I have the same story, but I never got to tell her that I loved her even though I knew she was aware of my feelings. To this date I occasionally think of her, but no more than that. Having said that you guys definitely need to leave your past behind and move forward even though if its going to be tough. Remember someone has chosen to spend their lives with you and that person is the one who deserves 100% of your love, care, and attention. Focus on what you have rather than what you could have or what you missed.