I agree with Kooldude that a fight can't be one-sided, it is a contribution of both parties. Usher you might not have noticed bad qualities of Donna before you got married to her. I guess the Green Card blind folded you. At least you learnt a valuable lesson in life by coming to a city like NY. Remember you can't have all the options in life. If you were thinking of having a green card and megna you should have looked at other options before you made your decision to marry Donna. You took the easiest route to your problems and lost an important person in your life. Many Nepali's in the US have studied, paid their bills, and are in debt from tution bills which doesn't make your case rare that you should have jumped at the first opportunity you got to marry Donna. For God Sake your story is trying to make Donna and all white girls look really bad. Its such a generalized statement. What would have happened if all the Nepali's got generalized into one category because of one Nepali's misconduct. Now you have two options either listen to the song "Confession by Usher" for the rest of your life, or do something with the GC of yours. Get a job, move on and please look after your mom who needs you the most at these difficult times. Many Megna's will come and go in life but there's only one mom. And please don't say you mishandled any situation, you did what you thought was best and most imp of all learnt a very valuable lesson in life.