I'm just wondering out aloud. 

I have a friend who keeps telling me bahun this bahun that be careful of them, yet my best friend is a bahun and i have had two bahuni exes who (at that time) were really fun to hang out with. 

They had great personalities that i loved and enjoyed being with and none of the stereotypical "bahun-ness" associated with them! Whereas at the same time I've met Newars/Tibetans/Ranas/[insert caste here] who are shrewd as shrewd can be. You can actually see the throbbing vein in their temple as they plan their next move. Not that thinking is a bad thing to do. Its a great thing to do. Everyone should think. But the difference is the thought that is filled with negativity towards another person, you can almost feel it. Same way that you can feel someone's warmth and truthfulness.

So I feel that this is a very mis-represented stereotype. By putting everyone of a particular caste into this stereotype, we are actually creating more mistrust between ourselves. 

Is there something that you would like to change about the way we think or act?

I'm curious.