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When you reach the peak of your quarter/mid/.75 life and you end up with a lot of free time, you start to look back and think. If you haven’t done so, then you can nonchalantly continue with whatever it is that you are doing because ignorance is bliss. No shit. The difficult part about such introspective sessions is that it reveals a lot about you, some of which are empowering while some of it you could do without. It’s not like I sat down with a cup of tea and told myself to close my eyes and start thinking, it just happens, just like everything else in life. Some of it brings about a gradual change while some of it gets archived in virtual human memory. Like any other Asian country, Nepal can also be diagnosed with academia1. The notion is that if you study enough and are ahead of everyone, you will become a “thulo manchey”. Further verified by the family Jotish, another profession where you don’t get sacked for being inaccurate. I remember the first time I was recognized for having the third highest percentage in class, my parents were so happy that they signed me up for more tuitions , in hopes that I would make it to first place. While that never happened, it was never my intention to make them happy or sad with my academic abilities. With so much pressure to perform well and so much comparing with other kids, it’s no wonder that many Nepalese youngsters will go at any lengths to be ahead of the premeditated game. The all familiar and convoluted “khutta tanney“ games that people play. With so much focus on individual needs to succeed, we often forget about the common denominator: our own community. Why don’t people push us towards becoming well rounded individuals with less selfish values? Are problems in Nepal rooted in the type of parenting? What about living a more fulfilling life? Creating a better community, perhaps? I confess I’m a hypocrite when it comes to my country, am I at liberty to have these thoughts? 1 Chronic belief that math and science are the answers to success Last edited: 03-Dec-12 11:22 PM

FoxConn · Dec 3, 2012 11:20 PM · 10,573 views

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Haha

halo · Dec 4, 2012 8:02 AM

 Good parenting is very important to making a good citizen. In Nepal, parents love their kids, but fail to teach them about good ethics, honesty, faithfulness by setting good examples. parents themselves would do anything to gain, they would discriminate other so called people belonging to lower strata of the society. Many Neighbors treat each other as competators, each festival becomes an opportunity to compete. there's no sense of loving thy neighbor. If you can't respect and love your neighbor and you're so self centered on yourself and your family then you won't be able to think about your neighborhood, your community. that is the reason why most houses in Nepal are clean, but roads outside filled with garbage. This is the reason why Nepal has so many problems. Rampant corruption, injustice, poor infrastructure, poverty, etc all stems from  potentially bad parenting. 

sajhaguy69 · Dec 4, 2012 8:30 AM

But in making easy money they will compromise.

Magorkhe1 · Dec 4, 2012 11:31 AM

 I was hoping someone would say exactly what you said. It's unorthodox to say that it all stems to parents, but it's the truth that no one likes to think about it objectively, especially in our country where we are taught to essentially worship our parents. Even the most well educated people still think the same way, it's almost as if the purpose of education was to further more self-interests. 

FoxConn · Dec 4, 2012 6:15 PM

 Good post, Sajhaguy. 

riddle · Dec 4, 2012 6:33 PM

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