Posted by: kalidasbhaisaab January 6, 2015
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I agree with friends, here, who mentioned earlier “खोजि खोजि बनाइने साथि र आफसे आफ बनिने साथि नदीका दुइ पाटा जस्तै हुन्” even more so “साथीको कुरा, खोज्दैमा पाउने कुरा हैन. तपाइको कुरा संग मिल्ने साथि पाउन, online forum भन्दापनि भेटघाट मा जानु पर्यो”. From where you are and how you feel right now, below suggestion may sound cliche. To me, the idea that you are seeking friends in this forum appears that you may be feeling lonely or down. Don’t agonize, you are not alone.From my experience, I observed that friends do not appear out of the blue. I have to attempt an honest and active effort to make, win and keep friends. It takes time, but more importantly, an honest effort. Keep your old friends, call them and send them your city's post cards - even if they are in Tandi, Chitwan; trust Nepal’s Postal system. Post Card: 59 cents, US Postal Stamps: $2.59, smile on Dinesh dai’s ever frowning face: priceless. My cliched advice; every weekend there are tons of things to do alone but always be on a lookout for friends, start with small talk but never be disturbingly eccentric. Reminds me of Seinfeld, “Looking at cleavage is like looking at the sun! It’s too risky” (link). Another thing I recall from my younger self that I wanted to change is ‘grooming’. Why I hardly cut my hair or trimmed my beard is an unimaginable memory. Now I think, spending on clothes to be presentable is a good investment. You may read this as a tell-tale suggestion about asking a girl or a boy out. I am just sharing my opinion. No matter gender, a better presentable person is quicker in making new friends. I say this because when I was a single student in Chicago, working at a Marathon Corporation’s inner city branch as a senior cash associate with tax exempt payrolls, I would cut my hair every four months and my facial hair every other week - which made me look even uglier. Probably why I never had a chance with that beautiful Puerto Rican mamacita. But you are not that person. Since I was in Chicago when I was alone and you may be somewhere else but the theme is similar. Go to a museum, and if you are in Chicago - their Art Institute of Chicago (voted No. 1 Museum of the world). How about watching a Broadway play in Goodman Theater or a performing art in Harris Theater – a weekend changing experience, if not life. I enjoyed public libraries too. Although the place reeks of homeless BOs and second hand cigarettes, going to a public library all alone and actually reading a book is an act of lonesome gallantry that I hope you will try some day. Also, once I was approached with a small chit chat by an old gentleman at Millennium park, when I had requested a picture of I and my friend, which ended up on a longer conversation and eventually ended up adding him on my Ello! It started with talking about niceties of being a picture-taking Samaritan. He was a retired math teacher at Schaumberg High. Even though it ended up sourly when he wanted a picture of my humus, the point I put here is that there is always a chance. An off chance that a nice fifty-five year old poor black widower from Nincompoop Street will blow your dong. I chose ‘black’ as derogatory because I have struggled with my white skin standards of beauty, something I blame the media but that I am too afraid to soul search (link). Well my friend I applaud your approach in attempting to find friends here in Sajha – which we are (or we could be a troll). But Sajha is just an online forum. You have to go out and seek the world. There is no other way. Also, please try the ‘Escorts’ section in your local back page and spooge your love meat in a loose douche. I mean to say please pay for an intercourse - if you are getting none.