Although, I sympathize with many of the issues that Sweetiepie brings to this forum, I beg to differ on the image she portrays of the "Nepali" woman. Note: the "you" used is generic! -On being "Sati Savitri" -- you'd better be a sati savitri in your marriage/relationship unless you want to take in a boy friend or two too. -On wearing a Sari-- If you know how to wear it and wear it long enough, you'll be comfortable. If you know when to where it, it will be suitable (obviously, one can't go jogging wearing one!), If you know how to carry it off, you will look, beautiful, sexy, graceful and elegant... all at the same time. What more could you ask for? -On wearing a kurtha-- It can be as sexy as you want it or as conservative as you want it to be. --On pants-- It may be comfortable but not necessarily flatter your figure. --On minis-- You may look "modern" but not necessarily well-dressed or elegant. --On "copying white girls", you can be Nepali with black hair, with Nepali accent, with less than fluent English and still exude confidence which is attractive to both Nepalis and Foreigners; to both males and females!!!! BE CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF AND SECURE IN YOUR ROOTS!