The situation given above is rare althought it seems like we hear it very often. The situation above happens to people who do not have any relatives or good friends who are already here in the states to guide them through the initial phase. I really do not see what a 45 years old middle age people can learn or teach themselves here. They are bound to become a DESHI slave.

I do not understand why these DV holders come to US all at once. How about the husband comes first and figures out the country settles himself and then after 3 - 6 months he calls his wife and his "lala balas". If he is alone, he is able to travel to where ever the work and and can sleep in a car or a couch if needed. If he comes with a family including little children then there is a need of an apartment immidiately. The apartment then asks for a car, which leads to driving liscence then the mountain of learning english to pass the written exam. Instead, the men need to come alone first and then call their family once settled.

Here in TX, most DV holders come and get job via some temp agencies working for Verizon or ATnT. There is a run down furnished apartment nearby and there are lots of other Nepali who communite to the same work place ( heard more than 1000 nepali work in that warehouse) whom you can pay for the ride until you save up for your own car and liscence. In 3 - 6 months they have some cash, they learn how to say "whats up" and even buy their own car. After that they move out of that place saying too many Nepali living there.

I know a story of one DV winner who was pretty well off back in Nepal but not educated. They tried working at some warehouse then quit becasue of the pay. They are living in an apt, eating out in a resturant, and roam around with the money brought from Nepal. They manage their expenses by bringing money from Nepal each month. They would not go back to Nepal because they are afraid of being called " US ma nasakera bhagera aayo" . This country is indeed one crazy place.