@Khairey,
You are quite knowledgeable and mature, so I am looking forward to receiving your wisdom.

Do your parents engage in an active campaign to end your relationship with all of your relatives? Are your parents envious of your relationship with your relatives to the point that they will stop and no end to end your relationship with them and friends of the family?

Are your relatives afraid to have a relationship with you...just because they are afraid of the wrath of your parents? My parents have the message clear to any one who has a relationship and gives moral support or affction to their children, that if anyone were to do this, they go on my parent's 'death list.' And then my parents start a negative campaign against these people. They bad mouth these people where ever they go saying anything and everything about them.

So most people don't need this kind of negativity in their life. And to just avoid this kind of negativity, they avoid having a relationship with us, the children of our parents.

If you want to understand how my parents do it, you have to watch this movie: American History X.

There is one particular scene where Edward Norton's mother has a crush on this guy that she invites to dinner. And Edward Norton basically humiliates this guy just so he will not have a relationship with his mother. This is what my parents do to anyone I have a close relationship with. My parents make it their personal agenda to humiliate and put this person down untill they make it very expensive for this person to have a relationship with me. What is the solution to this kind of behavior? Do all Nepali parents act like this?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eFbUIei5s1Q&feature=related