i like vasudev's "loser alert"...seriously what are you doing here if you are over 35, have no legal status and the respectable income. If you have a good inheritence go back home and be a loser at your own home than becoming a loser in foreign land. If you do not have a good inheritence then you do not have a choice but to remain the loser here.

The "american way of life" is not relevant here. Very few US citizens or even the residents will be asking whether to go back or not questions.