Posted by: cublas December 4, 2011
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georgian_satellite,
Evangelical church site MIGHT be biased (may be a tiny bit)
. First instance the gay bowel syndrome is an outdated term. It was used in 1970s when the term for AIDS was not coined. Similarly, a lot of times people associated AIDS with being a gay person disease during 1980s. But look at the things now, AIDS is as rampant among homosexuals as well as heterosexuals (I hope you won't start the argument that homosexuals introduced AIDS into the heterosexual community to obliterate it 
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About me bringing shame to the society and thus failing to tell my parents, thats a wrong way to look at how I put things. I am not sure about telling my parents because my parents did not even attend schools. They think being gay is being a cross-dresser or transvestite (which I am not). I am not sure if they will be able to grasp the concept of what being gay means. I am sure if I have a personal conversation with them, things will be fine. I am taking one step at a time. Right now I am going to tell it to my siblings. Gradually, I will bring my parents into the loop too. And 'NO', I do not think me being gay is wrong. If you choose to ignore the biological facts and say homosexuality is a choice then I have a question for you: would you choose to strip yourself of clothes in a room full of people? Because doing so would make people point fingers at you, laugh at you, call you mentally sick, etc. Similarly, being gay in the society puts you in the pedestal. No one chooses to be constantly scrutinzed. No one wants to choose a life where they are looked down upon and discriminated. If homosexuality were a choice, I would choose to have a normal life
About the girl I am breaking up with, I think I am helping her in this case. What if go ahead with the relationship and always have desire to be with men. How fair is it to her? What if 10 years down the road, I have kids with her then I feel like I do not want any part of it. Then how fair is it to her and the kids? If I am honest with her and tell her about it, she can go on to find a even greater guy. I think this also addresses your confusion about why some people get married and then get out of it. Its because they are so much pressured by the society to follow the norm and get married to a girl, they give into the pressure. But with time, one matures and this gives them the courage to fight back with the society for their personal happiness. I do not know if it is at all convincing to you, but for me I know this is what happens.
PS: thanks terrypandi and no_quiero for addressing a lot of things I wanted to address.
Evangelical church site MIGHT be biased (may be a tiny bit)
. First instance the gay bowel syndrome is an outdated term. It was used in 1970s when the term for AIDS was not coined. Similarly, a lot of times people associated AIDS with being a gay person disease during 1980s. But look at the things now, AIDS is as rampant among homosexuals as well as heterosexuals (I hope you won't start the argument that homosexuals introduced AIDS into the heterosexual community to obliterate it ).About me bringing shame to the society and thus failing to tell my parents, thats a wrong way to look at how I put things. I am not sure about telling my parents because my parents did not even attend schools. They think being gay is being a cross-dresser or transvestite (which I am not). I am not sure if they will be able to grasp the concept of what being gay means. I am sure if I have a personal conversation with them, things will be fine. I am taking one step at a time. Right now I am going to tell it to my siblings. Gradually, I will bring my parents into the loop too. And 'NO', I do not think me being gay is wrong. If you choose to ignore the biological facts and say homosexuality is a choice then I have a question for you: would you choose to strip yourself of clothes in a room full of people? Because doing so would make people point fingers at you, laugh at you, call you mentally sick, etc. Similarly, being gay in the society puts you in the pedestal. No one chooses to be constantly scrutinzed. No one wants to choose a life where they are looked down upon and discriminated. If homosexuality were a choice, I would choose to have a normal life
About the girl I am breaking up with, I think I am helping her in this case. What if go ahead with the relationship and always have desire to be with men. How fair is it to her? What if 10 years down the road, I have kids with her then I feel like I do not want any part of it. Then how fair is it to her and the kids? If I am honest with her and tell her about it, she can go on to find a even greater guy. I think this also addresses your confusion about why some people get married and then get out of it. Its because they are so much pressured by the society to follow the norm and get married to a girl, they give into the pressure. But with time, one matures and this gives them the courage to fight back with the society for their personal happiness. I do not know if it is at all convincing to you, but for me I know this is what happens.
PS: thanks terrypandi and no_quiero for addressing a lot of things I wanted to address.