I am sure there are many people who come to the US and had to go through similar situations. I had similar issue when I came to US. I was not married but my bf was in Nepal. We tried for visa and everything but he was not able to do it. After 5 years in the US, I felt like it was time to move on because our youth does not last for ever. Since you are married it's a bit different but like I said, your youth is not going to last for ever and maybe you have to think very hard to make your own decision. I feel for you. Good luck.