There are people who come to Nepal. They climb the steep hills and breathe in the fresh mountain air. And they think that they love Nepal.

No, you don't love Nepal. You don't even know Nepal enough to love Nepal. So don't tell me that you love Nepal.

Bitter Truth, people like you insult the words 'love' and 'Nepal' by putting it in the same sentence saying that you love Nepal. It's not that you shouldn't utter these words. Do so, by all means. Just know that you will never love Nepal as much as I do.

Us Nepalesee feel violated when tourists came to only enjoy but are not doing their part to invest and preserve what we have held sacred for centuries. People visiting Nepal can’t just assume that Nepal belongs to them just because they can pay for it financially. You cannot afford the Nepali hospitality, my friend. We give it to you despite you being able to afford it, because my Nepali heart is so big. Never forget that. You cannot demand Nepalese bow down to you just because you swiped your plastic off the of the ass-crack of the credit-card machine. No, I don't care how much you pronounce love for Nepal, you don't have equal rights to it as much as Nepali natives do--as I do.

Many come as conservationists to further their own careers. You want to preach your sermons and tell me how I should love my Nepal. You may know all that about environmental science, but don't assume that you love Nepal as much as I do. Don't go there, my friend. You don't want to go there.

Generations of my ancestors died in Nepal. The Nepali spirit was a part of their blood. It was a part of their spirit. It was who they were. How could you, who has just come in your air-conditioned jet-liner on your two week vacation understand how they felt? How my people feel. How I feel? How dare you assume that you love Nepal the way I do? How dare you insult what I feel for my Nepal by daring to assume that you feel the same as I do about my Nepal?

Please don't.

Here is what you may do:

Come. Respect. Even enjoy Nepal. Respectfully. Be willing to invest back in at least what you took out. You are welcome to. Don't disturb the peace and leave this sacred space as you have found it, in the minimum. Invest in sustainable development of this sacred land and the spirit that makes it Nepal. That spirit goes a lot deeper than you will see with the most expensive polarised glasses.

But never assume that you are one of us. You will never be.
Don't be foolish enough to imagine and assume that the spirit of my ancestors will haunt you as they haunt me. Do you remain awake, troubled at night because of feeling their ache and pain of what Nepal has become? Do you feel the guilt churning in your blood stream? Do you feel the responsibility grip you in your bones?
If you don't feel all those things, my friend, don't assume that you feel for Nepal as I do.

So come and visit this beautiful land. Come to Nepal, my friend. You are welcome to. Welcome to come and enjoy and be tourists. Come experience all that is sacred, spiritual, beautiful and wonderful about Nepal. Heal your hearts and go home to where ever you came from. Take Nepal and the Nepali hospitality back in your hearts. Us Nepalese over-flow with this hospitality. We have so much that we give it away with a smile on our face. Such is our culture. Such is the heart of our people.
But you will never be one of us untill your family and your ancestors give many many lifetimes of their labor and love and blood to this sacred land called Nepal. Know that! Never forget that. It is not that cheap to call yourself a true Nepali--one that loves this land and it's people and the culture with his heart and soul.