Posted by: Vivant October 18, 2016
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Kalidasbhaisab, a very inspiring take on things - thanks for sharing. You handled adversity with grace and steely inner resolve and have provided food for thought for anyone struggling to reconcile acceptance and rejection. Your driving style tells me you must truly be at peace on the road. Yours must always be smooth ride - deserving of a special discount from your auto insurance company, if I may say so :)
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A couple of other general thoughts on the issue of rejection in an adopted country:
- Rejection is probably the most common of human experiences. Doesn't matter if you are in Nepal or America or whether you are of this race or that race or this ethnicity or that ethnicity, you will likely face some form of rejection on a daily basis from the day you are born till the day you kick the bucket. A depressing thought but don't lose hope yet - there are ways to deal with it. A good coping strategy is to reject the rejection: where possible, don't personalize it. What some idiot says to you is more a reflection of him rather than you and often has nothing to do with you as Kalidasbhaisaab alluded to. Exceptions abound but as a general rule, this can serve you well.
Rejection, as an emotion, is generally legal when it doesn't translate into illegal activity.
- Harassment, on the other hand, is usually illegal, whatever the basis and its effect on you can be far more damaging. Here it is better to fight back using whatever tools, big or small, you have in your arsenal. Use your best judgment, ask for help if needed, but push back in whatever way you can. One of my favorite quotes about this is "If someone gives you shit,convert their shit into your fuel". It is good for your health. You are more likely to come out of it emotionally intact and probably more empowered if you challenge the perpetrator. Use your best judgement on what's right for you.
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