What's up with all the judgmental tone here? You don't know this person, you don't know what her background is, and what her life experiences are, and so you have no basis or authority to judge her. She is in a foreign land and could benefit from a little guidance from her fellow 'sajha-baasi's. And no, she does not need your finger-wagging. If you can be of help, please step up, if not, just keep moving. Is it really that hard to comprehend?