I came across this interview randomly, not knowing the whole stir and talk about it in the social media. I am talking about Kanchan Sharma Regmi whose interview was aired on Kantipur Television in the show “Suman Sanga”. I have viewed this episode 3 times before I wrote this thread, not sure if I should feel sympathetic to the woman or doubt her.

Throughout the whole interview there is inconsistency and a strange vibe of lie, or lets say truth being extremely manipulated. I have noted few things which has strongly disturbed me. Being a woman, I know I should be sympathizing and be empathetic to her but honestly I didnt feel it. So I checked another interview where her husband tried to explain few things. Some things I have made note of is as follows.

1. This absolutely needs the first mention. The interviewer Mr. Suman Kharel, didn't do his homework at all. I think he thought “ I can do this interview and increase my TRP with all sympathy I can gather through social media and publicity.” Sorry but this whole stunt failed on him and I think he should resign after all this.

2. While I was writing this, another article came into my hand where this girl posts Kanchan's real story. In June, Kanchan was seen begging for ciggie and tea around Pashupati area. This writer was the same person who called for help and get her (Kanchan) some conselling for mental disorders. In the interview she says she was picked from trash by a social worker while passing by. She claimed she was rescued couple of years ago. Luckily, the blog has Kanchan's pictures taken in June 2016 for authenticity. The blogger also shares that she was asking people for tea and ciggie and the shopkeeper told her that, it was Kanchan's daily routine, sometimes smelling of alcohol (Please note that I am not judging her just because she smokes or has drinking issues). Doubts on the story??

3. Kanchan in his interview shared her hardship on how she did her bachelors from Padma Kanya and later against her husband's wish, she enrolled herself for Nursing. Someone who claims she sold her gold chain to pay her tuition fees and took such bold decisions, couldnt survive later and was living in the trash for seven years? Someone with double Bachelor's degree( mind it that both of her colleges are in Kathmandu and not in some rural part of Nepal) couldnt find a simple job in Kathmandu? I have seen and met so many women who are victims of domestic violence,sexual abuse and so on, who are trying to make a living by working simple jobs. What is the other side of this woman Kanchan that we dont know???

4. Throughout the interview, she seems to be trying to portrait that her husband and son are evil and inhuman. OK FINE! You dont get along with your husband, you can blame him but I feel like no mother will say anything bad about their child on National TV. At one point she says,” I gave birth to them I can recognise them coz I am their mother.” and after 10 minute she was constantly saying her kids abandoned her in the worse of nightmares. I might sound like an orthodox and stereotyping things but a mother will never public shame her kids.

5. Right after the interview where she was asked to recite her own poetry, which she did, the original writer of that poem posted on facebook giving all the needed details of how it is not her's and his creation. He has also given a link to the song which was recorded with the same lyrics.

6. This kind of negligence from media, big or small, narrows the possibility of people who actually are a victim of domestic violence. I think to a bit extend, Kantipur TV production department should be blamed for not taking such issues seriously and let anyone come on screen and give a hoax story for sympathy.

7. This is a very true example of how we the Nepalis are “bhedas” in the true sense. Right after the interview, people started searching for the husband and sons on social media and bombarded them with messages,insults and copying their pictures and making memes out of it. I mean we can wait to know the other side of the story as well. But NOOOOO!! We have to speak, put opinion and vandalize someone's reputation coz we can. While I am writing this sitting in a coffeshop, I hear this young guy in the next table saying that the younger son of Kanchan is so traumatize that he has gone missing. The elder son was into drugs due to family dispute and was send to Bangalore by the father. Apparently he is not even an engineer as she claims.

   A lot of such questions come into my mind and I just couldn't feel sorry even zero percent for this woman. A lot of people, specially woman will feel that I am not supporting another woman.No, I dont support a gender but the truth. Every story has two sides and I dont want to hear one side of the story and decide that the other side is wrong. I am not scrutinizing her story. I have cried listening to some domestic violence stories but I know there was authenticity in those stories.

   If I was the husband of Kanchan, I would have sued Kantipur TV for their negligence and for destroying my reputation, for all the mental stress that was caused just because they didnt do a background check on the story. This is not the first time Kantipur Group had done so. The last time, they published the news and an obituary of Sir Ambar Gurung with confirming it with the family. Ambar Gurung was very critical and was in ICU at that time.