Homeyji and Saani,

You know what your problem is? You guys are idealists. The problem with people like you is that you want the ideal of the world so badly that you are not ready to compromise when it contradicts reality. You need perfection in your life a lot more than you need ground reality based on facts.

Before your parents gave birth to you, they never agreed for you to be independent. When did you start declaring this as a right that you as a child should absolutely have?
It is you who have that need to be independent. Not them. Maybe they don't want you to be independent of them. Why blame them for a need not being fulfilled that you have? Do you feel that they should want you to be independent? Why? Because they love you? And why is being independent of them necessarily a more loving act than you being dependant on them?

Your parents never agreed to be godly or saintly or loving or worthy of your respect. You have a need for them to be that way. They never agreed to be the kind of person that you wanted to be loyal to. It was you who needed to see them that way. It was you who blamed them because they did not meet your ideal.

People like you need your ideal so badly that you don't care if the facts don't match reality. You blame the world. You blame your parents. You blame everyone because they don't match your ideals.

When will you gain the humility to see that maybe the problem is not with all those things. Maybe the problem is within you. What is it in you that makes you need these very high ideals that the world, your parents and everyone else needs to meet? Why are you stressing everyone else out for your own unfulfilled needs?

It is you who wanted to be convinced that the world was a loving place. It's not. The world is what it is. It is you who wanted to live the ideal ignoring the fact of the true nature of the world. It was your need for fantasy that did not get fulfilled. That is why you're dissappointed. The world never promised to be good. It never promised to be fair. It never promised to love and be worthy of love. You needed to believe all that in order for your life to be worthy of living. You needed to believe that. Don't blame the world for that.