Posted by: dumbfounded November 1, 2011
Survey - Married folks!
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 1. How old were you and your significant other when you got married? 
Not Married 

2. How long have you been married for? 
N/A

3. What do you think is the right age for a man/woman to get married? 
man: 26-29..woman:23-26

4. Where did you go for your honeymoon?
Speaking for myself Paris.. 

5. Should one consider each others religion, caste, socioeconomic status etc. prior to getting married? 
Arranged yes.. love i guess not!!! 

6. Is marriage really a 'job' that you accepted, full of promises, hope and excitement at first but a dreadful, boring regimen in the long run? 
If one starts to take it as a job then it's defn goin to be boring...

7. What are the pros and cons of getting married? (from your experience) 
I'm yet to explore..

Woman's Perspective:::(just a try)
 not married but I can surely talk about my perspective.. Arranged marriages...well not being in a relation and being in a certain age can be quite pressurizing.. talking to somebody arranged is equally awkward.. Well when both the families are involved obviously you try to maintain the standards as in cultural traditional way.. who wants their family to have a bad name.. and moreover people can be judgemental and u knw how things spread like wild fires in nepal..being a woman you have to think alot about tht.. so here comes the problem about clicking.. how can u click when both the parties are not real( doesn't mean u r faking but i guess u knw what i mean)..For arranged marriages the criteria's are set..old schooled i.e.well the whole idea is boring..

  Somebody once had given my number to a guy and he had called...(well the convo is quite predicatble too) I am pretty sure you some of you guys have gone thru it.Here it goes: (PS: not making fun out of it.. just my feelings)

Man: Hello this is bla bla speaking..
Me: hi. how are you?
Man: thikai cha..timro k cha? ani all those questions...whr  r u? whats ur major? what is ur plan..bla bla bla..
................................................................. formal one's..
Man:So do u drink? 
Me: yea once in a blue moon.. kahile kahile.. (:P).. what abt u?
Man: yeaa same thing..
Me: do you smoke?
Man: not really.. occasionally.. timi?
me: no...
(awkward situation)
me: actually i have a class at 5..i gtg..nice talking to you..
   
               Typical right??? and from then I have been avoiding this thing.. Clicking is very important but I dont think you get that option in arranged marriages.. until and unless someone breaks the ice... well the qualties that I seek in a man is different from what my parents seek (obvious).. I want some one who is direct and speak up his mind... someone who stands by his princlples... responsible ,mature and caring.. I don't care if he does pot or anything.... if he does it in limit then its fine.. but he should have guts to say tht to me atleast.. someone honest enuff with whom I can be myself and thts it.. the day tht happens I will plan my happily ever after!! 





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