Posted by: sajha onion April 6, 2012
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When I hear any discussion on dual citizenship, it reminds me of my friend Kalpana.
Kalpana is from a well to do family in Kathmandu. She is educated and modern. While she's working, she meets Subash, who has come back to Nepal for a year long intership in Nepal from the US. Subash was born in the US. Subash is taken by Kalpana's charm and keeps coming back to her workplace and after coming back almost everyday for 2 weeks, ask her out for some coffee.
Kalpana is also attracted to Subash and they start seeing each other regularly. Subash will be done with his Masters when he goes back to the US so he figures he will come back after six months to get married to Kalpana.
Kalpana knew that her parents were strict about caste, but she didn't know how strict her father was till one day Subash came to drop her off to her house in his motorbike. Her father asked her who he was and she told him about their relationship. Subash was of different caste than Kalpana and her father was adamant that she end her relationship right away.
It was overwhelming for Kalpana since her father told her that she will cease to exist for him if she married Subash. Subash went back to the US in few months promising to come back after 6 months to get married and then both of them would go back to the US.
During the 6 months they talked online everyday and more and more Kalpana decided that he was the one for her. If her father could not accept her love then she was not going to be victimized by her father's caste discrimination.
After 6 months, Subash came back to get married and Kalpana left her house to get married to Subash and had a grand marriage ceremony at Subash's place. None of her family were present. They did not accept this marriage.
After spending few days, they left for the US. Kalpana tried calling her house but as soon as they heard her they would hang up the phone.
It's been 2 years since they got married and to this day, Kalpana's family have disowned her and refuse to talk to her.
OK. Now the part which reminds me of dual citizenship. Just because she got married to someone her family didn't agree with does not mean she has to be forced to give up her relationship with her parents the same way someone shouldn't have to give up their Nepali citizenship if they become a citizen of another country, unless like Kalpana's father they are too ignorant and too proud of themselves to accept their children no matter who they get married to or where they get citizenship of.
Kalpana is from a well to do family in Kathmandu. She is educated and modern. While she's working, she meets Subash, who has come back to Nepal for a year long intership in Nepal from the US. Subash was born in the US. Subash is taken by Kalpana's charm and keeps coming back to her workplace and after coming back almost everyday for 2 weeks, ask her out for some coffee.
Kalpana is also attracted to Subash and they start seeing each other regularly. Subash will be done with his Masters when he goes back to the US so he figures he will come back after six months to get married to Kalpana.
Kalpana knew that her parents were strict about caste, but she didn't know how strict her father was till one day Subash came to drop her off to her house in his motorbike. Her father asked her who he was and she told him about their relationship. Subash was of different caste than Kalpana and her father was adamant that she end her relationship right away.
It was overwhelming for Kalpana since her father told her that she will cease to exist for him if she married Subash. Subash went back to the US in few months promising to come back after 6 months to get married and then both of them would go back to the US.
During the 6 months they talked online everyday and more and more Kalpana decided that he was the one for her. If her father could not accept her love then she was not going to be victimized by her father's caste discrimination.
After 6 months, Subash came back to get married and Kalpana left her house to get married to Subash and had a grand marriage ceremony at Subash's place. None of her family were present. They did not accept this marriage.
After spending few days, they left for the US. Kalpana tried calling her house but as soon as they heard her they would hang up the phone.
It's been 2 years since they got married and to this day, Kalpana's family have disowned her and refuse to talk to her.
OK. Now the part which reminds me of dual citizenship. Just because she got married to someone her family didn't agree with does not mean she has to be forced to give up her relationship with her parents the same way someone shouldn't have to give up their Nepali citizenship if they become a citizen of another country, unless like Kalpana's father they are too ignorant and too proud of themselves to accept their children no matter who they get married to or where they get citizenship of.