Nilasha ji,

Namaskar.
We explored a lot of the things you are talking about in this thread: 'The role of moms and wives in Nepali society':
http://sajha.com/sajha/html/index.cfm?threadid=93850

Also, have you seen this movie called 'Tree of Life' that came out this year? Sean Penn and Brad Pitt act in it. The film won the highest award at the Cainnes festival. I highly recommend you watch it. I would love to talk to you about it since it explores the topic that you have brought up.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Tree_of_Life_(film)