Posted by: Gham-Pani November 6, 2014
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I agree with Hydrogen Sulphide to an extent but have to disagree for calling people living back home stupid. I have been living away from Nepal for about 17 years now and I come back to Nepal almost every year. I did mention in my other posts that the cultural aspect of nepalese society has degraded. And Hydrogen Sulphide mentioned a good point about the individual value. I have to admin that I too have sensed a disregard to anyone in Nepal. The only thing that seems to have value in Nepal these days is money. Historical buildings, cultural heritage, human value, respect, some aspects of traditions are all losing their value.
But you cannot blame solely nepalese living in Nepal for not wanting to change because you brought a new idea. My mom loves to shop her groceries in small shops and hates the idea of departmental store. I completely agree with her. Some people like the human touch, like bargaining, like talking to shop keepers, like finding out where their products come from and hate giving all the power to one giant capitalistic corporation.
But the biggest blame for not bringing changes quickly in Nepal is on the nepalese who have travelled and lived outside, that is us. We got to see different culture, different way of life but when we go back home, we act like we have never left the country. We say "yes" to everything our elders say without every daring to contradict them. We buy in the cultural obligation to have to keep some sort of relationship with people we have nothing in common with or people we simply hate (we all have some in our families). We let ourselves get carried on with the comfort of our parents buying and doing every thing for us when we are in Nepal. We do not mind passing people in the line if we know the person who is taking care of the people in the line. We do not mind living with our parents with our spouse and kids in the same house, very often on the same floor even if we are wealthy enough to have a separate house. I have seen married brothers living together on the same floor while they had two or three of their houses being rented out.
The point is, if you want to see Nepal change, change yourself. When you go there, don't act like you used to when you were living in Nepal. People in Nepal won't change quickly and not always for good.
But you cannot blame solely nepalese living in Nepal for not wanting to change because you brought a new idea. My mom loves to shop her groceries in small shops and hates the idea of departmental store. I completely agree with her. Some people like the human touch, like bargaining, like talking to shop keepers, like finding out where their products come from and hate giving all the power to one giant capitalistic corporation.
But the biggest blame for not bringing changes quickly in Nepal is on the nepalese who have travelled and lived outside, that is us. We got to see different culture, different way of life but when we go back home, we act like we have never left the country. We say "yes" to everything our elders say without every daring to contradict them. We buy in the cultural obligation to have to keep some sort of relationship with people we have nothing in common with or people we simply hate (we all have some in our families). We let ourselves get carried on with the comfort of our parents buying and doing every thing for us when we are in Nepal. We do not mind passing people in the line if we know the person who is taking care of the people in the line. We do not mind living with our parents with our spouse and kids in the same house, very often on the same floor even if we are wealthy enough to have a separate house. I have seen married brothers living together on the same floor while they had two or three of their houses being rented out.
The point is, if you want to see Nepal change, change yourself. When you go there, don't act like you used to when you were living in Nepal. People in Nepal won't change quickly and not always for good.