Ujl- I see where you are getting to, which is why i gave 5 years if i would feel something towards my spouse. I do get it life isn't about euphoria and you have to manage ups and downs yourselves but there never was a chance for me to feel if i feel attracted towards or that feeling of love at least for the person that i'll be around my whole life. It's also true people fall out of love but wouldn't it be disservice to my wife as well if can't truly feel connected to her. You may say well people have managed through all life together but i have seen enough disconnect in couples that they don't even enjoy the company of each other. It may well have been covered due to our communal society back home. Here you spend the most time with your significant other and if you don't feel connected you can't help yourself but to be alone and for someone else to judge; it's not possible without passing through similar situation. Have you had a conversation with your wife when you travel that she misses you and you have to say it so even though you don't genuinly feel it. I know it's in my mind but i can't live in someone else's mind as well.