mar 19, 2013 1:21 PM

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nepalilaure · Mar 19, 2013 1:59 PM

 Barcaman, I am sorry to hear about your situation. I am not an expert on the family matter but I would like to share my thoughts. First of all, what do the cousins do? I meant are they student? Based on your descriptions they are either students or lazy bumps. If they dont work and don't really do anything, approach them and let them know what you think. If they are students, I would be considerate. We are brought up on a society where one relative cares another. You can consider it as a favor for him/her. Do you rent more space just because of the cousins? If not, I would not worry much. About groceries, its usually not that much difference if you shop for 2 or 3 persons.  You should be having this discussion with your wife than here in sajha. No matter she likes or not, its what you think and you have to let her know. You can't let this thing bug you and create a rift between you and your wife. Who knows the cousin or his/her parents have helped a lot to your wife n her family and she feels obliged? The point is you need to know the feelings and thoughts of your wife in this matter. Talk to her coz you both have share the same house and belongs to both of you. Good luck man and get it resolved! 

busenitz · Mar 19, 2013 2:26 PM

It is a difficult situation but if they have no job and are not earning, how can they contribute. Did they try looking for a job?. As a relative, you should help them but at the same time also persuade them to find an odd job. Your wife should ask them to find a job and you can assist them.  It is better to go back to Nepal if they cannot find a job. But you can discuss this in a nice way over dinner or something. I hope things end well for you guys.  

freedom2012 · Mar 19, 2013 5:43 PM

Totally agree with busenitz. If he/she is student/teenager then I think even its difficult for you, you should consider of helping them. But you mentioned he/she has been living "on and off" with your family. why is there irregularities? and for how long each time in average? Above all, if they are in trouble of not finding job or having some hard times, never let them feel that you are turning your back. Good Luck..

arni1101 · Mar 19, 2013 8:12 PM

त्यसलाई गाह्रो छ भने त यसो help selp गर्नु पर्यो नि मित्र . कुनै support जसलाई पनि चाहिन्छ हैन त्यो मुज़ी काम नलाग्ने पशु नै छ भने त, एउटा animal circus ले येसो characters खोज्दै छ भन्ने सुनेको छु लोल I know you are stressed...so.. 

IDK2013 · Mar 19, 2013 10:56 PM