Bigreko dude..marriage not working because you are too busy focusing on your ex..grow pair of balls and tell your ex to fuq off and love your wife..only thing your ex is doing is called rebound love or maybe revenge.. Usually with rebound, girls can't find a guy or feel insecure and goes back to the ex's..if I were you I would ditch the bitch to the curb and take the wife to seaside..but again, it's easy for me to say, you are the only who has to live with it .. So dude take a chill pill and do what you think is best for both of you.