sojodude,
You portrayed my story from your pen. I have been in software development since last 13 years. My journey path is the same one you took. I have in many ups and downs in those 13 years. Bad days, layoff, promotions, raise, job changes are the events of my professional life. As you expressed in your story, I am having the same feeling without any new direction in my life. I am always shocked into coding and designing applications.
What else do I have? I am empty other than these coding skills. I even registered my own IT Company without the ability of establishing proper business relationship with the other business entities. My ambition of being entrepreneur has just stayed in my dream. I was never able to succeed with this goal. This resulted in shutting down my registered company.
Then I decided to go back to the square one which is still the source of bread and butter (i.e. coding and database).
What can I do? What else is there for me?
By the way, I am a naturalized US citizen with Secret Clearance. I even had chance to work in Pentagon. What does it give? Nothing, but just a "Hati to dekhaune daat".
So, I am just doing the same old stuff and trying to learn new technologies despite the fact that I need to be in the market to feed my family. I intend to be a happy person, whatever the actual facts are.
I hope your story is much better than mine.